Spanking a children as discipline isn't considered abuse!

blush · 11-18-2006, 08:23 AM

I'm working towards my Sociology degree and i'm doing a term paper on Wheather "Spanking a children as discipline isn't considered abuse" it was a topic giv'in to me so I have to write on it ( no matter if I agree or not with it )

Just wanna get a gereral idea of what you all think!
How do you feel about spanking?
Some people say that spanking is child abuse.
Other people say that spanking is necessary.

And Yes there are the people that also do take it a step more and it is considered abuse to a child!

Blush

robowarrior · 11-18-2006, 09:08 AM

I think its better to copy the results of reliable studies already maby on this topic.

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Iceman26 · 11-18-2006, 09:09 AM

I got spanked as a child. I also didn't get spanked unless I did something wrong. After I was spanked, I made darn sure I didn't spanked for the same thing twice.

blush · 11-18-2006, 09:47 AM

and its not considered abuse right?

Just a form of discipline!

itsallgrand · 11-18-2006, 10:03 AM

I think spanking doesn't necessarily always equal abuse. That's not to say that it is necessary.

Iceman made a good point.

You can build a solid arguement for spanking, and against. I tend towards the middle path. Which is to say, I think there are certain circumstances where a non-abusive spank can be useful.

There are so many factors to consider. The overall relationship of the child and parent. The circumstances. Whether the spanking is used strictly for teaching the child important messages (an example I think of is a child who continually puts himself at risk even after other methods have been tried - going to touch something that will burn him for example, or wandering into a busy street, just as suggested scenarios).

Obviously, this is a touchy issue.

Just for the record, yes, I was spanked..and hit..and lashed..as a kid, and it was abusive.
Children should never be hit out of anger, reaction, ignorance, for 'punishment' IMO.
The only time I can see spanking being useful is in matters of pure physical safety. That's just me.

And yet, it still drives me crazy to see knee-jerk manipulative crying-wolf reactors who yell "Child Abuse" at the first sight or mention of spanking.

It is NOT clear cut, it is situation by situation I believe.

Daligal83 · 11-18-2006, 10:09 AM

The answer would depend on the state and county you are in. Each state has different definitions of abuse. Usually it's something like if you can see a bruise, then it's abuse. Mild spanking usually isn't considered abuse, but if you start whipping the kid's tush with a belt it's a different story.

In my personal opinion, I don't like spanking. I was never spanked as a kid and I never got in trouble. I was definitely the "good kid" growing up. Many people tell me that they were spanked and find nothing wrong with it, but I just can't support the message it sends. To me, it sends the message that it's ok to solve problems in a way that has a physical and potentially violent undertone. I'd rather use positive reinforcements and take away priviledges. I don't put down people who do spank their kids (as long as it's not excessive), but my kids will not be spanked.

Meow18 · 11-18-2006, 11:34 AM

I was spanked as a child. I grew up fine. Of course, an hour after I was spanked, my dad would come and talk to me about it after we all settled down.

But I still think there are better ways to discipline a child. I think that a child needs to know why they are being disciplined. So, just picking a child up and spanking them and then leaving it at that will never help them learn anything.

Physical punishment can send mixed signals to a child I think. Because even though they did wrong, they are learning from their parents that getting physical can be ok if it's to punish someone else- when in reality, it's NEVER ok to hit another person.

agent · 11-18-2006, 11:51 AM

I was spanked. I was also put on the stairs and told I was being sent to the childrens home.

I know which one did me the least damage.

darkblue · 11-18-2006, 12:14 PM

The legalities of it, in the UK at least, are that it is legal so long as it does not leave marking or visable bruising.

musicguy · 11-18-2006, 12:40 PM

I was spanked as a kid too. I'm fine. I don't think that spanking your child is abuse. I mean there are otherr forms of discipline, it's all the parent or guardian's choice on what form of discipline they should use..BUT punching or kicking a child is obviously not a form of discipline. Anywho, in my opinion spanking is not abuse.

11-18-2006, 08:23 AM	#1
blush Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Prince Edward Island Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 66	Spanking a children as discipline isn't considered abuse! I'm working towards my Sociology degree and i'm doing a term paper on Wheather "Spanking a children as discipline isn't considered abuse" it was a topic giv'in to me so I have to write on it ( no matter if I agree or not with it ) Just wanna get a gereral idea of what you all think! How do you feel about spanking? Some people say that spanking is child abuse. Other people say that spanking is necessary. And Yes there are the people that also do take it a step more and it is considered abuse to a child! Blush __________________ Remember When.................. Water balloons were the ultimate weapon & Baseball cards in the spokes transformed any bike, Into a motorcycle. Last edited by blush; 11-18-2006 at 08:37 AM.

11-18-2006, 09:09 AM	#3
Iceman26 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Houston Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 2,904	I got spanked as a child. I also didn't get spanked unless I did something wrong. After I was spanked, I made darn sure I didn't spanked for the same thing twice. __________________ "Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently." "Pride only hurts. It never helps."

11-18-2006, 09:47 AM	#4
blush Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Prince Edward Island Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 66	and its not considered abuse right? Just a form of discipline! __________________ Remember When.................. Water balloons were the ultimate weapon & Baseball cards in the spokes transformed any bike, Into a motorcycle.

11-18-2006, 10:09 AM	#6
Daligal83 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 3,031	The answer would depend on the state and county you are in. Each state has different definitions of abuse. Usually it's something like if you can see a bruise, then it's abuse. Mild spanking usually isn't considered abuse, but if you start whipping the kid's tush with a belt it's a different story. In my personal opinion, I don't like spanking. I was never spanked as a kid and I never got in trouble. I was definitely the "good kid" growing up. Many people tell me that they were spanked and find nothing wrong with it, but I just can't support the message it sends. To me, it sends the message that it's ok to solve problems in a way that has a physical and potentially violent undertone. I'd rather use positive reinforcements and take away priviledges. I don't put down people who do spank their kids (as long as it's not excessive), but my kids will not be spanked. __________________ Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it. ~Salvador Dali~ "If you can't trust, then you can't be trusted" -Ben Folds

11-18-2006, 11:34 AM	#7
Meow18 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: IL Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 2,884	I was spanked as a child. I grew up fine. Of course, an hour after I was spanked, my dad would come and talk to me about it after we all settled down. But I still think there are better ways to discipline a child. I think that a child needs to know why they are being disciplined. So, just picking a child up and spanking them and then leaving it at that will never help them learn anything. Physical punishment can send mixed signals to a child I think. Because even though they did wrong, they are learning from their parents that getting physical can be ok if it's to punish someone else- when in reality, it's NEVER ok to hit another person. __________________ Committing your love to someone means losing the chance to experience another person's love. So just be sure the person you are committed to deserves your love or else it’s not worth the sacrifice. Forget who hurt you yesterday, but don't forget who loves you today.

11-18-2006, 09:08 AM	#2
robowarrior Offline Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: There where a man is happy. Posts: 1,964	I think its better to copy the results of reliable studies already maby on this topic. [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]

11-18-2006, 10:03 AM	#5
itsallgrand Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: following my grace... Gender: None Specified Posts: 6,783	I think spanking doesn't necessarily always equal abuse. That's not to say that it is necessary. Iceman made a good point. You can build a solid arguement for spanking, and against. I tend towards the middle path. Which is to say, I think there are certain circumstances where a non-abusive spank can be useful. There are so many factors to consider. The overall relationship of the child and parent. The circumstances. Whether the spanking is used strictly for teaching the child important messages (an example I think of is a child who continually puts himself at risk even after other methods have been tried - going to touch something that will burn him for example, or wandering into a busy street, just as suggested scenarios). Obviously, this is a touchy issue. Just for the record, yes, I was spanked..and hit..and lashed..as a kid, and it was abusive. Children should never be hit out of anger, reaction, ignorance, for 'punishment' IMO. The only time I can see spanking being useful is in matters of pure physical safety. That's just me. And yet, it still drives me crazy to see knee-jerk manipulative crying-wolf reactors who yell "Child Abuse" at the first sight or mention of spanking. It is NOT clear cut, it is situation by situation I believe.

11-18-2006, 11:51 AM	#8
agent Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 3,891	I was spanked. I was also put on the stairs and told I was being sent to the childrens home. I know which one did me the least damage. __________________ "You have a right to experiment with your life. You will make mistakes. And they are right too." - Anais Nin "Come now, don't make such a funeral face. It isn't dying that's sad; it's living when you're not happy." -Octave Mirbeau "Don't be sad, don't be angry, if life deceives you! Submit to your grief; your time for joy will come, believe me." -Aleksandr Pushkin

11-18-2006, 12:14 PM	#9
darkblue Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Glasgow, Scotland. Gender: Male Posts: 5,085	The legalities of it, in the UK at least, are that it is legal so long as it does not leave marking or visable bruising. __________________ _________________ Aut vincere aut mori. "Whoever loves; becomes humble. Those who love have, so to speak, pawned a part of their narcissism." - Sigmund Freud Man is nothing else but that which he makes of himself. That is the first principle of existentialism - J.P. Sartre

11-18-2006, 12:40 PM	#10
musicguy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tattoo Land Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 3,735	I was spanked as a kid too. I'm fine. I don't think that spanking your child is abuse. I mean there are otherr forms of discipline, it's all the parent or guardian's choice on what form of discipline they should use..BUT punching or kicking a child is obviously not a form of discipline. Anywho, in my opinion spanking is not abuse.