religion and his lack of it

sanns677 · 09-28-2006, 09:18 PM

Ok so i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, wen we met he said he was agnostic which is great because so am I, sort of, I was raised Methodist and as far as my parents know I still am, but I dunno about all that anymore. Anyway a few months ago he decided he is acctually athiest which did bother me a little at first but now he is like hardcore athiest. The other day he even bought a satanic bible, not that he sacrificing little kittens or anything. He isn't satanic, I just think it is for shock value mostly, he was raised by bible thumpers so I think he is just trying to get as far from that as possible. Two things worry me, I can deal with athiest but not satanic (no offense to anyone personnaly it just conflicts with my belifs), like I said he isn't satanic but he changed so quickly from agnostic to athiest I just am afraid he might decide to follow the satanic bible. The other thing is we have talked about marriage after we graduate and settle in our "real lives". I am worried about certain religios aspects there because like I said both our families are christian and they think we are too. Just looking ahead who would marry us? I guess the justice of the peace. I dont think not being in a church would bother anyone but I think not having a minister would, and I wouldnt mind a minister but I know he would object to it. I know I am looking way ahead, but I just dont want to ger hurt, but anyway, what if we have kids how would we raise them? I dont want to raise a child christian, buddhist, jewish or even athiest. I think they should be allowed to chose what ever they want to belive, and I think that if they did chose a religion and they chose to follow it, well, religiously then he would unconciously deter them from that. I dont know, I just have never been so in love in my life and no one has ever been so wonderful and loving to me, exept our differences in religion we are almost perfect for each other. I think breaking up would devistate both of us. It kills me to even think about it, but I think if it needs to be done we shouldn't wait until it would be even harder. Am I making somthing insignificant in to an issue or should I worry.

Yvette84 · 09-28-2006, 09:22 PM

it is VERY important. I am opposite of you. I am a christian and I can't imagin being with anyone who doesn't share the most important aspect of my life with me. So I don't think you are overreacting, It can cause major issues! especially when it comes to kids. The satanic thing would definatly worry me too. He might get really into it eventually.

sanns677 · 09-28-2006, 09:30 PM

the thing is that it really isnt a big part of my life, like at all, I never really thought much about it even until all this. All I believe is in something, nothing in particular though. It seems like a lot to me to break up with someone I love so much over such a minor part of my life, I am mostly just worried about what it could turn in to. Right now it is ok though.I just hate having to even consider this!

Chillins99 · 09-28-2006, 09:32 PM

If your religious convictions are a fundamental part of your life, then it may be important to be with someone who shares at least your basic beliefs. It can cause problems if you both have very different beliefs in that area.

With all due respect to the second poster, in my opinion, being a Satanist is no worse than being a devout Christian. What kind of God would insist that you obey these 10 rules and accept Him and only Him as the single true God of the universe, or else you are condemned to live in a fiery Hell for eternity? Which means if you follow Buddah or Mohammed you are going to Hell, in the eyes of Christians.

Thanks but I'll take my chances.

I stopped believing in make believe things like Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy long ago...

agent · 09-28-2006, 09:37 PM

Hi,

how much do you know about the philosophy of Satanism as put forward by LaVey? [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]

and have you spoken to your boyfriend about your concerns?

sanns677 · 09-28-2006, 09:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chillins99

If your religious convictions are a fundamental part of your life, then it may be important to be with someone who shares at least your basic beliefs. It can cause problems if you both have very different beliefs in that area.

With all due respect to the second poster, in my opinion, being a Satanist is no worse than being a devout Christian. What kind of God would insist that you obey these 10 rules and accept Him and only Him as the single true God of the universe, or else you are condemned to live in a fiery Hell for eternity? Which means if you follow Buddah or Mohammed you are going to Hell, in the eyes of Christians.

Thanks but I'll take my chances.

I stopped believing in make believe things like Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy long ago...

Exactly, thats why I am no longer christian

sanns677 · 09-28-2006, 09:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by agent

Hi,

how much do you know about the philosophy of Satanism as put forward by LaVey? [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]

and have you spoken to your boyfriend about your concerns?

I acctually do know a little about it I flipped through the book myself. It isn't what people think it is but still it is not along the lines of what I believe.

I have not taked to him yet, like I said I don't want to make an issue of nothing.

southerngirl · 09-28-2006, 09:48 PM

Well for me it could be a problem.

Think about the long term affects, and if he bought a satanic bible he is interested in it.

You say on one hand that you were raised a methodist, but that right now you dont know if you are or not.

How will your family feel about it? Are you prepared to possibly fight them over it?

Just alot to think about. An athiest and a Satanist are two totally different things. Do some research online about the whole thing.

agent · 09-28-2006, 09:51 PM

Well, if it's causing you to worry, then it is an issue to you and not something you should stew over..

How far into it is he? Or is he just "expanding his horizons" as it were?

Yvette84 · 09-28-2006, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by sanns677

Exactly, thats why I am no longer christian

you both have christianity COMPLEATLY wrong!!!

09-28-2006, 09:18 PM	#1
sanns677 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 54	religion and his lack of it Ok so i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, wen we met he said he was agnostic which is great because so am I, sort of, I was raised Methodist and as far as my parents know I still am, but I dunno about all that anymore. Anyway a few months ago he decided he is acctually athiest which did bother me a little at first but now he is like hardcore athiest. The other day he even bought a satanic bible, not that he sacrificing little kittens or anything. He isn't satanic, I just think it is for shock value mostly, he was raised by bible thumpers so I think he is just trying to get as far from that as possible. Two things worry me, I can deal with athiest but not satanic (no offense to anyone personnaly it just conflicts with my belifs), like I said he isn't satanic but he changed so quickly from agnostic to athiest I just am afraid he might decide to follow the satanic bible. The other thing is we have talked about marriage after we graduate and settle in our "real lives". I am worried about certain religios aspects there because like I said both our families are christian and they think we are too. Just looking ahead who would marry us? I guess the justice of the peace. I dont think not being in a church would bother anyone but I think not having a minister would, and I wouldnt mind a minister but I know he would object to it. I know I am looking way ahead, but I just dont want to ger hurt, but anyway, what if we have kids how would we raise them? I dont want to raise a child christian, buddhist, jewish or even athiest. I think they should be allowed to chose what ever they want to belive, and I think that if they did chose a religion and they chose to follow it, well, religiously then he would unconciously deter them from that. I dont know, I just have never been so in love in my life and no one has ever been so wonderful and loving to me, exept our differences in religion we are almost perfect for each other. I think breaking up would devistate both of us. It kills me to even think about it, but I think if it needs to be done we shouldn't wait until it would be even harder. Am I making somthing insignificant in to an issue or should I worry.

09-28-2006, 09:32 PM	#4
Chillins99 Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 79	It is important If your religious convictions are a fundamental part of your life, then it may be important to be with someone who shares at least your basic beliefs. It can cause problems if you both have very different beliefs in that area. With all due respect to the second poster, in my opinion, being a Satanist is no worse than being a devout Christian. What kind of God would insist that you obey these 10 rules and accept Him and only Him as the single true God of the universe, or else you are condemned to live in a fiery Hell for eternity? Which means if you follow Buddah or Mohammed you are going to Hell, in the eyes of Christians. Thanks but I'll take my chances. I stopped believing in make believe things like Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy long ago...

09-28-2006, 09:37 PM	#5
agent Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 3,892	Hi, how much do you know about the philosophy of Satanism as put forward by LaVey? [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] and have you spoken to your boyfriend about your concerns? __________________ "You have a right to experiment with your life. You will make mistakes. And they are right too." - Anais Nin "Come now, don't make such a funeral face. It isn't dying that's sad; it's living when you're not happy." -Octave Mirbeau "Don't be sad, don't be angry, if life deceives you! Submit to your grief; your time for joy will come, believe me." -Aleksandr Pushkin

09-28-2006, 09:48 PM	#8
southerngirl Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: NW Georgia Gender: Female Posts: 3,032	Well for me it could be a problem. Think about the long term affects, and if he bought a satanic bible he is interested in it. You say on one hand that you were raised a methodist, but that right now you dont know if you are or not. How will your family feel about it? Are you prepared to possibly fight them over it? Just alot to think about. An athiest and a Satanist are two totally different things. Do some research online about the whole thing. __________________ A wise man learns by the mistakes of others, a fool by his own. Latin Proverb

09-28-2006, 09:51 PM	#9
agent Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 3,892	Well, if it's causing you to worry, then it is an issue to you and not something you should stew over.. How far into it is he? Or is he just "expanding his horizons" as it were? __________________ "You have a right to experiment with your life. You will make mistakes. And they are right too." - Anais Nin "Come now, don't make such a funeral face. It isn't dying that's sad; it's living when you're not happy." -Octave Mirbeau "Don't be sad, don't be angry, if life deceives you! Submit to your grief; your time for joy will come, believe me." -Aleksandr Pushkin

09-28-2006, 09:22 PM	#2
Yvette84 Offline Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Cali Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 734	it is VERY important. I am opposite of you. I am a christian and I can't imagin being with anyone who doesn't share the most important aspect of my life with me. So I don't think you are overreacting, It can cause major issues! especially when it comes to kids. The satanic thing would definatly worry me too. He might get really into it eventually.

09-28-2006, 09:30 PM	#3
sanns677 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 54	the thing is that it really isnt a big part of my life, like at all, I never really thought much about it even until all this. All I believe is in something, nothing in particular though. It seems like a lot to me to break up with someone I love so much over such a minor part of my life, I am mostly just worried about what it could turn in to. Right now it is ok though.I just hate having to even consider this!