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    My boyfriend won't kiss me!

    Ok, this is bugging the crap outta me, but my boyfriend will not kiss me. We have amazing sex, and we both care for each other, though we've never said it. However, he just will not kiss me. He will move his head and kiss me neck passionatley, kisses me everywhere but my lips. When he's drunk, he will kiss me, and when he's drunk, he's amazing in bed. I don't get it? I've asked him once before why he doesn't kiss me and he said he just doesn't like to kiss, or that he's just eaten, or some other stupid excuse. He is very insecure, so I'm wondering if this is maybe another one of his insecurites seeing as he only kisses me when he's drunk. I'm also wondering if it's his way of distancing himself from me, feeling that kissing is too personal. He has never been close to anyone, and has had a very messed up life, and I think I'm the only one he's ever been close to. I would love input from guys who have hangups about kissing. PLEASE HELP!

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    I'm thinking maybe he just has some insecurities about how well he kisses.

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    Possible what Yang said.... maybe try complimenting on his kissing abilities...

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    Does he have bad breath?

    I have halitosis, and lemme tell you ... it sure changed how often I tried to kiss women. I used to love it, now I am very self-conscious about it. I've found the solution (tongue scraper, never knew about that!) but I have to use it 2-3 times a day, along with pre-rinse, mouthwash, and floss every day!

    I'd ask him straight out. If you don't get an answer ask him if he's worried about his breath. If he is I can recommend:

    Plax pre-rinse
    Brush
    Scrape tongue
    Floss (I use one of those toothbrush-with-floss-on-the-end things)
    Listerine

    twice a day.

    Otherwise, maybe you should play along and promise not to kiss him but get close. Touch his lips with your fingernails (not the tips, the actual top) by sliding gently across the lips and otherwise just do whatever you can to stimulate him. When he does kiss you, make it obvious you love it.

    You can always teach an old dog new tricks.
    Advice given is only as good as the details you provide, and even then it's just an opinion. No one knows the situation as well as you do, so trust your gut.

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    I have in the past complimented him. I remember once asking why he wouldn't kiss me and he said, if I remember correctly, that he wasn't good at it. He then kissed me and I said "See, you can kiss!" But I think that was the last time we really kissed when he was sober, and this was in February. I want to chalk it up to insecurity but it makes me feel like he doesn't care about me. He tells me he does not want commitment, which is fine by me because I don't want it either at this point in my life, but I genuinely care about him, and I'm confident that he cares about me just from his actions. But by him saying he does not want commitment, I tend to tie the no kissing thing to this as his way of distancing himself from me. Gosh it sucks, I just want some tongue!

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    Heh. Get him a drink!!!
    Advice given is only as good as the details you provide, and even then it's just an opinion. No one knows the situation as well as you do, so trust your gut.

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    Well because the standard for you guy's relationship has sort of been set, it may (I hope not) take a momenumental effort to get him to engage in a make-out session. Perhaps you could start small and tell him that even a quick peck is a small gesture that goes a long way with you. Take baby steps and see how that goes.

    However, there was this one guy that was currrrrazy over me and he was always very affectionate and the works EXCEPT he did not like kissing. He told me this before that he wasn't a big fan of kissing. So maybe he's just one of thos guys. Good luck!

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    Hmmm no, he doesn't have bad breath. He's actually a very good kisser, so I don't understand why he would have any hangups on kissing. I wonder sometimes if it's my breath! I chew gum all the time, really strong minty gum so I don't have bad breath. I don't think I do, but maybe my gum is not to his liking? LOL I don't think it's anything with bad breath. When I first met him we kissed all the time. The first time we hung out together we made out like crazy, my lips were black and blue. (No lie!) It was embarrasing to go out in public with bruised lips, but I'm dying for that passion we had on the first night. Not that there is any lacking, but that night was really really hot, haha. (Probably because we were both wasted) I think I should make him drink more lol.

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    Redirect,

    To be honest I don't know if this is a good sign. I was like your boyfriend, and if I wasn't in love with a person I wouldn't like to kiss them, but would sleep with them. I could be wrong but this could be the case with him.

    Many men (without realizing it) have 3 cateogories when it comes to women they date.
    1. Sexual chemistry, but are not connecting in other areas. Men usually won't fall in love with this women. At first the man may feel this way because sex is great, but when the passion dies, they usually get bored, and fall out of love.
    2. Chemistry in every area except sexual chemistry. The women could be nice, sweet, cool, even physically attractive, but are missing that sexual spark. The man could fall in love with this person, but more times than not, they will love the person dearly, but not fall in love.
    3. They have physical, sexual, emotional and intellectual chemistry. A man will go through a brick wall for a women like this, and would love kissing this women like this.

    I really hope I am wrong, and I don't know the whole situation, but you may be the girl in the 1st category. Because a man (baring anything wierd phobias) will always kiss a women he is love with.

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    I was in a relationship with a guy...and the sexual chemistry was awesome. He kissed me all the time......and he LOVED it. I think kissing CAN be a barometer of ones feelings. I personally can NOT kiss someone I don't feel anything for. Hug, yes..but NOT kiss.
    Remember the move Pretty Woman? She didn't "kiss on the mouth"....lol

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