His dad has cancer, should I call, email or nothing at all?

lost_status · 09-08-2006, 01:27 AM

ok...

My ex told me a few nights ago that his father has been diagnoised with cancer. I was wondering should I call him to see how he is going? I know it would be really stressful for him and his family.

The thing is, he has been trying to sort things out with me in the past month or so... Plus my boyfriend really doesnt like my ex. I dont want my ex to think he has a chance or something, nor do I want to start dramas, I dont want to give my ex false hope... should I just email him?

Call or email... or nothing at all? Any suggestions?

**melrich** · 09-08-2006, 01:31 AM

I would send a card addressed to him and his family just saying you are thinking of them all in this difficult time.

lost_status · 09-08-2006, 01:36 AM

Yeh that would be good, but I havent formally meet all his family.

**melrich** · 09-08-2006, 01:39 AM

Doesn't matter. You know of them all, they will get lots of cards from people that some of them may not have met.

hosswhispra · 09-08-2006, 01:41 AM

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Originally Posted by melrich

I would send a card addressed to him and his family just saying you are thinking of them all in this difficult time.

Very good suggestion.

Entomon · 09-08-2006, 01:52 AM

I agree with melrich. A sympathy card addressed to him and his family extending your condolence should suffice.

justpaisley · 09-08-2006, 01:53 AM

I think that if he has been trying to start things back up with you, your boyfriend has every reason not to like him, and you shouldn't be talking to him at all. However, due to these circumstances, I think e-mailing him just to let him know that you're praying for his dad and family (or whatever) would only be the nice thing to do.

I'm pretty sure that getting back with you has been pushed to the back of his mind. Hearing that a parent has cancer has got to be one of the most difficult things a child would endure. If he thinks that he has a chance with you due to this, you can deal with that if the time comes.

lost_status · 09-08-2006, 01:53 AM

ok thanks guys!

09-08-2006, 01:27 AM	#1
lost_status Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: In his mind and in his thoughts Gender: Female Posts: 338	His dad has cancer, should I call, email or nothing at all? ok... My ex told me a few nights ago that his father has been diagnoised with cancer. I was wondering should I call him to see how he is going? I know it would be really stressful for him and his family. The thing is, he has been trying to sort things out with me in the past month or so... Plus my boyfriend really doesnt like my ex. I dont want my ex to think he has a chance or something, nor do I want to start dramas, I dont want to give my ex false hope... should I just email him? Call or email... or nothing at all? Any suggestions?

09-08-2006, 01:31 AM	#2
melrich Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Gender: Male Posts: 8,498	I would send a card addressed to him and his family just saying you are thinking of them all in this difficult time.

09-08-2006, 01:36 AM	#3
lost_status Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: In his mind and in his thoughts Gender: Female Posts: 338	Yeh that would be good, but I havent formally meet all his family.

09-08-2006, 01:39 AM	#4
melrich Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Gender: Male Posts: 8,498	Doesn't matter. You know of them all, they will get lots of cards from people that some of them may not have met.

09-08-2006, 01:52 AM	#6
Entomon Offline Join Date: May 2006 Location: On a Sandwich Gender: Female Posts: 416	I agree with melrich. A sympathy card addressed to him and his family extending your condolence should suffice.

09-08-2006, 01:53 AM	#7
justpaisley Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 857	I think that if he has been trying to start things back up with you, your boyfriend has every reason not to like him, and you shouldn't be talking to him at all. However, due to these circumstances, I think e-mailing him just to let him know that you're praying for his dad and family (or whatever) would only be the nice thing to do. I'm pretty sure that getting back with you has been pushed to the back of his mind. Hearing that a parent has cancer has got to be one of the most difficult things a child would endure. If he thinks that he has a chance with you due to this, you can deal with that if the time comes.