i hate hearing and knowing

b8s · 03-21-2006, 11:25 PM

well i have decided that even if my ex wants me i dont want him back the way he is now, all the drinking and parties. he is not the same guy i got together with.

but i have to admit i HATE hearing at work every day what they did the night before and over hear how funny or great he was. and they go out everynight so even on the days when we were not working together i hear stories!!

and i know that one of these days i am going to go into work and hear that he has hooked up with someone else from there.

in a way i like seeing him there and knowing what hes up too, but i HATE it at the same time.
HELP!!!

i know i dont like who he is now but i do love who he was and we were before.

what can i do to stop hearing about his active social life and not have it bother me??

please help i am ready to move on but i need some help with this aspect..

thank you in advance for anything you say!

newbie30 · 03-22-2006, 12:32 AM

b8s,

I've been reading your posts and I am so sorry. I was wondering though- could you find another place to work? Do you want to? I see you're a server- is it possible to switch to another chain of the restaurant?

andy_stone · 03-22-2006, 12:49 AM

Yea you gotta get out of there.I don't know what else you can do.I feel bad for you that has really got to suck.

b8s · 03-22-2006, 08:46 AM

money wise i am in the best spot and the other restaurents are on the outskirts of the city. plus i have alot of senority there. and the friends i do have there are good ones.

03-21-2006, 11:25 PM	#1
b8s Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: None Specified Posts: 76	i hate hearing and knowing well i have decided that even if my ex wants me i dont want him back the way he is now, all the drinking and parties. he is not the same guy i got together with. but i have to admit i HATE hearing at work every day what they did the night before and over hear how funny or great he was. and they go out everynight so even on the days when we were not working together i hear stories!! and i know that one of these days i am going to go into work and hear that he has hooked up with someone else from there. in a way i like seeing him there and knowing what hes up too, but i HATE it at the same time. HELP!!! i know i dont like who he is now but i do love who he was and we were before. what can i do to stop hearing about his active social life and not have it bother me?? please help i am ready to move on but i need some help with this aspect.. thank you in advance for anything you say!

03-22-2006, 12:49 AM	#3
andy_stone Offline Silver Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: The dirty south Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 377	Yea you gotta get out of there.I don't know what else you can do.I feel bad for you that has really got to suck. __________________ "A man change's, a love change's, and best friend's become stranger's"

03-22-2006, 12:32 AM	#2
newbie30 Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: usa Gender: Female Posts: 72	b8s, I've been reading your posts and I am so sorry. I was wondering though- could you find another place to work? Do you want to? I see you're a server- is it possible to switch to another chain of the restaurant?

03-22-2006, 08:46 AM	#4
b8s Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: None Specified Posts: 76	money wise i am in the best spot and the other restaurents are on the outskirts of the city. plus i have alot of senority there. and the friends i do have there are good ones.