Did I overreact?

REDIRECT43 · 10-23-2006, 08:47 PM

Hey all, have not posted in a while. Well I had been seeing this guy for a month. Everything was going really well. On Saturday night we were supposed to hang out. He called at 9 as I was about to get gas. I giggled about something and I don't even remember giggling, but he says I giggled. Hegot mad and accused me of having another guy in the car. This came out of left field. He accused me of playing games with him and trying to piss him off. Ok? I was just getting gas! So we talked and worked out that little tiff. I thought things were back to being awesome. That is until he made a Myspace page. He made it over the weekend and he sent me a friend request. I accepted and text him joking about it. Then I read what he had wrote on his page. In his "Who You'd Like To Meet" section he put "A smart girl with ambition and respect" and some other things. In his "Here For" section he put "Networking, Dating, and Friends." I was not happy. It felt like a slap in the face, the fact that he knowingly sent me a friend request after putting that in his profile did not sit well. I ended things with him. I told him that was not going to fly. He didn't understand what the big deal was and told me I was crazy and hung up on me. He text me soon after hanging up on me and said "You should realize that I don't respect women. I gave you a change to be my friend." Bla bla bla it really made no sense. Things were going really well, and I can't understand why he would put that in his Myspace page and request me as a friend. I didn't ask him to remove it as some of my friends suggested. I just dumped him. Now I am sort of having second thoughts. What do you all think?

Lanterna Magica · 10-23-2006, 08:53 PM

Forget about him and find someone decent who does respect women, specifically you.

REDIRECT43 · 10-23-2006, 08:55 PM

Well I think he just said that to spite me. He was pretty upset that I had ended things. But then again, if he didn't want things to end he wouldn't have put that on his Myspace, correct?

Survictor · 10-23-2006, 08:56 PM

This is way too much like hard work and he doesn't sound worth that much hard work. Drop him like a ton of hot bricks so you won't get burned.

Daligal83 · 10-23-2006, 09:29 PM

I think he was trying to get a reaction out of you with the MySpace thing, and he did. Just not the reaction he wanted, and now he's upset. He sounds insecure and immature, and not worth your time. It's too early on in the relationship for this kind of reaction from him.

finewhine · 10-23-2006, 09:54 PM

This guy sucks. Pat yourself on the back for getting rid of him.

**caro33** · 10-24-2006, 03:48 AM

"You should realise that I don't respect women". Doesn't matter what he thinks he meant, run for the hills my friend.

He's a real piece of work and under his 'smooth' exterior there sounds like there's a whole bunch of stuff you don't want to get to know.

Banish those second thoughts! You did the right thing, and will only disrespect yourself if you take up with him again.

Momene · 10-24-2006, 06:17 AM

He may have assumed that at one month you weren't "exclusive" but I'd say that was plain wrong.

confused25 · 10-24-2006, 12:12 PM

Um hello! He flat out told you that he "does not respect women". Whether or not he said that out of anger to get back at you, it does not matter. That one incident about him getting mad at you for giggling for no reason just shows how immature he is. And the myspace thing just made it even worse . . .

REDIRECT43 · 10-24-2006, 01:32 PM

LOL thanks everyone for your responses. I was really questioning whether my reaction was justified. We never really had an exclusivity talk, but I didn't think we had to. We hung out everyday, talked on the phone everyday, and we were intimate. I assumed that we were exclusive. I just cannot believe someone would be that dumb to request the girl he's seeing as a friend on Myspace, knowing she would read that. Unless he did it on purpose to see what I would do. He did seem insecure on Sat. when he accused me of giggling and then the next day made the Myspace. I guess it doesn't matter now, but jeez what a moron!

10-23-2006, 08:47 PM	#1
REDIRECT43 Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 183	Did I overreact? Hey all, have not posted in a while. Well I had been seeing this guy for a month. Everything was going really well. On Saturday night we were supposed to hang out. He called at 9 as I was about to get gas. I giggled about something and I don't even remember giggling, but he says I giggled. Hegot mad and accused me of having another guy in the car. This came out of left field. He accused me of playing games with him and trying to piss him off. Ok? I was just getting gas! So we talked and worked out that little tiff. I thought things were back to being awesome. That is until he made a Myspace page. He made it over the weekend and he sent me a friend request. I accepted and text him joking about it. Then I read what he had wrote on his page. In his "Who You'd Like To Meet" section he put "A smart girl with ambition and respect" and some other things. In his "Here For" section he put "Networking, Dating, and Friends." I was not happy. It felt like a slap in the face, the fact that he knowingly sent me a friend request after putting that in his profile did not sit well. I ended things with him. I told him that was not going to fly. He didn't understand what the big deal was and told me I was crazy and hung up on me. He text me soon after hanging up on me and said "You should realize that I don't respect women. I gave you a change to be my friend." Bla bla bla it really made no sense. Things were going really well, and I can't understand why he would put that in his Myspace page and request me as a friend. I didn't ask him to remove it as some of my friends suggested. I just dumped him. Now I am sort of having second thoughts. What do you all think?

10-23-2006, 09:29 PM	#5
Daligal83 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 3,033	I think he was trying to get a reaction out of you with the MySpace thing, and he did. Just not the reaction he wanted, and now he's upset. He sounds insecure and immature, and not worth your time. It's too early on in the relationship for this kind of reaction from him. __________________ Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it. ~Salvador Dali~ "If you can't trust, then you can't be trusted" -Ben Folds

10-23-2006, 08:53 PM	#2
Lanterna Magica Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: UK Gender: Male Posts: 98	Forget about him and find someone decent who does respect women, specifically you.

10-23-2006, 08:55 PM	#3
REDIRECT43 Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 183	Well I think he just said that to spite me. He was pretty upset that I had ended things. But then again, if he didn't want things to end he wouldn't have put that on his Myspace, correct?

10-23-2006, 08:56 PM	#4
Survictor Offline Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 501	This is way too much like hard work and he doesn't sound worth that much hard work. Drop him like a ton of hot bricks so you won't get burned.

10-23-2006, 09:54 PM	#6
finewhine Offline Silver Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 659	This guy sucks. Pat yourself on the back for getting rid of him.

10-24-2006, 03:48 AM	#7
caro33 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 2,569	"You should realise that I don't respect women". Doesn't matter what he thinks he meant, run for the hills my friend. He's a real piece of work and under his 'smooth' exterior there sounds like there's a whole bunch of stuff you don't want to get to know. Banish those second thoughts! You did the right thing, and will only disrespect yourself if you take up with him again.

10-24-2006, 06:17 AM	#8
Momene Offline Gold Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Wiltshire Gender: Male Posts: 3,498	He may have assumed that at one month you weren't "exclusive" but I'd say that was plain wrong.

10-24-2006, 12:12 PM	#9
confused25 Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 586	Um hello! He flat out told you that he "does not respect women". Whether or not he said that out of anger to get back at you, it does not matter. That one incident about him getting mad at you for giggling for no reason just shows how immature he is. And the myspace thing just made it even worse . . .

10-24-2006, 01:32 PM	#10
REDIRECT43 Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 183	LOL thanks everyone for your responses. I was really questioning whether my reaction was justified. We never really had an exclusivity talk, but I didn't think we had to. We hung out everyday, talked on the phone everyday, and we were intimate. I assumed that we were exclusive. I just cannot believe someone would be that dumb to request the girl he's seeing as a friend on Myspace, knowing she would read that. Unless he did it on purpose to see what I would do. He did seem insecure on Sat. when he accused me of giggling and then the next day made the Myspace. I guess it doesn't matter now, but jeez what a moron!