A lost virgin

quietgrl · 08-21-2006, 11:13 PM

I'm a 36 year old virgin female and I feel alone and lost right now.why?
I just left a virgin/incel board that never gave me full support and now I feel alone. Most of the virgins were for casual issue sex and I was for sex with a commitment.
I don't know where to go to get true virgin support. I just wish somebody understood me .A sexwith commitment virgin.

Süsser Tod · 08-22-2006, 12:50 AM

I'm not really sure what is your point. Are you complaining about being a virgin, or are you complaining about being unable to find someone worthy of having sex with?

Scotcha · 08-22-2006, 01:25 AM

I don't understand what "virgin for casual sex" or a "sex with commitment virgin" could mean unless.. It was a dating site for virgins wanting to hook up?? Can that be right? I'm confused.

laboheme · 08-22-2006, 01:43 AM

What kind of support are you looking for? If it helps any, I have tremendous respect for anyone who's willing to wait for the relationship situation to be just right before having sex. Casual sex is definitely not for everyone, and I feel like one's first time should be in a loving, caring relationship... unfortunately, it seems like that's often not the case.

That said, what is your dating situation like? Maybe your concerns are more about dating than virginity?

AntiLove_SuperStar · 08-22-2006, 05:06 AM

Why would a virgin need support, solely because they are a virgin?

quietgrl · 08-22-2006, 07:47 AM

It's not easy being a 36 year old virgin and waiting to lost my virginity via long term boyfriend or husband. Most virgin don't care who they lost their virginity too because most virgin have issue with the opposite sex.
I was on a virgin/incel board where casual issue sex was promoted and not sex with commitment.I was hoping to get sex with commitment support but I didn't.I feel alone.
Sorry to say.I don't date because most men I come across want casual sex and I want sex with commitment. I haven't found a man who will wait for me.-lm not a religous person and I do not want a church man
I just want to find other people who understand me.

P.S casual issue sex is when a confused,naive Virgin with social issue has sex with any penis or vagina that walk in the room.The virgin doesn't want to deal with their social issue so they use sex to not deal with their problem.

helpme2 · 08-22-2006, 09:28 AM

why did you decide to wait until a commitment? (not that I knock that decision, I think it's a good one, but then I am religious)

MI_Shell · 08-22-2006, 09:34 AM

I agree that it is best to wait for commitment for sex. It is too devestating to just be used for a casual fling and end up an emotional basket case. It is certainly frustrating having to hope there is someone out there right for you. I am not a virgin but I am not entering into casual sex just waiting for a decent commited relationship. I would rather have no one than not committed to.

At least by making your stand you can spare yourself from a lot of emotional heart ache.

FoxLocke · 08-22-2006, 10:00 AM

Well, you will get plenty of support here. This site is good for that.

Anyway, I am a virgin too. However, my I stayed a virgin because of different issues than yours...Now I am up for losing my virginity with someone I care about.

Scotcha · 08-22-2006, 10:11 AM

Thanks for clearing that up, I really didn't know what you meant.

I think it's great that you are waiting for the right guy, in fact, I wish I had that much will power. The right guy will understand.

08-21-2006, 11:13 PM	#1
quietgrl Offline Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: finally moving from Ca. Yes!!! Gender: Female Posts: 1,299	A lost virgin I'm a 36 year old virgin female and I feel alone and lost right now.why? I just left a virgin/incel board that never gave me full support and now I feel alone. Most of the virgins were for casual issue sex and I was for sex with a commitment. I don't know where to go to get true virgin support. I just wish somebody understood me .A sexwith commitment virgin.

08-22-2006, 05:06 AM	#5
AntiLove_SuperStar Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 2,471	Why would a virgin need support, solely because they are a virgin? __________________ Don't even TRY it

08-22-2006, 07:47 AM	#6
quietgrl Offline Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: finally moving from Ca. Yes!!! Gender: Female Posts: 1,299	last virgin alive It's not easy being a 36 year old virgin and waiting to lost my virginity via long term boyfriend or husband. Most virgin don't care who they lost their virginity too because most virgin have issue with the opposite sex. I was on a virgin/incel board where casual issue sex was promoted and not sex with commitment.I was hoping to get sex with commitment support but I didn't.I feel alone. Sorry to say.I don't date because most men I come across want casual sex and I want sex with commitment. I haven't found a man who will wait for me.-lm not a religous person and I do not want a church man I just want to find other people who understand me. P.S casual issue sex is when a confused,naive Virgin with social issue has sex with any penis or vagina that walk in the room.The virgin doesn't want to deal with their social issue so they use sex to not deal with their problem. Last edited by quietgrl; 08-22-2006 at 08:00 AM.

08-22-2006, 10:00 AM	#9
FoxLocke Offline Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Across 110th Street Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 1,003	Well, you will get plenty of support here. This site is good for that. Anyway, I am a virgin too. However, my I stayed a virgin because of different issues than yours...Now I am up for losing my virginity with someone I care about. __________________ "Tyger! Tyger! burning bright In the forests of the night, What immortal hand or eye Dare frame thy fearful symmetry?" 1794 William Blake

08-22-2006, 10:11 AM	#10
Scotcha Offline Silver Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: New York Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 802	Thanks for clearing that up, I really didn't know what you meant. I think it's great that you are waiting for the right guy, in fact, I wish I had that much will power. The right guy will understand. Last edited by Scotcha; 08-22-2006 at 10:11 AM. Reason: spelling

08-22-2006, 12:50 AM	#2
Süsser Tod Offline Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Away from enotalone.com Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 889	I'm not really sure what is your point. Are you complaining about being a virgin, or are you complaining about being unable to find someone worthy of having sex with?

08-22-2006, 01:25 AM	#3
Scotcha Offline Silver Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: New York Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 802	I don't understand what "virgin for casual sex" or a "sex with commitment virgin" could mean unless.. It was a dating site for virgins wanting to hook up?? Can that be right? I'm confused.

08-22-2006, 01:43 AM	#4
laboheme Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 837	What kind of support are you looking for? If it helps any, I have tremendous respect for anyone who's willing to wait for the relationship situation to be just right before having sex. Casual sex is definitely not for everyone, and I feel like one's first time should be in a loving, caring relationship... unfortunately, it seems like that's often not the case. That said, what is your dating situation like? Maybe your concerns are more about dating than virginity?

08-22-2006, 09:28 AM	#7
helpme2 Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 316	why did you decide to wait until a commitment? (not that I knock that decision, I think it's a good one, but then I am religious)

08-22-2006, 09:34 AM	#8
MI_Shell Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 174	I agree that it is best to wait for commitment for sex. It is too devestating to just be used for a casual fling and end up an emotional basket case. It is certainly frustrating having to hope there is someone out there right for you. I am not a virgin but I am not entering into casual sex just waiting for a decent commited relationship. I would rather have no one than not committed to. At least by making your stand you can spare yourself from a lot of emotional heart ache.