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I feel SO shallow writing this

Please help

There's this guy I like a lot about but it's LD.. he will be here to visit in a few months. He will be staying with me for 2 weeks.. Because of our feelings for each other I am afraid he will want to do the deed.

 

So here's the problem.. He is the smallest guy I have ever seen. I mean it's literally the length and width of a girl's pinky, and that's when hard (we have fooled around before so I know this).. when it's soft it's like it's not even there!!

I am afraid the sex would be lousy, all my previous partners have been average and most have been pretty big. What if I didn't even feel anything?! I mean, he is literally smaller than a tampon. Sex is very important to me, I enjoy standard penetration much more than say, oral or masturbating... am I making too big a deal out of this??

 

I feel like a jerk.

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No, the length and the width of a girls pinky is sad to say it, but some kind of penile deformation. If you love him enough perhaps you could work it out, but honestly I don't know how great the sex would be, you'd be better off if he used his fingers to penetrate you. I'm sorry, geez that must really suck for him.

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eh, ive had this problem, i went from one extreme to the next...was with a guy about that size (pinky) and then with a Ron Jeremy sized one lmao...literally, my friends didnt believe me so i took pics of him, his nickname is now PSD as in Porn Star D...well u get it.

But the sex with the lil guy was just as good (ok not nearly but it was ok), he knew how to work it...and i tried not to focus on the actual penetration, but the part of us being together. he was very passionate and we just made it work.

if you like him and care about him, just make the best of it. good luck!

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n83 - don't feel like a jerk. I totally know what you mean, and it does make a difference.

 

I think if you really like him mentally and emotionally, the physical is easy enough to take care of. There are always ways to enjoy the experience for you but it will most likely have to involve toys. I hope you're up for that.

 

It can be made all the more fun because he's someone you like.

 

I suggest going into with a positive outlook. If you think it's gonna suck, it prolly will. But if you think to yourself, "hey, this could be ok." Than it will be.

 

Just have fun with it and him! Best of luck.....

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I've never used toys ..

 

How common is this small penis thing?! I've never heard of anyone having this happen to them before, although there was an episode of sex and the city where one of the girls started crying when she realized while making love that her perfect guy had a small penis ..

i totally sympathize

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Its gotta be fairly common. There is an "average" which means there are going to be those who fall below it and those who are lucky to be above it.

 

I have totally been with someone who was so small it was weird.

 

Maybe you could try the toy thing. Just because you never have, doesn't mean you never will, right??

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I don't know, I seen it on a website that someone on here posted the link for. It looks just like one and he puts it on himself so it must feel good to him as well????? It says it adds inches to width and girth! idunno tho

 

 

 

very interesting

 

 

See! Just surf the net for a while. You're bound to find something that'll please all parties involved.

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Ok, now I understand from just reading your post now, why most guys seem to be concern about their penis size, esp. some on yahoo chat, whenever the same question was ask "I'm I too big, too small". They are concern about sexual compatability and afraid of getting turn off cuz of that, the actual penetration does matter and it either can be pleasurable or suck.

 

To the poster: Try to be understadable, nope, you're not being a jerk, you're just surprise by that and a bit disappointed you didn't get full penetration. But what now happens is if you really like him, then emotions and feeling can overcome the actual physical act.

 

It would be a suggetsion if you try out other sexual positions, there's more to it than just the "penis in vagina", or you can try buying sex toys on porn stores.

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I cant really afford a toy right now .. if I got one, how would I ask him to use it without offending him? Especially if it was one that added length/girth or something... He is very aware of the fact that he is very small so I wouldn't be telling him something he didnt already know.. but I don't want to be rude. He told me that his ex used to make comments all the time about his small penis and compare him to her ex who was much bigger.

 

Sorry one more question, do they make condoms that small.. ?? Seriously a normal sized one would probably just fall right off and I refuse to go without one..

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they do make insanely small condoms, yes. I'm sure he knows his size.

 

If you can't afford a toy, try a lot of masterbation during. But if you did have one, just tell him you'd like to make it fun. It's not a personal thing so don't approach it like one. Just bring it up like it's an idea you had for fun.

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I am 18 years old, I know how to measure myself the correct way and not cheat, I'm just at 8 inches. If a woman asked me to use a toy, I would be kinda humiliated. I mean I am completely comfertable and feel blessed to be given what I have. It's just a man can't feel like a man when he has to use toys to get her off. Woman want to feel a real man inside, not some toy, that's just the way human nature is. If he can't please you, and it's important to you, move on. You can have stong feelings again for another guy out there too.

 

It does sound shallow, but you want a future with that guy, and possible life? You have to live with what he's got, worth it or not??

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Then what about real feelings for that person, it wouldn't seem fair to get dump b/c of him having a small penis, it's not his fault. That would sound like he was getting used the whole time for "just lust", there are other ways to please besides penetration.

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Then it means you don't like him as a person, but like the idea of penetration only, while not trying all the other positions, thus the poor guy is being used.

 

 

No, it is like the guy or girl who is good in every way but there is no chemistry.

 

I wouldn't be using him. I'd be doing us both a favor.

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Well no need to feel like a jerk. Because we're not talking here about a guy who's avarage or little bit smaller but still in that average ratio.

If you are shure that he's smaller than your finger....well, that's bad.

Complaining about a guy of beeing avarage and wishing xxl would be stupid!

 

So I guess try having sex with him if you really want to and if it turns out awfull don't be with him anymore. That's maybe cruel, but let's face it, if a guy sucks in bed and he is xxl you are going to dump him too.

So I guess my point is that if he's really that small you have a problem. Plus, I guess he has self esteem problem and that will make potential relationship difficult. If you are not too attached to him spare yourself a lot of difficulties.

 

There is no waranty that if you were without one brest he would be willing to sleep with you! Or if you had some other physical deformation.

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