Addicted to sex with my ex....how do I stop?

Lola55 · 11-24-2006, 12:24 PM

I have been sleeping with my ex boyfriend for almost 3 months now and I can't stop. I know it is wrong, I know I should tell him to take a hike but it feels so good to do it that I give in. Not only do I give in, I seek it out. I want it and I think about it all the time. How do I stop? How can you stop doing something that makes you feel so good? I know in my head its wrong, I just can't tell my body to listen to me.

gotSPL · 11-24-2006, 12:33 PM

in that case, dont think its wrong. think about the positive things that it brings you guys.

krnswte143 · 11-24-2006, 12:39 PM

u guys are using each other for good pleasure.. i think its wrong. u guys have sex.. n one of u get attach..and then one of u leave n find someone else...horrible feeling...i been through it once and i never do that again..... if u guys r planning on gettin back then continue doin it...but if not.........i would say stop n move on. find someone u could love and with him n share that moment toghther........thats how i see it.

flower99 · 11-24-2006, 12:43 PM

Is the sex truly that amazing that you couldn't replace it?
or do you think possibly...you do it to stay attached to him? you're not quite ready to let go of him? maybe afraid to???

listen to your head - it knows before your heart does....
Your head controls your body

**annie24** · 11-24-2006, 01:08 PM

go read the book, "It's called a breakup because it's broken." good book. And as greg b. (author of the book would say), "Girl, put down that penis and go straight to your best friend's house!"

BeStrongBeHappy · 11-24-2006, 01:31 PM

would you still continue this if you discover he is dating another woman? or worse, gets a girlfriend, but still calls you now and then for sex to get a little variety?

i think it is hard to dissociate after a breakup, and sometimes couples continue becuase it is convenient to one or both of them, but usually one person is less attached, and the arrangement falls apart when a 3rd person starts dating one of them...

and by doing this, you are NOT looking for someone who will fill all your needs, just not your sexual one.

and do you hope you might get back together? in which case you are 'pretending' this means you are a couple, when it is just sex.

Honey Pumpkin · 11-24-2006, 02:04 PM

Well, you could try what always stops me having sex - don't shave your legs, don't erm groom anywhere else, wear underwear that comes up to your armpits, basically make it so that you cannot get nekkid with him!

Seriously, I don't think many people can deal with sex with the ex long-term. It just stops you moving on, you're neither with him nor not with him. Buy a rabbit vibrator, DIY for a month, and just don't let him back into you bed.

Good luck!

quietgrl · 11-24-2006, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Honey Pumpkin

Well, you could try what always stops me having sex - don't shave your legs, don't erm groom anywhere else, wear underwear that comes up to your armpits, basically make it so that you cannot get nekkid with him!

Seriously, I don't think many people can deal with sex with the ex long-term. It just stops you moving on, you're neither with him nor not with him. Buy a rabbit vibrator, DIY for a month, and just don't let him back into you bed.

Good luck!

This is the best advices that i've heard so far. My stomach is hurting from laughing .

flower99 · 11-24-2006, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Honey Pumpkin

Well, you could try what always stops me having sex - don't shave your legs, don't erm groom anywhere else, wear underwear that comes up to your armpits, basically make it so that you cannot get nekkid with him!

Seriously, I don't think many people can deal with sex with the ex long-term. It just stops you moving on, you're neither with him nor not with him. Buy a rabbit vibrator, DIY for a month, and just don't let him back into you bed.

Good luck!

yeah that totally works.... good advice (:

DN · 11-24-2006, 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by krnswte143

u guys are using each other for good pleasure.. i think its wrong. u guys have sex.. n one of u get attach..and then one of u leave n find someone else...horrible feeling...i been through it once and i never do that again..... if u guys r planning on gettin back then continue doin it...but if not.........i would say stop n move on. find someone u could love and with him n share that moment toghther........thats how i see it.

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11-24-2006, 12:24 PM	#1
Lola55 Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Age: 26 Posts: 103	Addicted to sex with my ex....how do I stop? I have been sleeping with my ex boyfriend for almost 3 months now and I can't stop. I know it is wrong, I know I should tell him to take a hike but it feels so good to do it that I give in. Not only do I give in, I seek it out. I want it and I think about it all the time. How do I stop? How can you stop doing something that makes you feel so good? I know in my head its wrong, I just can't tell my body to listen to me.

11-24-2006, 12:39 PM	#3
krnswte143 Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 268	u guys are using each other for good pleasure.. i think its wrong. u guys have sex.. n one of u get attach..and then one of u leave n find someone else...horrible feeling...i been through it once and i never do that again..... if u guys r planning on gettin back then continue doin it...but if not.........i would say stop n move on. find someone u could love and with him n share that moment toghther........thats how i see it. __________________ ♥ јαηειια ♥

11-24-2006, 12:43 PM	#4
flower99 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 1,950	Is the sex truly that amazing that you couldn't replace it? or do you think possibly...you do it to stay attached to him? you're not quite ready to let go of him? maybe afraid to??? listen to your head - it knows before your heart does.... Your head controls your body __________________ ~Love is not gazing into each other's eyes; it is looking together in the same direction.~ ~ There are a lot of changes in life, how we react to them that matters, it's what makes us who we are. ~ Last edited by flower99; 11-24-2006 at 12:45 PM.

11-24-2006, 02:04 PM	#7
Honey Pumpkin Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 2,396	Well, you could try what always stops me having sex - don't shave your legs, don't erm groom anywhere else, wear underwear that comes up to your armpits, basically make it so that you cannot get nekkid with him! Seriously, I don't think many people can deal with sex with the ex long-term. It just stops you moving on, you're neither with him nor not with him. Buy a rabbit vibrator, DIY for a month, and just don't let him back into you bed. Good luck! __________________ “Begin doing what you want to do now. We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand - and melting like a snowflake…” (Francis Bacon, 1561 – 1626)

11-24-2006, 12:33 PM	#2
gotSPL Offline Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Rancho Cordova Gender: None Specified Age: 36 Posts: 83	in that case, dont think its wrong. think about the positive things that it brings you guys.

11-24-2006, 01:08 PM	#5
annie24 Online Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,833	go read the book, "It's called a breakup because it's broken." good book. And as greg b. (author of the book would say), "Girl, put down that penis and go straight to your best friend's house!"

11-24-2006, 01:31 PM	#6
BeStrongBeHappy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 7,415	would you still continue this if you discover he is dating another woman? or worse, gets a girlfriend, but still calls you now and then for sex to get a little variety? i think it is hard to dissociate after a breakup, and sometimes couples continue becuase it is convenient to one or both of them, but usually one person is less attached, and the arrangement falls apart when a 3rd person starts dating one of them... and by doing this, you are NOT looking for someone who will fill all your needs, just not your sexual one. and do you hope you might get back together? in which case you are 'pretending' this means you are a couple, when it is just sex.