My ex is a narcissist who treated me really badly and did pretty much everything to break my heart. We broke up 3 weeks ago. He has continually tried to get in touch with me, but I haven't responded apart from very polite, curt replies.
Now he wants me back. The problem is he doesn't KNOW how to be nice to anyone. He is completely out of touch with his emotions. If he wants to speak to me, he contacts me on some trivial pretext and starts an argument and talks aggressively.
Yesterday he asked me to meet him. When I reminded him that we weren't seeing each other anymore, he said hadn't asked me to marry him and he only wanted to seduce me! That was pretty hurtful. But I know that he is hurtful and unpleasant when he is feeling hurt himself.
Sometimes I feel so sorry for him and that's my big problem. There is a part of me that still loves him and wants to help him. It's like seeing a child wanting to apologise, but not knowing the words. I know you will think - just leave him and ignore him. EVERYONE has said that repeatedly. I just find it hard. Like leaving a dying kitten on a road and not looking back. It's not in me. He OBVIOUSLY needs help - and his fights are just a silent scream for attention.
Can this person be helped?