how do i find a really good counselor?

teacup · 02-08-2006, 06:21 PM

im looking for a good counselor. i got a recommendation to someone who is supposed to be really good...but on the phone.....i didnt like her. and she charges $175 per session! that is so expensive......i don't know what to do......i know i need a really good counselor but where am i going to find one??

fantasia2004 · 02-08-2006, 06:24 PM

question?

do you want a therapist or a counselor?

teacup · 02-08-2006, 06:26 PM

hmmm........what's the difference? i guess i mean therapist. i need someone who can help me work out my issues, mental blocks and worries.....

someone patient, understanding, guiding, helpful, soothing.

are expensive ones better than cheap ones?

fantasia2004 · 02-08-2006, 06:37 PM

counselor is one that can help calm your nerves temporarily with the minor problems that plague you. If it is bouts of depression clinically speaking then a therapist could help you with that and other things so that they can get tothe root of the problem. You must be comfortable with this type of help because most people like my ex do not like to seek outside help for problems they feel they can fix on their own. Only because of pride

teacup · 02-08-2006, 06:38 PM

therapist then......i need a good one....but how? and where?

Dako · 02-08-2006, 06:39 PM

Do you have a regular physician that could refer you to one?
If you have some form of healthcare coverage it may cover this.
Have you tried through your school? I think a therapist is what you want, but discussing this with a professional would help determine where to go.

Good luck teacup. You're doing the right thing.

ElektraHere · 02-08-2006, 06:43 PM

If you work for a company that has an EAP program you would call that and they would refer you. I think you get the 1st 5 or 10 sessions paid for by your company and then its a co-pay with your insurance. Also its about trying out different therapists. You want to be comfortable with them and they take an active role in your therapy. You know not just sitting there with a blank look on their face.

ratherbesailing · 02-08-2006, 07:37 PM

teacup -

If you belong to a church, especially a protestant church, the minister can give you some counseling free of charge and can certainly recommend an outside therapist.

If you don't belong to a church, stop by one and make an appointment to talk to the minister. They are there to help people with their problems and I don't think it will matter if you are a regular. I don't know how religious you are but most ministers are going to be much more interested in helping address your real problems than trying to preach to you.

ocrob · 02-08-2006, 09:54 PM

Teacup, I think that it is so awesome that you are trying to get some help. You seem like such a wonderful woman and I am glad you are taking the initiative. Soon you will realize how special you are and the clouds will open up to sunshine.

teacup · 02-09-2006, 12:24 AM

to be honest....i do think there are parts of me that are great but there is that little bit that is really wounded, limping and hurting bad and that is the part that drags down the rest of me

02-08-2006, 06:21 PM	#1
teacup Offline Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 28 Posts: 1,088	how do i find a really good counselor? im looking for a good counselor. i got a recommendation to someone who is supposed to be really good...but on the phone.....i didnt like her. and she charges $175 per session! that is so expensive......i don't know what to do......i know i need a really good counselor but where am i going to find one??

02-08-2006, 06:24 PM	#2
fantasia2004 Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: now if I told you then it would not be a secret anymore! Gender: Female Age: 37 Posts: 1,319	question? do you want a therapist or a counselor? __________________ That consciousness is everything and that all things begin with a thought. That we are responsible for our own fate, we reap what we sow, we get what we give, we pull in what we put out. I know these things for sure. Madonna, O Magazine, January 2004

02-08-2006, 06:37 PM	#4
fantasia2004 Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: now if I told you then it would not be a secret anymore! Gender: Female Age: 37 Posts: 1,319	counselor is one that can help calm your nerves temporarily with the minor problems that plague you. If it is bouts of depression clinically speaking then a therapist could help you with that and other things so that they can get tothe root of the problem. You must be comfortable with this type of help because most people like my ex do not like to seek outside help for problems they feel they can fix on their own. Only because of pride __________________ That consciousness is everything and that all things begin with a thought. That we are responsible for our own fate, we reap what we sow, we get what we give, we pull in what we put out. I know these things for sure. Madonna, O Magazine, January 2004

02-08-2006, 06:26 PM	#3
teacup Offline Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 28 Posts: 1,088	hmmm........what's the difference? i guess i mean therapist. i need someone who can help me work out my issues, mental blocks and worries..... someone patient, understanding, guiding, helpful, soothing. are expensive ones better than cheap ones?

02-08-2006, 06:38 PM	#5
teacup Offline Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 28 Posts: 1,088	therapist then......i need a good one....but how? and where?

02-08-2006, 06:39 PM	#6
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,113	Do you have a regular physician that could refer you to one? If you have some form of healthcare coverage it may cover this. Have you tried through your school? I think a therapist is what you want, but discussing this with a professional would help determine where to go. Good luck teacup. You're doing the right thing.

02-08-2006, 06:43 PM	#7
ElektraHere Offline Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: West Coast Gender: Female Age: 37 Posts: 2,379	If you work for a company that has an EAP program you would call that and they would refer you. I think you get the 1st 5 or 10 sessions paid for by your company and then its a co-pay with your insurance. Also its about trying out different therapists. You want to be comfortable with them and they take an active role in your therapy. You know not just sitting there with a blank look on their face.

02-08-2006, 07:37 PM	#8
ratherbesailing Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Massachusetts Age: 49 Posts: 237	teacup - If you belong to a church, especially a protestant church, the minister can give you some counseling free of charge and can certainly recommend an outside therapist. If you don't belong to a church, stop by one and make an appointment to talk to the minister. They are there to help people with their problems and I don't think it will matter if you are a regular. I don't know how religious you are but most ministers are going to be much more interested in helping address your real problems than trying to preach to you.

02-08-2006, 09:54 PM	#9
ocrob Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Dana Point, Ca. Gender: Male Posts: 875	Teacup, I think that it is so awesome that you are trying to get some help. You seem like such a wonderful woman and I am glad you are taking the initiative. Soon you will realize how special you are and the clouds will open up to sunshine.

02-09-2006, 12:24 AM	#10
teacup Offline Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 28 Posts: 1,088	to be honest....i do think there are parts of me that are great but there is that little bit that is really wounded, limping and hurting bad and that is the part that drags down the rest of me