Sex and Teens

musicguy · 02-22-2006, 12:23 AM

I've seen a lot of posts, not only on this site, but other sites with teens giving advice about sex. Whatever happened to the parent-teen interaction? Now kids get sex advice online or from their friends? I'm not saying that sex is wrong, but there are soooo many teens out there getting pregnant, having more partners then on my hand and teens getting some sort of STD's. Why are teens wanting to have sex at a young age? Is it because it's around everywhere? I'd say wait until you are "mature" enough to handle the responsibilites or consquences while having sex. I understand that hormones are running, but man, wait until you are really ready

BlueFlowerOnMyDesk · 02-22-2006, 12:29 AM

lol I agree, well said my friend...well said

theantibarbie23 · 02-22-2006, 01:09 AM

Teens are going to have sex because most teens think they are mature enough to know what exactly what they are doing. You couldn't of told me otherwise at 15, I knew it all.

As for the talking about sex with parents thing, it's a good thing in theory but how many people REALLY felt comfortable talking to their parents about stuff like that. My mom couldn't even discuss puberty with me, she handed me a book after having crossed out everything she didn't want me to read, "because it was dirty" with a magic marker.

ShySoul · 02-22-2006, 01:10 AM

I agree that teens today want to grow up way to fast. I think they should enjoy childhood while they can, cause one day they will be older and wonder what happened to it. Kids today are bombarded with all kids of influnces to have sex. Listen to a lot of popular music or watch teen shows, and it often seems to revolve around sex.

With the parent thing, a lot of time it is uncomfortable for parents to talk about that kind of stuff with them. Most families aren't that close, so the children end up learning a lot of stuff from friends or pop culture. And teenage rebellion often makes kids unwilling to listen to their parents.

musicguy · 02-22-2006, 01:12 AM

lol, hmm, well I don't think I'll have a problem talking to my future children about sex

musicguy · 02-22-2006, 01:13 AM

I agree Shysoul..it's too bad that teens have to feel so uncomfortable talking to their parents about sex

orgasmictofu · 02-22-2006, 03:05 AM

My mom's sex talk happened when I was 19 and she exclaimed "for god's sake please tell me you're at least using protection!"

Lord knows she tried to talk to me about sex. I wouldn't have any of it. I was weird that way.

I was very relieved that I could get my sex ed online, from friends, and in books. I was a very sex savvy teen. I didn't have sex until I was 18.

So what I'm saying is that maybe it's not the talking about sex that sways KIDS off of it, it's the values parents instill in their offspring from a very young age.

flutegirl23 · 02-22-2006, 11:33 AM

my mom brought it up again this summer. we've never really talked about it because it's never been an issue. we were talking about a cousin who's dating this guy and my mom mentioned that she wouldn't be surprised if she ended up pregnant. then she told me, "well don't be afraid to talk to me about it so we can get you protection" and that was it.

i think that kids today think their friends know a lot more about sex and "teen stuff" then their parents. the problem is that teens have the wrong information. also, i know that i have questions for my parents but i don't want to ask them for a few reasons. 1) i wouldn't want my parents to know what's going on (although I'm sure they suspect) and 2) i don't want to be told stories of their sex life.

ShySoul · 02-22-2006, 12:32 PM

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2) i don't want to be told stories of their sex life.

No one does. Ewwww.....

I think kids are also exposed to sex stuff at a younger age then parents think. Some parents may not be aware of just how much stuff kids pick up. I mean I'm only 10 years older then these teens, and it suprises me. I read of 13 year olds (and under!) wanting to have sex. When I was that age my biggest fantasy was making out. I was still trying to figure out how to tell the girl I liked how I felt. If I or people my age can be surprised, it must really be startling to a lot of older parents.

elaineska · 02-22-2006, 10:30 PM

I would never do something just because it was "around everywhere," and I will wait until I'm ready... I wish all young people felt like this. Don't do it just to do it.

But I've never really spoken to my parents about sex. And they don't seem to really want to talk about it. It's kind of an unspoken understanding. I WISH I could work up the courage to ask them how they feel about it, but with my sarcastic parents, I don't think I will ever get a straight answer. See... my parents were virgins until 25 and 29... so I'm worried that if I ask them, they will expect me to wait that long! Also, if I bring up the subject, I'm afraid they'll think I'm sexually active and keep an extra eye on me. I don't know.

I like getting information and advice online because it's anonymous. And I do get a lot of help from this site.

02-22-2006, 12:23 AM	#1
musicguy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tattoo Land Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 3,735	Sex and Teens I've seen a lot of posts, not only on this site, but other sites with teens giving advice about sex. Whatever happened to the parent-teen interaction? Now kids get sex advice online or from their friends? I'm not saying that sex is wrong, but there are soooo many teens out there getting pregnant, having more partners then on my hand and teens getting some sort of STD's. Why are teens wanting to have sex at a young age? Is it because it's around everywhere? I'd say wait until you are "mature" enough to handle the responsibilites or consquences while having sex. I understand that hormones are running, but man, wait until you are really ready

02-22-2006, 01:09 AM	#3
theantibarbie23 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 352	Teens are going to have sex because most teens think they are mature enough to know what exactly what they are doing. You couldn't of told me otherwise at 15, I knew it all. As for the talking about sex with parents thing, it's a good thing in theory but how many people REALLY felt comfortable talking to their parents about stuff like that. My mom couldn't even discuss puberty with me, she handed me a book after having crossed out everything she didn't want me to read, "because it was dirty" with a magic marker. __________________ Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretence of keeping it alive. - Havelock Ellis He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away. - Raymond Hull Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. - Albert Einstein

02-22-2006, 01:10 AM	#4
ShySoul Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Where love guides our hearts and actions Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 6,135	I agree that teens today want to grow up way to fast. I think they should enjoy childhood while they can, cause one day they will be older and wonder what happened to it. Kids today are bombarded with all kids of influnces to have sex. Listen to a lot of popular music or watch teen shows, and it often seems to revolve around sex. With the parent thing, a lot of time it is uncomfortable for parents to talk about that kind of stuff with them. Most families aren't that close, so the children end up learning a lot of stuff from friends or pop culture. And teenage rebellion often makes kids unwilling to listen to their parents. __________________ The ShySoul has recently been on a mission to share a banner of love, respect, compassion, honesty, and selfish giving with one another. If you believe in these things as well, please make them a part of your everyday lives. Quality is what counts in the end. The soul never dies. We all have a strength within us that no force can deny. Speak up for what is right and never let anyone silence you. Feel free to introduce yourself. http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=134460

02-22-2006, 12:29 AM	#2
BlueFlowerOnMyDesk Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 7	lol I agree, well said my friend...well said

02-22-2006, 01:12 AM	#5
musicguy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tattoo Land Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 3,735	lol, hmm, well I don't think I'll have a problem talking to my future children about sex

02-22-2006, 01:13 AM	#6
musicguy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tattoo Land Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 3,735	I agree Shysoul..it's too bad that teens have to feel so uncomfortable talking to their parents about sex

02-22-2006, 03:05 AM	#7
orgasmictofu Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Canada eh? Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 523	My mom's sex talk happened when I was 19 and she exclaimed "for god's sake please tell me you're at least using protection!" Lord knows she tried to talk to me about sex. I wouldn't have any of it. I was weird that way. I was very relieved that I could get my sex ed online, from friends, and in books. I was a very sex savvy teen. I didn't have sex until I was 18. So what I'm saying is that maybe it's not the talking about sex that sways KIDS off of it, it's the values parents instill in their offspring from a very young age.

02-22-2006, 11:33 AM	#8
flutegirl23 Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 57	my mom brought it up again this summer. we've never really talked about it because it's never been an issue. we were talking about a cousin who's dating this guy and my mom mentioned that she wouldn't be surprised if she ended up pregnant. then she told me, "well don't be afraid to talk to me about it so we can get you protection" and that was it. i think that kids today think their friends know a lot more about sex and "teen stuff" then their parents. the problem is that teens have the wrong information. also, i know that i have questions for my parents but i don't want to ask them for a few reasons. 1) i wouldn't want my parents to know what's going on (although I'm sure they suspect) and 2) i don't want to be told stories of their sex life.

02-22-2006, 10:30 PM	#10
elaineska Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Midwest USA Gender: Female Posts: 109	I would never do something just because it was "around everywhere," and I will wait until I'm ready... I wish all young people felt like this. Don't do it just to do it. But I've never really spoken to my parents about sex. And they don't seem to really want to talk about it. It's kind of an unspoken understanding. I WISH I could work up the courage to ask them how they feel about it, but with my sarcastic parents, I don't think I will ever get a straight answer. See... my parents were virgins until 25 and 29... so I'm worried that if I ask them, they will expect me to wait that long! Also, if I bring up the subject, I'm afraid they'll think I'm sexually active and keep an extra eye on me. I don't know. I like getting information and advice online because it's anonymous. And I do get a lot of help from this site.