i miss her

confused? · 05-18-2006, 04:39 AM

Does anyone believe in the dead really being in heaven or anything like that?
i just lost an old friend who i'd been fighting with for awhile, i never got to say sorry to her and i miss her. She died in such a sudden and cruel way and i pray every night to her and i always apoligise for losing her both as a friend,and in death.(im not even religious,but i do it anyway,just in case)
i don't think i'll ever get over the fact that she's gone,let alone that i hadn't spoken to her for so long. There isn't even a grave i can visit to talk to her. She's just gone. Is there any advice on how to move on? i feel like i'm just trapped, I can't move on knowing she died thinking i hated her and she hated me! We were once so close. xxx thank you.

Spugly Fuglet · 05-18-2006, 05:31 AM

may be my point of view on this my help,

I belive that if there is another place where where our souls may go, is out side of time, this may sould odd but as the worlds a we know it seems to be movng one way throw time it is hard to comprehend. But why should this other place be govended by our laws.

If there is no time then yes they would be there with evry one who has, is and will live.

That means that thow you are here now, you are also with them there after the end of your life.

So in fact your Hugging them even as you read.

With out time there is no death.

**Hope75** · 05-18-2006, 05:43 AM

I'm sorry you lost your friend, and in such an awful way.

I believe that whether there is a heaven or not, that we go to a better place where we are at peace, and can watch over those we love.

If you ask her for forgiveness for growing apart, I'm sure she will hear you and forgive you.

In the meantime, keep talking about it and venting. It's difficult to lose a friend and even more so if it is to violence or a tragic accident, before they have a chance to live a full and long life. Sometimes just talking about it and getting it out helps us heal.

((HUGS))

Beyondthesea · 05-18-2006, 10:33 AM

My best friend died a few weeks ago suddenly so I can relate. I hadn't kept in close enough contact with her and I feel guilty and sad and am unsure of how to grieve.

I pray for her and ask God to give her and her family peace. I also ask for peace within myself.

Don't worry, she knows how much you meant to her.

HappyDays · 05-30-2006, 01:26 AM

i know how you feel.....i lost my mummy last year, then 2 months later a friend i was fighting with was killed in an accident. i dont even know what more to say than that. its awful, hideous, it strips you bear and nobody ever sees it. but there is hope, i dont have set beliefs on an after life, i just like to think that my mummy and other loved ones loved me too much to leave me completely - whether thats haunting me or just living on through my memories i know they are with me always. i cant believe that this is my life now, and that i now have the wisdom of experiencing loss....and im sure there are times when others think the same thing. but i suggest talking....talk talk talk and suddenly it comes easy and then it doesnt seem so bad. i know that we can get bitter and believe ppl dont want to listen but just reach out. um i guess thats all that i can offer sorry

Hope_Springs_Eternal · 03-01-2008, 10:40 AM

Forgive yourself. I believe you may be feeling guilt for having fallen out and not had the opportunity to make up. Its like unfinished business, then the ability to fix it was taken away when she died, hence your feelings.

If the situation was reversed, she would feel like you do Im sure, and Im also sure that she would forgive you, hug you, and want you to live a long and very happy life full of love and laughter.

chin up, were rooting for you x

05-18-2006, 04:39 AM	#1
confused? Offline Member Join Date: May 2006 Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 36	i miss her Does anyone believe in the dead really being in heaven or anything like that? i just lost an old friend who i'd been fighting with for awhile, i never got to say sorry to her and i miss her. She died in such a sudden and cruel way and i pray every night to her and i always apoligise for losing her both as a friend,and in death.(im not even religious,but i do it anyway,just in case) i don't think i'll ever get over the fact that she's gone,let alone that i hadn't spoken to her for so long. There isn't even a grave i can visit to talk to her. She's just gone. Is there any advice on how to move on? i feel like i'm just trapped, I can't move on knowing she died thinking i hated her and she hated me! We were once so close. xxx thank you.

05-18-2006, 05:43 AM	#3
Hope75 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: kitteh ville Gender: Female Age: 33 Posts: 12,512	I'm sorry you lost your friend, and in such an awful way. I believe that whether there is a heaven or not, that we go to a better place where we are at peace, and can watch over those we love. If you ask her for forgiveness for growing apart, I'm sure she will hear you and forgive you. In the meantime, keep talking about it and venting. It's difficult to lose a friend and even more so if it is to violence or a tragic accident, before they have a chance to live a full and long life. Sometimes just talking about it and getting it out helps us heal. ((HUGS)) __________________ Muffin cats need love too. Please refer to the forum rules before posting: http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php Mama to a beautiful baby girl born 6-25-09. :)

05-18-2006, 10:33 AM	#4
Beyondthesea Offline Gold Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: where the streets have no name Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 1,606	My best friend died a few weeks ago suddenly so I can relate. I hadn't kept in close enough contact with her and I feel guilty and sad and am unsure of how to grieve. I pray for her and ask God to give her and her family peace. I also ask for peace within myself. Don't worry, she knows how much you meant to her. __________________ _____________________________ Dreams are renewable, whether you're five or 105, you have a lifetime ahead of you. ~Rev. Dale Turner It's never too late, in fiction or in life, to revise. ~Nancy Thayer Every day you sit back and wait for something to happen is another day lost. ~Jennifer Flavin

05-30-2006, 01:26 AM	#5
HappyDays Offline Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2	i know i know how you feel.....i lost my mummy last year, then 2 months later a friend i was fighting with was killed in an accident. i dont even know what more to say than that. its awful, hideous, it strips you bear and nobody ever sees it. but there is hope, i dont have set beliefs on an after life, i just like to think that my mummy and other loved ones loved me too much to leave me completely - whether thats haunting me or just living on through my memories i know they are with me always. i cant believe that this is my life now, and that i now have the wisdom of experiencing loss....and im sure there are times when others think the same thing. but i suggest talking....talk talk talk and suddenly it comes easy and then it doesnt seem so bad. i know that we can get bitter and believe ppl dont want to listen but just reach out. um i guess thats all that i can offer sorry

05-18-2006, 05:31 AM	#2
Spugly Fuglet Offline Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: London Village Gender: Male Posts: 1,707	may be my point of view on this my help, I belive that if there is another place where where our souls may go, is out side of time, this may sould odd but as the worlds a we know it seems to be movng one way throw time it is hard to comprehend. But why should this other place be govended by our laws. If there is no time then yes they would be there with evry one who has, is and will live. That means that thow you are here now, you are also with them there after the end of your life. So in fact your Hugging them even as you read. With out time there is no death.

03-01-2008, 10:40 AM	#6
Hope_Springs_Eternal Offline Gold Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 589	Forgive yourself. I believe you may be feeling guilt for having fallen out and not had the opportunity to make up. Its like unfinished business, then the ability to fix it was taken away when she died, hence your feelings. If the situation was reversed, she would feel like you do Im sure, and Im also sure that she would forgive you, hug you, and want you to live a long and very happy life full of love and laughter. chin up, were rooting for you x