Obsessive compulsive disorder.

Yvette84 · 07-13-2006, 05:17 PM

Hey, well I'm kinda falling for this guy that has OCD. the thing is we haven't met yet because he lives far, we talk ALL the time on the phone though. So he told me has has OCD, and that he's going to Boston for 1-3 months to get it under control. It's pretty bad to the point where he can't touch anything without gloves, but he IS going to get help. I was just wondering if a relationship would be possible with someone who has this? if they get help that is. Any advice would help

thanx

Starfall · 07-13-2006, 05:19 PM

As long as he gets treatment, I see no problems. You will need to have a lot of patience and when you get upset, remember it's not him, it's the OCD.

AwdreeHpburn · 07-13-2006, 05:19 PM

I imagine people with OCDs still have emotional relationships, yes.

Victoria66 · 07-13-2006, 05:41 PM

I would RUN like HELL........my husband of 13 years has OCD and my life is a living HELL......some people may say do not get impatient it is the disease, yeah well there comes a time when you have to think of yourself too, these people have more problems than just germs and it is a LIFE LONG illness with lots of ups and downs and is something which can be passed onto your kids like my poor son. It is really something to think about. This is just my personal opininon but I would run away FAST!

Jesus Christ · 07-13-2006, 06:30 PM

It seriously is nothing to take lightly..
just a warning

Dako · 07-13-2006, 06:38 PM

It might be something to consider with care.
I live with someone who might not have OCD, but his rituals and hypercleanliness make life challenging. Taking a shower or cooking involve numerous steps to keep him happy. Four different color kitchen towels, one for hands, one for cooking, one for dishes and one for drying cookware. When I drink a beer, I have to wash the bottle and carry it to the bin behind the barn for that color glass, then put a new warm bottle in its place in the fridge after moving the cold ones to the front.
I could tell stories....

When I got a cold, he went out and bought dozens of cans of Lysol and put them around the house.

Yvette84 · 07-13-2006, 07:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dako

It might be something to consider with care.
I live with someone who might not have OCD, but his rituals and hypercleanliness make life challenging. Taking a shower or cooking involve numerous steps to keep him happy. Four different color kitchen towels, one for hands, one for cooking, one for dishes and one for drying cookware. When I drink a beer, I have to wash the bottle and carry it to the bin behind the barn for that color glass, then put a new warm bottle in its place in the fridge after moving the cold ones to the front.
I could tell stories....

When I got a cold, he went out and bought dozens of cans of Lysol and put them around the house.

it sounds like he does have OCD..?

yeawutever · 07-13-2006, 08:05 PM

Yes, it's still possible to establish a relation with someone who has OCD. However, if the disorder interferes with your social interaction, daily functions, etc. then that's when you ahve to seek professional help. As long as he's willing to get helped and you're patient with him, then a relation can be form.

nottoogreen · 07-13-2006, 10:21 PM

Hi Yvette,

You want to be a loving healthy partner to your loving healthy partner.

You are not a therapist, you also don't want nurse or rescue your partner.

Firstly, he should be in therapy at this time already. If not it is a big red flag even for friendship because he does not look after himself.

IMHO, the guy is not ready for a relationship because of OCD. When he is in therapy, you can be friends with him until he is cured and then see who he really is and see further.

07-13-2006, 05:17 PM	#1
Yvette84 Offline Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Cali Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 734	Obsessive compulsive disorder. Hey, well I'm kinda falling for this guy that has OCD. the thing is we haven't met yet because he lives far, we talk ALL the time on the phone though. So he told me has has OCD, and that he's going to Boston for 1-3 months to get it under control. It's pretty bad to the point where he can't touch anything without gloves, but he IS going to get help. I was just wondering if a relationship would be possible with someone who has this? if they get help that is. Any advice would help thanx

07-13-2006, 05:19 PM	#3
AwdreeHpburn Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Tiffany's Gender: Female Age: 37 Posts: 4,639	I imagine people with OCDs still have emotional relationships, yes. __________________ What i really meant to say, is that I'm sorry for the way I am......

07-13-2006, 08:05 PM	#8
yeawutever Online Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Age: 22 Posts: 5,672	Yes, it's still possible to establish a relation with someone who has OCD. However, if the disorder interferes with your social interaction, daily functions, etc. then that's when you ahve to seek professional help. As long as he's willing to get helped and you're patient with him, then a relation can be form. __________________ Opened-minded to those in need of help. Not everything is black and white as it seems.... If you're gonna do something, think twice and make sure it's something worthy that you don't later on regret!!!!!!!!!!! Still in a LDR with boyfriend.

07-13-2006, 05:19 PM	#2
Starfall Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Fl. Gender: Female Age: 42 Posts: 289	As long as he gets treatment, I see no problems. You will need to have a lot of patience and when you get upset, remember it's not him, it's the OCD.

07-13-2006, 05:41 PM	#4
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,601	I would RUN like HELL........my husband of 13 years has OCD and my life is a living HELL......some people may say do not get impatient it is the disease, yeah well there comes a time when you have to think of yourself too, these people have more problems than just germs and it is a LIFE LONG illness with lots of ups and downs and is something which can be passed onto your kids like my poor son. It is really something to think about. This is just my personal opininon but I would run away FAST!

07-13-2006, 06:30 PM	#5
Jesus Christ Offline Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 20	It seriously is nothing to take lightly.. just a warning

07-13-2006, 06:38 PM	#6
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,115	It might be something to consider with care. I live with someone who might not have OCD, but his rituals and hypercleanliness make life challenging. Taking a shower or cooking involve numerous steps to keep him happy. Four different color kitchen towels, one for hands, one for cooking, one for dishes and one for drying cookware. When I drink a beer, I have to wash the bottle and carry it to the bin behind the barn for that color glass, then put a new warm bottle in its place in the fridge after moving the cold ones to the front. I could tell stories.... When I got a cold, he went out and bought dozens of cans of Lysol and put them around the house.

07-13-2006, 10:21 PM	#9
nottoogreen Offline Join Date: May 2006 Gender: Male Posts: 2,530	Hi Yvette, You want to be a loving healthy partner to your loving healthy partner. You are not a therapist, you also don't want nurse or rescue your partner. Firstly, he should be in therapy at this time already. If not it is a big red flag even for friendship because he does not look after himself. IMHO, the guy is not ready for a relationship because of OCD. When he is in therapy, you can be friends with him until he is cured and then see who he really is and see further.