dating two time loser

mryoung · 01-17-2006, 04:38 PM

would you date a guy, whose been divorced twice and his second marriage ended shortly after the honeymoon.

A friend is currently involved with a man, divorced twice by 35. But, he waited until his divorce was final to ask her out.

Is he an operator? Is this a guy unlucky in love?

sweetharmony · 01-17-2006, 04:40 PM

it depends, who divorced whom? was there cheating involved? it all depends.

**annie24** · 01-17-2006, 04:40 PM

Hmm.... I guess more information would be necessary. My aunt has been divorced twice and she's a fantastic woman. Her first marriage her husband cheated, and the second, the stepkids caused A LOT of problems.

Ultimately, it's your friend's decision and she will resent you if you try to interfere in her relationship.

Just tell her to keep her eyes open. That he waited until his divorce was final to ask her out is a good sign.

RayKay · 01-17-2006, 04:42 PM

I'd have to know more. I might be a bit apprehensive, but a lot depends on the circumstances of what happened in the marriages to lead to the divorce.

If he was married at a very young age, and they grew apart and could not make it work, or there was some cheating on the wife's part, or some things like that, I would probably be more openminded.

If it was because they rushed into it, or it did not mean some romantic perfect ideal, or he was cheating and so forth, I would either be much more apprehensive or choose not to get involved.

In either case, don't interfere with your friend, you can let her know you are just worried, but leave it at that and never bring it up again unless she does.

friscodj · 01-21-2006, 03:26 AM

There's no need to call someone who's been divorced twice a "two time loser." That just ain't right...

Itsok · 01-21-2006, 11:19 AM

To be honest, I would never date someone who is divorced. That's strictly just an opinion by the way, there are plenty of nice people who just married the wrong person and got a divorce. There's nothing wrong with them, it's that together they weren't good.

friscodj · 01-21-2006, 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Itsok

To be honest, I would never date someone who is divorced. That's strictly just an opinion by the way, there are plenty of nice people who just married the wrong person and got a divorce. There's nothing wrong with them, it's that together they weren't good.

I just don't see the need for prejudice against divorced folks, especially considering the reasons you stated...seems like you might be missing out...

BTW, I'm not divorced, just sharing an opinion...

Itsok · 01-22-2006, 01:26 PM

Yes, I know it sounds odd. I'm a very opinionated person for whatever reason. Probably because everyone who has surrounded me my entire life was too 'wishy washy' about a lot of issues and it drove me insane.

01-17-2006, 04:38 PM	#1
mryoung Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 13	dating two time loser would you date a guy, whose been divorced twice and his second marriage ended shortly after the honeymoon. A friend is currently involved with a man, divorced twice by 35. But, he waited until his divorce was final to ask her out. Is he an operator? Is this a guy unlucky in love?

01-17-2006, 04:42 PM	#4
RayKay Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Middle of Canada Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 13,270	I'd have to know more. I might be a bit apprehensive, but a lot depends on the circumstances of what happened in the marriages to lead to the divorce. If he was married at a very young age, and they grew apart and could not make it work, or there was some cheating on the wife's part, or some things like that, I would probably be more openminded. If it was because they rushed into it, or it did not mean some romantic perfect ideal, or he was cheating and so forth, I would either be much more apprehensive or choose not to get involved. In either case, don't interfere with your friend, you can let her know you are just worried, but leave it at that and never bring it up again unless she does. __________________ [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]<--- [COLOR=sienna]Carbun the Super-Bunny[/COLOR][/B][/COLOR][/FONT] [B][FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=#556b2f][/COLOR][/FONT][/B] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]At the end of the day, how you imprinted on someones life and heart is the only true mark any of us leave on this earth and is what we are most proud of... [/B][/COLOR][/FONT][I][SIZE=1]- My Biggest Hero and Mentor: My Mum.[/SIZE][/I] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=orange][B]Il faut d'abord durer [/B][/COLOR][/FONT][I][SIZE=1]- Ernest Hemingway[/SIZE][/I]

01-21-2006, 11:19 AM	#6
Itsok Offline Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Where dreams are made Posts: 354	To be honest, I would never date someone who is divorced. That's strictly just an opinion by the way, there are plenty of nice people who just married the wrong person and got a divorce. There's nothing wrong with them, it's that together they weren't good. __________________ _________________________________ "Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense." -Ralph Waldo Emerson “All that we are is the result of what we have thought.The mind is everything. What we think we become.” -Buddha Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no ones definition of your life; define yourself." -Harvey Fierstein

01-22-2006, 01:26 PM	#8
Itsok Offline Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Where dreams are made Posts: 354	Yes, I know it sounds odd. I'm a very opinionated person for whatever reason. Probably because everyone who has surrounded me my entire life was too 'wishy washy' about a lot of issues and it drove me insane. __________________ _________________________________ "Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense." -Ralph Waldo Emerson “All that we are is the result of what we have thought.The mind is everything. What we think we become.” -Buddha Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no ones definition of your life; define yourself." -Harvey Fierstein

01-17-2006, 04:40 PM	#2
sweetharmony Offline Gold Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: New York Gender: Female Age: 31 Posts: 726	it depends, who divorced whom? was there cheating involved? it all depends.

01-17-2006, 04:40 PM	#3
annie24 Online Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,833	Hmm.... I guess more information would be necessary. My aunt has been divorced twice and she's a fantastic woman. Her first marriage her husband cheated, and the second, the stepkids caused A LOT of problems. Ultimately, it's your friend's decision and she will resent you if you try to interfere in her relationship. Just tell her to keep her eyes open. That he waited until his divorce was final to ask her out is a good sign.

01-21-2006, 03:26 AM	#5
friscodj Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Gender: Male Age: 33 Posts: 4,401	There's no need to call someone who's been divorced twice a "two time loser." That just ain't right...