I feel depressed again.

JDMxTeGrA101 · 10-15-2006, 03:47 PM

Ok as you guys know my ex broke it off with me on the 5th of september and she called me back on the 6th and said she still had feelings for me but she was talking to a guy at the same time. This was my first serious relationship that's why I still have feelings for her. She gets with the guy on the 16th of september. How do I know? Because of her myspace. I was already doing good until I called her on Thursday and just asked how she's been and me and her ended up talking for about an hour. Then her boyfriend called and she ended up calling me back after her boyfriend called. Now her boyfriend wants to fight me because he found out me and her talked on the phone. I go on her myspace and his name is all over everything and saying she loves him already blah blah blah.. I deleted her myspace because I can no longer look at it anymore because it just tears me up in the inside. Any help you guys?

heloladies21 · 10-15-2006, 04:08 PM

All of this could've and can be avoided if you stop denying your true feelings and lay out an ultimatum for her that either it's him or you. Anything else amounts to psychological games and in the end you're the one who gets hurt.

JDMxTeGrA101 · 10-15-2006, 04:11 PM

I asked her that day and she said she wanted both of us and I was like what the heck? She said me and him have the same personality but the advantage he had over me is that they both go to the same school and I go to a different school so that means they got to see each other everyday but I told her I would visit her everyday after school. She still chose him over me. I did NC for 3 weeks but I ended up calling her.

speed_demon · 10-15-2006, 04:12 PM

She aint worth your time. If she's doing this now it'll get worse, then you'll regret having her around. If she honestly still has feelings for you like she says then she'll be back later. Just get up and move on, It'll make her want more attention from you knowing that you're not needing her, This is where you gotta put your foot down or it'll tear you up inside to the point when your numb to/in a relationship... you gotta be

. Trust me I know. been there done that, still waiting, But she's knows I have feelings for her and I dont want anything to do with a relationship. life is better without 'em in my opinion. Just move on as tough as it is, saddle up and ride on out with your pride and dignity. best advice I can give you at this time

heloladies21 · 10-15-2006, 04:17 PM

In the end, this is all about how you view the situation and how much self respect you have. I know this is a confusing time, but if you can't see that you are being used right upfront and to your face and you don't have the guts to stick up for yourself, there's nothing that we can say other than that believe us when we're telling you that you are being used.

She gave you a very direct answer that she wants to be with another man. That leaves no room for you in the equation.

JDMxTeGrA101 · 10-15-2006, 04:35 PM

I like your reply speed_demon. What I'm hoping for is if she gets tired of him and she ends up missing me. All I know is she'll never forget me because she lost her virginity to me. So right now I should just focus on with my life. The thing that bothers me is that why would she get with the guy so fast? Did she really like him while she was in love with me or she just went for a rebound right away?

speed_demon · 10-15-2006, 08:55 PM

Only one person can answer a question like that. Don't ponder it, just assume its a rebound. If you start wondering, then you'll develop relationship issues later. Just take it that she picked up a rebound, and start your life. As hard as it is, don't keep communication with her, NO MATTER how much you "need" to talk to her. Sometimes you can over talk and that will push them away. I'm not saying you can't say hi, or talk for other reasons but let her initiate and you end it early. That'll make her think you're to important for her and help make her want more contact with you. SO CHIPPER UP! You got pals on here who will listen instead of her

JDMxTeGrA101 · 10-16-2006, 04:32 AM

I swear I wanted to live my life with her. She's 17 and I'm 19 and I figured out she just wants to have fun for now. I thought I was over her but when I talked to her last Thursday that is what made me start over again because I gained feelings back. It made me happy when she called me back after she spoke to her boyfriend then we talked for a bit. What I'm thinking right now is hopefully I see her again once she goes to college because she said she's going to the college I'm attending right now and it got me happy. Right now I just gotta live my life without her.

chasen54 · 10-16-2006, 10:56 AM

MYSPACE IS THE DEVIL! Hah... no really tho, it can make one crazy. I had to drop my ex off my buddy page... for the same reason. She picked up a NEW bf after like 2 weeks from the break up.... really sucked... and the last thing I want to see is pictures of them together...argghh... makes me crazy thinkin about it.

You did right getting her out off your myspace.... I have instances where I feel bad that I did it... but then I realize it would just torment me more...

good going I say!

Oh and enjoy the single life bro... don't feel like first love is your last love... if its true and deep(which I assume most relationships are fairly shallow) then go for it... wait it out tho...play it cool=)

JDMxTeGrA101 · 10-16-2006, 01:16 PM

Sucks bro how she's the first person I look at when I log on myspace. What's weird is that he has pictures of them on his site and she doesn't have any pictures on her site but she has his name all over her page. I was her second bf and she said I would be the first and last guy she would deeply fall in love with. Back then she didn't even like that guy she's with so assuming that he is a rebound makes me feel okay.

10-15-2006, 03:47 PM	#1
JDMxTeGrA101 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 156	I feel depressed again. Ok as you guys know my ex broke it off with me on the 5th of september and she called me back on the 6th and said she still had feelings for me but she was talking to a guy at the same time. This was my first serious relationship that's why I still have feelings for her. She gets with the guy on the 16th of september. How do I know? Because of her myspace. I was already doing good until I called her on Thursday and just asked how she's been and me and her ended up talking for about an hour. Then her boyfriend called and she ended up calling me back after her boyfriend called. Now her boyfriend wants to fight me because he found out me and her talked on the phone. I go on her myspace and his name is all over everything and saying she loves him already blah blah blah.. I deleted her myspace because I can no longer look at it anymore because it just tears me up in the inside. Any help you guys?

10-16-2006, 10:56 AM	#9
chasen54 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: The Beach.... Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 30	If its one thing I've learned MYSPACE IS THE DEVIL! Hah... no really tho, it can make one crazy. I had to drop my ex off my buddy page... for the same reason. She picked up a NEW bf after like 2 weeks from the break up.... really sucked... and the last thing I want to see is pictures of them together...argghh... makes me crazy thinkin about it. You did right getting her out off your myspace.... I have instances where I feel bad that I did it... but then I realize it would just torment me more... good going I say! Oh and enjoy the single life bro... don't feel like first love is your last love... if its true and deep(which I assume most relationships are fairly shallow) then go for it... wait it out tho...play it cool=)

10-15-2006, 04:08 PM	#2
heloladies21 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 3,897	All of this could've and can be avoided if you stop denying your true feelings and lay out an ultimatum for her that either it's him or you. Anything else amounts to psychological games and in the end you're the one who gets hurt.

10-15-2006, 04:11 PM	#3
JDMxTeGrA101 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 156	I asked her that day and she said she wanted both of us and I was like what the heck? She said me and him have the same personality but the advantage he had over me is that they both go to the same school and I go to a different school so that means they got to see each other everyday but I told her I would visit her everyday after school. She still chose him over me. I did NC for 3 weeks but I ended up calling her.

10-15-2006, 04:12 PM	#4
speed_demon Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 11	She aint worth your time. If she's doing this now it'll get worse, then you'll regret having her around. If she honestly still has feelings for you like she says then she'll be back later. Just get up and move on, It'll make her want more attention from you knowing that you're not needing her, This is where you gotta put your foot down or it'll tear you up inside to the point when your numb to/in a relationship... you gotta be . Trust me I know. been there done that, still waiting, But she's knows I have feelings for her and I dont want anything to do with a relationship. life is better without 'em in my opinion. Just move on as tough as it is, saddle up and ride on out with your pride and dignity. best advice I can give you at this time

10-15-2006, 04:17 PM	#5
heloladies21 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 3,897	In the end, this is all about how you view the situation and how much self respect you have. I know this is a confusing time, but if you can't see that you are being used right upfront and to your face and you don't have the guts to stick up for yourself, there's nothing that we can say other than that believe us when we're telling you that you are being used. She gave you a very direct answer that she wants to be with another man. That leaves no room for you in the equation.

10-15-2006, 04:35 PM	#6
JDMxTeGrA101 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 156	I like your reply speed_demon. What I'm hoping for is if she gets tired of him and she ends up missing me. All I know is she'll never forget me because she lost her virginity to me. So right now I should just focus on with my life. The thing that bothers me is that why would she get with the guy so fast? Did she really like him while she was in love with me or she just went for a rebound right away?

10-15-2006, 08:55 PM	#7
speed_demon Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 11	Only one person can answer a question like that. Don't ponder it, just assume its a rebound. If you start wondering, then you'll develop relationship issues later. Just take it that she picked up a rebound, and start your life. As hard as it is, don't keep communication with her, NO MATTER how much you "need" to talk to her. Sometimes you can over talk and that will push them away. I'm not saying you can't say hi, or talk for other reasons but let her initiate and you end it early. That'll make her think you're to important for her and help make her want more contact with you. SO CHIPPER UP! You got pals on here who will listen instead of her

10-16-2006, 04:32 AM	#8
JDMxTeGrA101 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 156	I swear I wanted to live my life with her. She's 17 and I'm 19 and I figured out she just wants to have fun for now. I thought I was over her but when I talked to her last Thursday that is what made me start over again because I gained feelings back. It made me happy when she called me back after she spoke to her boyfriend then we talked for a bit. What I'm thinking right now is hopefully I see her again once she goes to college because she said she's going to the college I'm attending right now and it got me happy. Right now I just gotta live my life without her.

10-16-2006, 01:16 PM	#10
JDMxTeGrA101 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 156	Sucks bro how she's the first person I look at when I log on myspace. What's weird is that he has pictures of them on his site and she doesn't have any pictures on her site but she has his name all over her page. I was her second bf and she said I would be the first and last guy she would deeply fall in love with. Back then she didn't even like that guy she's with so assuming that he is a rebound makes me feel okay.