2nd Date -Pick me up or meet there

inquisitivesharon · 10-14-2006, 01:21 PM

Hi-

I have a second date tonight with a guy I met online. Our first date was great and we had a nice time. He took me to a nice restaurant and was very polite and chivalrous (opening doors, paying for dinner, etc.) and seemed like a nice guy overall. We live within a mile from each other and have plans to go out to a restaurant about 20 minutes for our houses - so it makes sense for him to come to my house to pick me up. However, I wonder if this is the safe thing to do, given that I don't know him very well yet. Should I meet him somewhere instead? Any advice appreciated! Thanks.

hosswhispra · 10-14-2006, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by inquisitivesharon

However, I wonder if this is the safe thing to do, given that I don't know him very well yet. Should I meet him somewhere instead? Any advice appreciated! Thanks.

I think that for this date, I would personally meet him at the restaurant, especially if you are feeling that you don't know him very well, yet. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

If you feel awkward about telling him that you're going to meet him at the restaurant that is 20 min. away and you only live a mile apart, you could tell him that you're already going to be in the area of the restaurant and that you'll meet him there

Enjoy your date tonight,

hosswhispra

coollady1957 · 10-14-2006, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by hosswhispra

I think that for this date, I would personally meet him at the restaurant, especially if you are feeling that you don't know him very well, yet. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

If you feel awkward about telling him that you're going to meet him at the restaurant that is 20 min. away and you only live a mile apart, you could tell him that you're already going to be in the area of the restaurant and that you'll meet him there

Enjoy your date tonight,

hosswhispra

I completely agree with Hoss. Since it is only the second date, in my opinion ,I would just meet him at the restaurant this time for sure. Hope you enjoy your date.

Honey Pumpkin · 10-14-2006, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by hosswhispra

I think that for this date, I would personally meet him at the restaurant, especially if you are feeling that you don't know him very well, yet. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

If you feel awkward about telling him that you're going to meet him at the restaurant that is 20 min. away and you only live a mile apart, you could tell him that you're already going to be in the area of the restaurant and that you'll meet him there

Enjoy your date tonight,

hosswhispra

Fabulous advice! Yes, tell him you're in that area, that's why you're meeting him there.

I wouldn't have someone come to my house just at this stage, I think you'll feel more comfortable to meet him there.

Have a great time!

Fallout · 10-14-2006, 03:58 PM

So, start off by lying ? lol I know it's somewhat of a white lie but still..not really necessary...why not just tell him you'll feel more comfortable by going there yourself.

Aurian · 10-16-2006, 04:02 AM

Good to be safe, especially since its just the second date. You'd hate to find out he's a bit off after he finds out where you live. >.<

Tigris · 10-21-2006, 02:21 AM

I agree it's better to be safe than sorry.

Always tell a friend or a member of your family where you're going and what time you're going to be back. If there's any change of plan phone them so they don't worry.

helpme2 · 10-22-2006, 10:31 PM

I met hubby at our dates for at least 5 dates, told him I felt more comfortable having my own car, in case I had an emergency and had to leave or if I got sick or something. He seemed to understand.

10-14-2006, 01:21 PM	#1
inquisitivesharon Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 6	2nd Date -Pick me up or meet there Hi- I have a second date tonight with a guy I met online. Our first date was great and we had a nice time. He took me to a nice restaurant and was very polite and chivalrous (opening doors, paying for dinner, etc.) and seemed like a nice guy overall. We live within a mile from each other and have plans to go out to a restaurant about 20 minutes for our houses - so it makes sense for him to come to my house to pick me up. However, I wonder if this is the safe thing to do, given that I don't know him very well yet. Should I meet him somewhere instead? Any advice appreciated! Thanks. __________________ "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." -Helen Keller

10-14-2006, 03:58 PM	#5
Fallout Offline Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 464	So, start off by lying ? lol I know it's somewhat of a white lie but still..not really necessary...why not just tell him you'll feel more comfortable by going there yourself.

10-16-2006, 04:02 AM	#6
Aurian Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Vancouver, Canada Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 2,364	Good to be safe, especially since its just the second date. You'd hate to find out he's a bit off after he finds out where you live. >.<

10-21-2006, 02:21 AM	#7
Tigris Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 3,556	I agree it's better to be safe than sorry. Always tell a friend or a member of your family where you're going and what time you're going to be back. If there's any change of plan phone them so they don't worry.

10-22-2006, 10:31 PM	#8
helpme2 Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 316	I met hubby at our dates for at least 5 dates, told him I felt more comfortable having my own car, in case I had an emergency and had to leave or if I got sick or something. He seemed to understand.