waking up to violent sweaty dreams

obscurity · 10-17-2006, 03:30 AM

For the past two nights in a row, I have been experienecing violent dreams where I wake up sweaty and insanely scared. The dreams are about my ex bf that I broke up with 1 year ago.

When we broke up, it was really complicated. One night he threatened he was going to jump off a bridge and kill himself, until I was able to find his car and sit in there and talk to him. He starts touching me and holding my hands which I was uncomfortable with so I wanted to get out of the car and not talk to him anymore. He wouldnt allow it and locked the doors and started speeding down a highway so i couldnt leave. He presisted, parked the car in a dark area and I opened the door to get out but he grabbed me and wouldnt let me leave until he finished what he had to say.

Dream #1
The first night I dreamt I was at school studying (we attend the same university). Out of no where he shows up and starts touching my back, he obviously thought we were still together. I was frightened and wanted to get away from him so I start to walk in a different direction. He grabs onto my arm and wouldnt let me go. I was terrifed. Next scene we are at his house. But I am chained up and unable to move, stuck in his basement. I plead to him, but nothing works. I wake up...

Dream #2
I am once again studying at the school. He comes up to me and starts touching my back again. I am frightened so I sit stone still. This time he tells me that his family just bought a resturant (near where my current boyfriend lives, of all places). He invites my boyfriend and I to try it out. I feel even more tense and frightened as I am aware this is a trap. (my ex and bf do not get along) I agree, so he would leave. Dream ends, I wake up...

Now I am faced with two issues, anxiety at school and fearful to close my eyes. What could these dreams mean? Is my gut telling me to watch out because this is going to happen to me in the near future? ....

**arwen** · 10-17-2006, 04:19 AM

Hey girl,

I too have very restless sleep with many weird dreams, and often wake up in sweats... I know how it is! I think it's best to NOT assign this kind of literal meaning to dreams. If I would, I wouldn't step outside the door! I think what happened between you and your ex is really horrible. All break ups are sad, but what you went through was violent.

You say it's a year ago. How did you get past all this? When did you start dating your new bf? I think dreams can be very upsetting, but it helps to see them as 'processing' and 'reordering' of things that happened in your life. This does not always take place right away. It's like defragmentation of the harddisk of your pc.

As for school, just avoid being around the ex. Did you stay in touch with him? It's difficult if you are in the same school, I know.

Take care,

Ilse

FoxLocke · 10-17-2006, 09:26 AM

This is weird because a few weeks ago I was having very violent dreams. I was literally waking up every morning at, exactly, 3 am...

I noticed that you mentioned you are in school...So am I. Perhaps your course work might be stressing you out? I've learned to cope with that by cutting unnecessary things out of my life and making more time for study.

Spugly Fuglet · 10-17-2006, 09:30 AM

The Media is sacharated with war and terra, death, killings, crime
is it any wonder your having nightmears

I know I am, stopped whaching TV and they stopped.

obscurity · 10-17-2006, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by ilse

Hey girl,

I too have very restless sleep with many weird dreams, and often wake up in sweats... I know how it is! I think it's best to NOT assign this kind of literal meaning to dreams. If I would, I wouldn't step outside the door! I think what happened between you and your ex is really horrible. All break ups are sad, but what you went through was violent.

You say it's a year ago. How did you get past all this? When did you start dating your new bf? I think dreams can be very upsetting, but it helps to see them as 'processing' and 'reordering' of things that happened in your life. This does not always take place right away. It's like defragmentation of the harddisk of your pc.

As for school, just avoid being around the ex. Did you stay in touch with him? It's difficult if you are in the same school, I know.

Take care,

Ilse

By any chance are you a comupter science major?

obscurity · 10-17-2006, 02:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by FoxLocke

This is weird because a few weeks ago I was having very violent dreams. I was literally waking up every morning at, exactly, 3 am...

I noticed that you mentioned you are in school...So am I. Perhaps your course work might be stressing you out? I've learned to cope with that by cutting unnecessary things out of my life and making more time for study.

That could be possible. Its midterm time, and I am definitely stressed about that.

Its weird because I see his car at school all the time. He still hangs a gift I got for him when we were dating on the mirror. I think its a bit odd. Almost like he cant get past the breakup

**arwen** · 10-17-2006, 03:32 PM

Hehe, no, although basic informatica and processing were part of my MA in linguistics

And yeah, STRESS will certainly contribute to weird dreams. As for the gift, that's weird of him. If I am really hurt in a break up I put all that reminds me of the ex far away in some box.

Try not to pay attention to him? Are you happy with the new bf?

Ilse

obscurity · 10-18-2006, 12:42 AM

Lol, computer science is my major. Thats why i was wondering. LOL!! U must think my sentence structure and spelling sucks... Thank goodness for ms word!!

That is the plan to get him outta my mind/life.

As for the new bf, he is sleeping beside me right now. And I am very happy with him. Thank you for asking.

10-17-2006, 09:26 AM	#3
FoxLocke Offline Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Across 110th Street Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 1,003	This is weird because a few weeks ago I was having very violent dreams. I was literally waking up every morning at, exactly, 3 am... I noticed that you mentioned you are in school...So am I. Perhaps your course work might be stressing you out? I've learned to cope with that by cutting unnecessary things out of my life and making more time for study. __________________ "Tyger! Tyger! burning bright In the forests of the night, What immortal hand or eye Dare frame thy fearful symmetry?" 1794 William Blake

10-17-2006, 03:32 PM	#7
arwen Online Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: The Netherlands Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 5,396	Hehe, no, although basic informatica and processing were part of my MA in linguistics And yeah, STRESS will certainly contribute to weird dreams. As for the gift, that's weird of him. If I am really hurt in a break up I put all that reminds me of the ex far away in some box. Try not to pay attention to him? Are you happy with the new bf? Ilse __________________ You always* have a choice.* 11 February 2010: [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]* is due!* Please see the forum rules for posting on enotalone.com

10-17-2006, 03:30 AM	#1
obscurity Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 147	waking up to violent sweaty dreams For the past two nights in a row, I have been experienecing violent dreams where I wake up sweaty and insanely scared. The dreams are about my ex bf that I broke up with 1 year ago. When we broke up, it was really complicated. One night he threatened he was going to jump off a bridge and kill himself, until I was able to find his car and sit in there and talk to him. He starts touching me and holding my hands which I was uncomfortable with so I wanted to get out of the car and not talk to him anymore. He wouldnt allow it and locked the doors and started speeding down a highway so i couldnt leave. He presisted, parked the car in a dark area and I opened the door to get out but he grabbed me and wouldnt let me leave until he finished what he had to say. Dream #1 The first night I dreamt I was at school studying (we attend the same university). Out of no where he shows up and starts touching my back, he obviously thought we were still together. I was frightened and wanted to get away from him so I start to walk in a different direction. He grabs onto my arm and wouldnt let me go. I was terrifed. Next scene we are at his house. But I am chained up and unable to move, stuck in his basement. I plead to him, but nothing works. I wake up... Dream #2 I am once again studying at the school. He comes up to me and starts touching my back again. I am frightened so I sit stone still. This time he tells me that his family just bought a resturant (near where my current boyfriend lives, of all places). He invites my boyfriend and I to try it out. I feel even more tense and frightened as I am aware this is a trap. (my ex and bf do not get along) I agree, so he would leave. Dream ends, I wake up... Now I am faced with two issues, anxiety at school and fearful to close my eyes. What could these dreams mean? Is my gut telling me to watch out because this is going to happen to me in the near future? ....

10-17-2006, 04:19 AM	#2
arwen Online Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: The Netherlands Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 5,396	Hey girl, I too have very restless sleep with many weird dreams, and often wake up in sweats... I know how it is! I think it's best to NOT assign this kind of literal meaning to dreams. If I would, I wouldn't step outside the door! I think what happened between you and your ex is really horrible. All break ups are sad, but what you went through was violent. You say it's a year ago. How did you get past all this? When did you start dating your new bf? I think dreams can be very upsetting, but it helps to see them as 'processing' and 'reordering' of things that happened in your life. This does not always take place right away. It's like defragmentation of the harddisk of your pc. As for school, just avoid being around the ex. Did you stay in touch with him? It's difficult if you are in the same school, I know. Take care, Ilse __________________ You always* have a choice.* 11 February 2010: [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]* is due!* Please see the forum rules for posting on enotalone.com

10-17-2006, 09:30 AM	#4
Spugly Fuglet Offline Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: London Village Gender: Male Posts: 1,706	The Media is sacharated with war and terra, death, killings, crime is it any wonder your having nightmears I know I am, stopped whaching TV and they stopped.

10-18-2006, 12:42 AM	#8
obscurity Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 147	Lol, computer science is my major. Thats why i was wondering. LOL!! U must think my sentence structure and spelling sucks... Thank goodness for ms word!! That is the plan to get him outta my mind/life. As for the new bf, he is sleeping beside me right now. And I am very happy with him. Thank you for asking.