She wont go with oral sex.

inlove123 · 08-20-2006, 11:14 PM

Ok its been a while since my last post. Things are going great with my GF now

But we started having sex quite a while back but now we are really starting to get into the real nitty gritty of it. Ive become more "educated" of her more sensitive spots in her and on the outside. Mainly what I do when I give oral is mainly focus on the clit. One in a while I will use my tounge a bit near or in her for a few seconds just to excite her a bit. But she never goes. I experiment all the time with different pressures I use with my tounge, what surface, etc... and I think ive found a good combination of what pressure, what surface etc...to use by the sound of her moans. Sometimes there so loud she has to put a pillow on her face and hold it. Ill see her stomach constantly throwing spasms and stuff, but no matter what she never goes. By the time im about 10-15 minutes in...she always makes me stick it in her.

Why isnt it possible for her to orgasm when I lick her?

I sure as hell can orgasm when she sucks me

Imperceptible · 08-21-2006, 01:39 AM

All women are different. Don't assume she's not enjoying every second of it because she's not orgasming. Her moaning should be a clue she's having the time of her life. Women don't have to orgasm to be at the height of excitement and many women can't orgasm at all.

heloladies21 · 08-21-2006, 02:20 AM

You should talk to your girl. Find out what usually gets her off and which ways she likes it the best. I don't believe that this is a taboo subject above verbal communication before, during, and after. Can she orgasm during sex after you've gone down on her? She might need to feel more comfortable with you just by and that's solved just by talking about it and doing it a bunch, then things could be a little easier. Find out what she does on her own, if she has a vibrator and enjoys it. You could use it as part of the whole experience just to finish her off.

Aschleigh · 08-22-2006, 09:31 PM

One thing that helped me relax and have an orgasm was knowing my boyfriend was really into it and wanted to go down on me.
How about you say to her: I really like going down on you. I am happy to take the time it takes to learn how to and make you cum. It's ok if it takes experimenting. I'm into it."
Also , what works for me is if I tell my boyfriend when to stop and start and how hard to use his tongue. Ask her a lot questions. Tell her you really want to know what makes her feel good. Be patient.
I now know that my boyfriend needs to gradually increase the pressure on my clit. But only to a point and then lay off for a few seconds or a minute and then start again. The first orgasm is very slight but still feels good. Then be backs off for a bit and then starts again, a little bit harder this time. Then the 2nd orgasm is a little bit stronger, and so on.
I was to shy to speak up at first about what I want. It took a lot of encouragement. Mostly it's about communication. It's her body, she has to tell you the microscopic : yes right there, no a little to the left, harder, faster, slow down, details. This will take some time. But what a good time it is!

BrokenWingedFaery · 08-23-2006, 01:44 AM

Some women simply can't orgasm during oral (or whatever other activity) and THAT'S OK! Unless she's upset about it, you shouldn't worry. The focus shouldn't be on orgasm, but on enjoyment.

inlove123 · 08-23-2006, 10:14 AM

She can always orgasm during sex. She moans very loud when I go down on her, I know she isnt faking it. She brought up the point of being consistent with it. Same goes for me I guess. If I want to orgasm, I need to be given consistent motion aswell but I guess its the same with her. Shes not sad about the fact she doesnt go. But I am. I wanna give her everything and more when it comes down to that.

I dont want to make a big deal of this and you guys helped me understand alot better. I usually wouldnt discuss this with other women or even my guy friends for that matter. That why im glad I found this forum.

Thanx a bunch girls/guys

08-20-2006, 11:14 PM	#1
inlove123 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: I'm out there Jerry and I'm loving every minute of it! Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 259	She wont go with oral sex. Ok its been a while since my last post. Things are going great with my GF now But we started having sex quite a while back but now we are really starting to get into the real nitty gritty of it. Ive become more "educated" of her more sensitive spots in her and on the outside. Mainly what I do when I give oral is mainly focus on the clit. One in a while I will use my tounge a bit near or in her for a few seconds just to excite her a bit. But she never goes. I experiment all the time with different pressures I use with my tounge, what surface, etc... and I think ive found a good combination of what pressure, what surface etc...to use by the sound of her moans. Sometimes there so loud she has to put a pillow on her face and hold it. Ill see her stomach constantly throwing spasms and stuff, but no matter what she never goes. By the time im about 10-15 minutes in...she always makes me stick it in her. Why isnt it possible for her to orgasm when I lick her? I sure as hell can orgasm when she sucks me

08-23-2006, 01:44 AM	#5
BrokenWingedFaery Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Florida Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 514	Some women simply can't orgasm during oral (or whatever other activity) and THAT'S OK! Unless she's upset about it, you shouldn't worry. The focus shouldn't be on orgasm, but on enjoyment. __________________ they will cry, they will bleed, and they will crawl children will survive and grow angel wings these angels will spread their wings…rise and fall Blixy, "Rise and Fall". Cryptika: Beneath the Remains

08-21-2006, 01:39 AM	#2
Imperceptible Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 210	All women are different. Don't assume she's not enjoying every second of it because she's not orgasming. Her moaning should be a clue she's having the time of her life. Women don't have to orgasm to be at the height of excitement and many women can't orgasm at all.

08-21-2006, 02:20 AM	#3
heloladies21 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 3,898	You should talk to your girl. Find out what usually gets her off and which ways she likes it the best. I don't believe that this is a taboo subject above verbal communication before, during, and after. Can she orgasm during sex after you've gone down on her? She might need to feel more comfortable with you just by and that's solved just by talking about it and doing it a bunch, then things could be a little easier. Find out what she does on her own, if she has a vibrator and enjoys it. You could use it as part of the whole experience just to finish her off.

08-22-2006, 09:31 PM	#4
Aschleigh Offline Gold Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Los Angeles Gender: Female Posts: 861	One thing that helped me relax and have an orgasm was knowing my boyfriend was really into it and wanted to go down on me. How about you say to her: I really like going down on you. I am happy to take the time it takes to learn how to and make you cum. It's ok if it takes experimenting. I'm into it." Also , what works for me is if I tell my boyfriend when to stop and start and how hard to use his tongue. Ask her a lot questions. Tell her you really want to know what makes her feel good. Be patient. I now know that my boyfriend needs to gradually increase the pressure on my clit. But only to a point and then lay off for a few seconds or a minute and then start again. The first orgasm is very slight but still feels good. Then be backs off for a bit and then starts again, a little bit harder this time. Then the 2nd orgasm is a little bit stronger, and so on. I was to shy to speak up at first about what I want. It took a lot of encouragement. Mostly it's about communication. It's her body, she has to tell you the microscopic : yes right there, no a little to the left, harder, faster, slow down, details. This will take some time. But what a good time it is!

08-23-2006, 10:14 AM	#6
inlove123 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: I'm out there Jerry and I'm loving every minute of it! Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 259	She can always orgasm during sex. She moans very loud when I go down on her, I know she isnt faking it. She brought up the point of being consistent with it. Same goes for me I guess. If I want to orgasm, I need to be given consistent motion aswell but I guess its the same with her. Shes not sad about the fact she doesnt go. But I am. I wanna give her everything and more when it comes down to that. I dont want to make a big deal of this and you guys helped me understand alot better. I usually wouldnt discuss this with other women or even my guy friends for that matter. That why im glad I found this forum. Thanx a bunch girls/guys