Question base on this child abused in the most horrible way!!

yeawutever · 01-03-2006, 08:26 PM

It's about this book I read about the most horrible and disgusting case of abuse done to this girl when she was a baby by her own parents. I read this book in my freshman year of high school and then again in my senior year and somehow manage to finish, yes it was base on a true story and the names had to be altered, being the strongest girl who doens't get overwhelmed by emotions, I thought I was about to break down, I never heard of such a thing before. The book is called "No Language But A Cry" and it's written by Doctor Richard D'Ambrosio ( her therapist and at the same time like a father to her). Basically it's about this baby her of b/w 1 or 1 1/2 years old living with a father suffering from schizophrenia and conduct disorder too (mental disorder where one experiences hallucinations) and the mother from depression and bipolar. Anyways the girl one day cries just like any kid would and her father in his sick mind gets her in a frying pan, the mother watches it and doesn't do nothing as the child was gonna be almost cooked alive, child screaming on the top of her lungs, police comes, neighbors freka out, parents placed on mental hospitals, and the girl got like 2nd or 3rd degree burns on over 50% of her body. Eventually she grows so distrub that she doens't say one word for a long time, she first talked at like 16 or 17, thanx to her therapist. Eventually got reconstructed surgery and was turned into a model I say. It's been like 3 or 4 decades later now and now she's a nurse who works with kids, that's how the story ends, and no her therapist never sees her again after she got the final surgery.
Now that she's definitely a grown up, I kinda wonder is she knows this already, does she know that her father almost burned her to death? Boy, the electric chair would be a suggestion for those types of people, a 1 year old is a defendless person who knows nothing, all she/he ever wonders is trust and being accepted by ur caregivers.
And today on the newspaper I read about another disgusting case where this crazy *****, don't know wut word to call her, puts her 3 year old in a tube of very hot water as part of punishment and he ends up with 3rd degree burns goes untreated for a week cuz his grandma didn't send him to hospital and dies today, gr, so wut, I got a lil brother and he's 3 also, he misbehave and annnoying at times, but hell nope, I don't think any sane/rational parent or caregiver would do that.

Jinx · 01-03-2006, 08:52 PM

The trauma is disturbing, and the after results are often that much worse. Reminds me a tad bit of a story I read in a Psychology book which addressed trauma being passed on from generation to generation like a bad genetic disease. Starting with a mother whom was double diagnosed Bipolar and I'd have to look up the other half, but during her violent cycles she would throw scalding water on her daughter when she was bad. The mother wasn't caught until it repeatedly happened and the daughter was in a very negative condition. She had lost trust, which is one of the most destructive problems a child or teen can develop as mistrust mutates. Well, this girl when she grew up, she had a child and she violently abused him near the point of death.

To be honest it depends on the age of the child if they remember the actual events, more often they remember fear and sudden distrust. Distrust and unattachment for a child through trauma causes drastic results in the child. Often unattached distrusting children develop anti social disorders to psychopathic tendencies with character abnormalities. Trauma has a lot of serious consequences no matter the age.

There are some people in this world that just shouldn't be parents as they are completely unstable themselves. I've read about parents whom were diagnosed with a mental disordered but maintained themselves and the children turned out normal, it is those which are unable that are unfit. I wonder if beside the mental illness if either had trauma as children which helped drive the lack of concern.

I believe a book I read which focuses on this type of material is Children of Trauma by Jane Middleton Moz, and if I recall it isn't as traumatic to the reader as certain others are. I believe an extreme example of Dissociative Disorders caused by trauma/problem scenarios is illustrated by the story Sybil if I remember right. I've read a deal of books, but if I'm correct those both hit the mild and the severe as for content and description. Sybil can be a hard read, because of the content, but is worth it. As is any book on Trauma IF you can take it. A good book on Psychological aspects of Childhood trauma will often give you the in's and outs of the Why this or that happens, statistics, common outcomes, and treatments with case studies inbetween.

It really does show the world isn't all rosy and nice in an extreme way and people like that are out there and need to be dealt with.

mysterious one · 01-03-2006, 08:59 PM

My Sociology class was resiently talking about abuse and i actually did a research paper on it. it's horrible what some kids are put through by parents.

there was a story on tv a while ago about a girl named Geni. they found this girl tied to a potty chair and still wearing diapers when she was 13 years old. she was locked in the room most of her life and her mother ( who was visionally impaired) claims to also be victomised by her husband's abuse. anyways Geni never spoke when she was found and never learned how to put sentences together gramatically correct.

abuse that happens to children lasts with them all their lives. it's just not right.

DN · 01-03-2006, 09:19 PM

A woman the other day put her baby in the dryer!!

theantibarbie23 · 01-03-2006, 09:40 PM

It amazes me how many people would kill to have a baby of their own while these wastes of precious oxygen are walking around destroying the lives of those they helped to create.

I don't believe in second chances or rehabilitation for the type of monsters whom could harm something as innocent and helpless as a child. I wish they never let any of those degenerates out of jail.

**BellaDonna** · 01-03-2006, 11:21 PM

That story is very disturbing indeed.

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Eventually got reconstructed surgery and was turned into a model I say. It's been like 3 or 4 decades later now and now she's a nurse who works with kids, that's how the story ends

The only good part is that this woman turned her life into soemthng positive, because the outcome could have been much different.

It just demonstrates how strong human will is, and that good can overcome evil.

I was good friends with someone who as a young shild, had their hand severely burned in a frying pan with bacon grease as punishment. It was done not by the child's mother- but by the mother's friend who lived with them. That was done to the child as "punishment" for coming in the house with dirty hands from playing outside. Thoughout the child's life- mutliple reconstructive surgeries were needed for the burns. The child turned into a very nasty, sadistic, manipulative, lying, cold adult- which is why I am no longer friends with this person. I still feel bad though.

I'm just glad that this poor girl in the book did not turn out the same way.

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It amazes me how many people would kill to have a baby of their own while these wastes of precious oxygen are walking around destroying the lives of those they helped to create.

I don't believe in second chances or rehabilitation for the type of monsters whom could harm something as innocent and helpless as a child. I wish they never let any of those degenerates out of jail.

I also agree with the antibarbie on that one.

BellaDonna

01-03-2006, 08:26 PM	#1
yeawutever Online Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Age: 22 Posts: 5,671	Question base on this child abused in the most horrible way!! It's about this book I read about the most horrible and disgusting case of abuse done to this girl when she was a baby by her own parents. I read this book in my freshman year of high school and then again in my senior year and somehow manage to finish, yes it was base on a true story and the names had to be altered, being the strongest girl who doens't get overwhelmed by emotions, I thought I was about to break down, I never heard of such a thing before. The book is called "No Language But A Cry" and it's written by Doctor Richard D'Ambrosio ( her therapist and at the same time like a father to her). Basically it's about this baby her of b/w 1 or 1 1/2 years old living with a father suffering from schizophrenia and conduct disorder too (mental disorder where one experiences hallucinations) and the mother from depression and bipolar. Anyways the girl one day cries just like any kid would and her father in his sick mind gets her in a frying pan, the mother watches it and doesn't do nothing as the child was gonna be almost cooked alive, child screaming on the top of her lungs, police comes, neighbors freka out, parents placed on mental hospitals, and the girl got like 2nd or 3rd degree burns on over 50% of her body. Eventually she grows so distrub that she doens't say one word for a long time, she first talked at like 16 or 17, thanx to her therapist. Eventually got reconstructed surgery and was turned into a model I say. It's been like 3 or 4 decades later now and now she's a nurse who works with kids, that's how the story ends, and no her therapist never sees her again after she got the final surgery. Now that she's definitely a grown up, I kinda wonder is she knows this already, does she know that her father almost burned her to death? Boy, the electric chair would be a suggestion for those types of people, a 1 year old is a defendless person who knows nothing, all she/he ever wonders is trust and being accepted by ur caregivers. And today on the newspaper I read about another disgusting case where this crazy *****, don't know wut word to call her, puts her 3 year old in a tube of very hot water as part of punishment and he ends up with 3rd degree burns goes untreated for a week cuz his grandma didn't send him to hospital and dies today, gr, so wut, I got a lil brother and he's 3 also, he misbehave and annnoying at times, but hell nope, I don't think any sane/rational parent or caregiver would do that.

01-03-2006, 08:59 PM	#3
mysterious one Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: canada Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 54	My Sociology class was resiently talking about abuse and i actually did a research paper on it. it's horrible what some kids are put through by parents. there was a story on tv a while ago about a girl named Geni. they found this girl tied to a potty chair and still wearing diapers when she was 13 years old. she was locked in the room most of her life and her mother ( who was visionally impaired) claims to also be victomised by her husband's abuse. anyways Geni never spoke when she was found and never learned how to put sentences together gramatically correct. abuse that happens to children lasts with them all their lives. it's just not right. __________________ "never let the fear of striking out keep you form playing the game" "seasons change as do people, be as flexible as the wind but stand for who you are"

01-03-2006, 09:19 PM	#4
DN Online Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,441	A woman the other day put her baby in the dryer!! __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

01-03-2006, 09:40 PM	#5
theantibarbie23 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 352	It amazes me how many people would kill to have a baby of their own while these wastes of precious oxygen are walking around destroying the lives of those they helped to create. I don't believe in second chances or rehabilitation for the type of monsters whom could harm something as innocent and helpless as a child. I wish they never let any of those degenerates out of jail. __________________ Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretence of keeping it alive. - Havelock Ellis He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away. - Raymond Hull Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. - Albert Einstein

01-03-2006, 08:52 PM	#2
Jinx Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: (Soon-to-be) Wyoming Gender: Female Posts: 649	The trauma is disturbing, and the after results are often that much worse. Reminds me a tad bit of a story I read in a Psychology book which addressed trauma being passed on from generation to generation like a bad genetic disease. Starting with a mother whom was double diagnosed Bipolar and I'd have to look up the other half, but during her violent cycles she would throw scalding water on her daughter when she was bad. The mother wasn't caught until it repeatedly happened and the daughter was in a very negative condition. She had lost trust, which is one of the most destructive problems a child or teen can develop as mistrust mutates. Well, this girl when she grew up, she had a child and she violently abused him near the point of death. To be honest it depends on the age of the child if they remember the actual events, more often they remember fear and sudden distrust. Distrust and unattachment for a child through trauma causes drastic results in the child. Often unattached distrusting children develop anti social disorders to psychopathic tendencies with character abnormalities. Trauma has a lot of serious consequences no matter the age. There are some people in this world that just shouldn't be parents as they are completely unstable themselves. I've read about parents whom were diagnosed with a mental disordered but maintained themselves and the children turned out normal, it is those which are unable that are unfit. I wonder if beside the mental illness if either had trauma as children which helped drive the lack of concern. I believe a book I read which focuses on this type of material is Children of Trauma by Jane Middleton Moz, and if I recall it isn't as traumatic to the reader as certain others are. I believe an extreme example of Dissociative Disorders caused by trauma/problem scenarios is illustrated by the story Sybil if I remember right. I've read a deal of books, but if I'm correct those both hit the mild and the severe as for content and description. Sybil can be a hard read, because of the content, but is worth it. As is any book on Trauma IF you can take it. A good book on Psychological aspects of Childhood trauma will often give you the in's and outs of the Why this or that happens, statistics, common outcomes, and treatments with case studies inbetween. It really does show the world isn't all rosy and nice in an extreme way and people like that are out there and need to be dealt with.