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    Why do men fall in love more quickly than women????

    I have read in my social psychology texts that men fall in love more quickly than women do??? Why do you think this is????

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    I think women get attached to a man more quickly than vice versa but when a man falls in love with a woman, it is harder for him to let go than a woman. Hence the difference between love and attachment.

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    It really all depends on the individual, but women are generally perceived as being more emotional and in touch with their feelings. So it seems that if we are generalizing, women probably fall in love faster then men. Though again, it depends on the individual. I don't fall in love fast, but the couple times I have, and the other crushes I've had, they have all been very deep and take a long time to get over.
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    I know a lot of people might disagree with me, but I suspect it might have to do with the way men and women fall in love. I think men fall in love with what he sees and feels right away from a woman... how she looks, how she makes him feel, how she laughs, certain personality qualities. But women are biologically wired to look for signals of a good provider and caretaker in a mate... which take longer to evaulate.

    Also, women are more emotionally expressive, which allows a man to get to know a women better. Men are less expressive, so it takes longer to get to know them and fall in love with them.

    Just a thought. Interesting question.

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    Quote Originally Posted by renaissancewoman101
    I think women get attached to a man more quickly than vice versa but when a man falls in love with a woman, it is harder for him to let go than a woman. Hence the difference between love and attachment.
    WHY? Why do I get so attached so easily? Why do women do this? Sometimes it's so hard to distinguish the difference between love and attachment! Im ranting...lol!
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    I think it highly depends on the level of maturity (when I say mature- I don't refer to age- some people can be extremely mature for their age) . We ALL have crushes in our lives at one point in time or the other.

    In terms of mature relationships and love I think that often times, based on the topic of your post, some people cannot distinguish between the true meaning of love and lust.

    Whoever said that men fall in love and out of love faster than women do, I think what they're alluding to- is the fact that most often, people mistake lust for love, when in fact, to love someone- to truly love someone- that feeling takes time. People just DON'T fall in and out of love that fast. If that's the case- then whatever emotions that person faces- it's mostly either:
    A. Lust -OR-
    B. falling for an illusion of Who they think they love, but they really don't really love. They fall in love with an illussion not the actual person. In other words, the lust factor overpowers their ability to make a better judgement of who they love. It's hard for them to dissociate lust from love. Make any sense? It doesn't mean that lust can't also turn into love, because it can. It just takes time for BOTH people to really get to know each other.

    Love is very complex. It takes time. Side Note: When someone says they love you too fast too soon, don't believe them. Take their words with caution. I had several experiences in the past where the guys I either dated or were friends with jumped in too soon by saying "I really care for you a lot" or "I really love you" within just 2 months of knowing or dating me- it NEVER turned out right. That's why I say take things with a grain of salt.

    Another thing- basic components of love are:
    #1. HONESTY
    2. RESPECT
    3. ADMIRATION
    4. PATIENCE
    5. UNDERSTANDING
    6. EMPATHY towards one another.
    7. SINCERITY
    ...These are all common elements found in love. Love takes time. It's like a rose that blossoms, but slowly. Should anyone ever say that they love you too quick too soon- if it sounds too good to be true- tell that person to take it slow. It's always safe to start with a solid friendship first- then relationship second- no rushing. REALLY- you really want to make sure that this person knows what they're talking about before you give your entire heart to them.
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    One simple word SEX. That is why men fall in love faster. A woman can have a lot of control over a man if she satififys him in bed.
    'If a bird loved a fish, where would they live?'

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rayana
    One simple word SEX. That is why men fall in love faster. A woman can have a lot of control over a man if she satififys him in bed.

    I gave your reply some thought and replayed my relationships in my head.I always got to know my SO before jumping into bed with them.

    I disagree with you.That's just me though.

    That's an unfair theory of yours.Did you read it somewhere?

    I'm curious.

    About the topic at hand it depends on the individual.
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    A woman can have a lot of control over a man if she satififys him in bed.
    Yes/No. This is a naiive assumption. It could be true in some cases.. not all.

    Yes-For men who are weak- this is true. That's why we have gold diggers who really know how to have their way with men, because men like that, DON'T know themselves, nor do they have a spine. Some of them are too shallow to realize that money doesn't buy love, nor does it buy true friendships (but that's another story).

    No- For men who really know themselves, who are confident, who have moral character, who AREN'T shallow, who have a better sense of judgement. A Real man sticks around because he truly loves her for who she is, not just the pootang.

    One important fact to keep in mind- when it comes to relationships- it's not about control, it's about bonding and sharing.

    If a woman thinks that she has control over her man just because she's good in bed, she'll be in for a rude awakening. Once the passion fades, and if there isn't anything that a man admires about his woman, she's nothing but another piece of meat that's easily replaceable. Smart men keep women who they love and respect, not women who try to control them by using sex as their weapon.

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    I think the feminist movement has something to do with it. Alot of men are still traditional in that they just want to meet a girl, fall in love with her, and marry her. But the new feminist movement has women thinking that they deserve many men, or that no man is good enough for them.

    Of course these are just generalizations and there are men and women of all tpyes who all want different things

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