Depression???

amuse · 10-04-2006, 02:43 PM

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Dako · 10-04-2006, 02:49 PM

That's a fine description of the condition.

dogheadma · 10-04-2006, 02:53 PM

Depression is when you feel like that most or all of the time. If it's not very often, then it's just a bad mood.

Dako · 10-04-2006, 03:05 PM

Seems like you're bummed over an event, much as you would over any major disappointment.

Dako · 10-04-2006, 03:27 PM

Seems like a rational response.

Has he just been diagnosed with clinical depression, and what brought on PTSD? The reason I ask, losing his gf can only make life harder for him.

TheRedQueen · 10-04-2006, 03:42 PM

Depression is like wearing a pair of blue-tinted glasses. Everything you see gets slightly distorted which ultimately distorts the way you feel.

Cognitive therapy helped for me with my depression. Emotions can get you in trouble if you don't know how to appropriately manage them.

Dako · 10-04-2006, 03:45 PM

A fellow depressed person reminded me that when you're depressed, your affliction compels you to withdraw into yourself and avoid people, except you really crave company and affection the most. It's a painful conflict.

The best you can do is wait for him.

TheRedQueen · 10-04-2006, 03:56 PM

Wait for whom?

Dako · 10-04-2006, 04:06 PM

The OP's guy. I just assumed she's bummed but still interested in him.
Am I assuming wrongly?

TheRedQueen · 10-04-2006, 04:11 PM

No you assume rightly, but what if he never comes back?

I never suggest or advise people to wait passively for some outside agent to materialize itself, it's too risky, what happens if it never comes?

My advice would be for her to actively move on from this relationship. If he gets better and comes back, then she could deal with that circumstance as it comes. Meanwhile, she should start focusing on herself.

10-04-2006, 02:43 PM	#1
amuse Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Traveling USA Gender: Female Posts: 34	Depression??? delete message Last edited by amuse; 10-18-2006 at 01:52 AM.

10-04-2006, 02:49 PM	#2
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,115	That's a fine description of the condition.

10-04-2006, 02:53 PM	#3
dogheadma Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Gender: None Specified Posts: 399	Depression is when you feel like that most or all of the time. If it's not very often, then it's just a bad mood.

10-04-2006, 03:05 PM	#4
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,115	Seems like you're bummed over an event, much as you would over any major disappointment.

10-04-2006, 03:27 PM	#5
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,115	Seems like a rational response. Has he just been diagnosed with clinical depression, and what brought on PTSD? The reason I ask, losing his gf can only make life harder for him.

10-04-2006, 03:42 PM	#6
TheRedQueen Offline Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: The Far Side Gender: Female Posts: 1,990	Depression is like wearing a pair of blue-tinted glasses. Everything you see gets slightly distorted which ultimately distorts the way you feel. Cognitive therapy helped for me with my depression. Emotions can get you in trouble if you don't know how to appropriately manage them.

10-04-2006, 03:45 PM	#7
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,115	A fellow depressed person reminded me that when you're depressed, your affliction compels you to withdraw into yourself and avoid people, except you really crave company and affection the most. It's a painful conflict. The best you can do is wait for him.

10-04-2006, 03:56 PM	#8
TheRedQueen Offline Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: The Far Side Gender: Female Posts: 1,990	Wait for whom?

10-04-2006, 04:06 PM	#9
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,115	The OP's guy. I just assumed she's bummed but still interested in him. Am I assuming wrongly?

10-04-2006, 04:11 PM	#10
TheRedQueen Offline Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: The Far Side Gender: Female Posts: 1,990	No you assume rightly, but what if he never comes back? I never suggest or advise people to wait passively for some outside agent to materialize itself, it's too risky, what happens if it never comes? My advice would be for her to actively move on from this relationship. If he gets better and comes back, then she could deal with that circumstance as it comes. Meanwhile, she should start focusing on herself.