Is it wrong to be happy about being pregnant when your only a teenager?

Young1 · 12-23-2005, 04:58 PM

I was wondering i'm not married and i dont have a boyfriend anymore... Is it wrong to be happy to be pregnant when your only a teenager. I'm so excited but i think i should be dissapointed with myself for putting myself in this situation. Everyone tells me it was wrong to have sex without being married and a sin and yes i know it was a sin But i'm happy and noone realizes the whole story why i'm so happy! Should i just grin and bare it to what there telling me or should i just waste my breathe and tell them why i'm so happy? Please reply someone

the yang to the worlds yin · 12-23-2005, 04:58 PM

how old are you?

Young1 · 12-23-2005, 05:01 PM

I'm 15 years old. How old are you?

DN · 12-23-2005, 05:03 PM

Of course it is not wrong to be happy - I am firmly of the belief that happy mothers are more likely to have happier babies.

But you should be concerned - how are you going to look after the baby? Is the father going to be a part of the baby's life - emotionally as well as financially? What are your support systems? All these are things that you should be concerned about and you and the baby will need all the help you can get.

But happiness about a baby is natural and right.

sweeter · 12-23-2005, 05:04 PM

What is the whole story of why you are so happy to be pregnant?

the yang to the worlds yin · 12-23-2005, 05:05 PM

being happy about a baby is one thing, but being able to take care of and be responsible about one is another. perhaps this girl has yet to differentiate

Young1 · 12-23-2005, 05:30 PM

The reason why im so happy is that before I knew i was pregnant i was told I would not be able to have a baby by a doctor. I was crushed ... I knew i wanted a baby just not now and with my bestfriend, my boyfriend, Justin. since i knew i couldnt have a baby I decided to have sex. After the third time i found out I was pregnant. I was so excited to tell Justin and my friend that had known I could not have a baby. When i called some of my friends they acted hateful and didnt approve of it so hoping to excite one person I called Justin. When I called his cellphone a girl answered... It was his ex. and I knew then that he would not care but I told him anyway. He said he would help in anyway but didnt want me as a girlfriend anymore. Then I told my mom and she was dissappointed in me but said she would help in anyway. She then told her friends that told their friends and so on and so forth. Whispers were going around and then I was the school ****. (Like noone in high school has ever gotten pregnant.) I dropped out in Early October to start home schooling by my Aunt. People asked me why i was so happy and I should be ashamed and have an abortion or give her up for adoption. The preacher in front of the whole church asked for everyone give me a silent prayer.(I wonder what for..UMM...Let me guess...) I'm just now having doubts about keeping my baby or putting her up for adoption but, why ask a question you already know the answer to. But anyway im sorry for it being so long. But this is my story.

the yang to the worlds yin · 12-23-2005, 06:35 PM

honey, this isn't a blessing. it's great you can have children. but now is not the time nor age too

Relationship Coach · 12-23-2005, 07:00 PM

Young1,
The decisions you made were adult decisions with adult consequences. I'm not sure as to what your physician was basing his diagnosis on but he was clearly wrong. Safe sex is not just about birth control, STD's is a great reason to justify condoms at any age.

People are going to have their thoughts and opinions on your situation and you can't change that. As for your mom, it would be natural for her to be disappointed initially but the fact that she is supportive is good. The costs associated with providing quality pre-natal and post natal care are expensive. I hope you are covered by your mom's insurance but even if you are the baby is only covered for the first 30 days on that policy in most cases. There are state funded organizations like WIC that you can seek assistance from too.

Now, let's talk about adoption. There are many qualified couples out there willing to provide everything your child needs but it's you I am concerned about. Giving up your daughter is a tough thing to do. It may be best financially if you cannot afford to raise her but emotionally you will wonder everyday about her. Please give this some thought.

Stay happy and healthy for your babies sake and again, don't allow others comments and judgements define who you are. It takes a big person to deal with what you are going through and many would consider an abortion, another life long emotional regret. Keep your head up and prepare yourself for motherhood. There are great resources on the net, educate yourself. Best Wishes.

1love2k5 · 12-23-2005, 07:03 PM

hon, aren't you a bit young to be thinking about having kids? then again, it's alright with you because BOTH of you guys messed up and now there's consequences behind that. taking the baby to the doctor when he/she gets sick; getting your boyfriend (or whoever) to get a job so he can support the baby, etc. i mean, you can't support a baby WITHOUT a job. everyone knows that. you just gotta remember the mistakes you guys made will/can come back to haunt you. taking care of a baby ISN'T easy. you have to take it everywhere you go. i mean EVERYWHERE. i've been around kids and babies all my entire life, and people still to this day try to rely on me to try to take care of their child/children. i mean, it's great to have kids, but you hon has to deal with tons of responsibilities for your actions. you have more responsibilites than the man you slept with. just be careful, and if i were you, i'd go back to school, have your boyfriend or whoever get a job so that he can support you and the baby, and/or have a family member or friend or other person you can trust watch your child while you get a job, (if you don't have one) then pay the person for watching your child. good luck and be careful next time.

12-23-2005, 04:58 PM	#1
Young1 Offline Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Posts: 31	Is it wrong to be happy about being pregnant when your only a teenager? I was wondering i'm not married and i dont have a boyfriend anymore... Is it wrong to be happy to be pregnant when your only a teenager. I'm so excited but i think i should be dissapointed with myself for putting myself in this situation. Everyone tells me it was wrong to have sex without being married and a sin and yes i know it was a sin But i'm happy and noone realizes the whole story why i'm so happy! Should i just grin and bare it to what there telling me or should i just waste my breathe and tell them why i'm so happy? Please reply someone

12-23-2005, 05:01 PM	#3
Young1 Offline Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Posts: 31	reply I'm 15 years old. How old are you?

12-23-2005, 05:03 PM	#4
DN Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,439	Of course it is not wrong to be happy - I am firmly of the belief that happy mothers are more likely to have happier babies. But you should be concerned - how are you going to look after the baby? Is the father going to be a part of the baby's life - emotionally as well as financially? What are your support systems? All these are things that you should be concerned about and you and the baby will need all the help you can get. But happiness about a baby is natural and right. __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

12-23-2005, 07:00 PM	#9
Relationship Coach Offline Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Las Vegas, NV Gender: Male Age: 46 Posts: 1,951	Young1, The decisions you made were adult decisions with adult consequences. I'm not sure as to what your physician was basing his diagnosis on but he was clearly wrong. Safe sex is not just about birth control, STD's is a great reason to justify condoms at any age. People are going to have their thoughts and opinions on your situation and you can't change that. As for your mom, it would be natural for her to be disappointed initially but the fact that she is supportive is good. The costs associated with providing quality pre-natal and post natal care are expensive. I hope you are covered by your mom's insurance but even if you are the baby is only covered for the first 30 days on that policy in most cases. There are state funded organizations like WIC that you can seek assistance from too. Now, let's talk about adoption. There are many qualified couples out there willing to provide everything your child needs but it's you I am concerned about. Giving up your daughter is a tough thing to do. It may be best financially if you cannot afford to raise her but emotionally you will wonder everyday about her. Please give this some thought. Stay happy and healthy for your babies sake and again, don't allow others comments and judgements define who you are. It takes a big person to deal with what you are going through and many would consider an abortion, another life long emotional regret. Keep your head up and prepare yourself for motherhood. There are great resources on the net, educate yourself. Best Wishes. __________________ The slightest impact can make the greatest change. Last edited by Relationship Coach; 12-23-2005 at 07:04 PM.

12-23-2005, 07:03 PM	#10
1love2k5 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: new hampshire Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 203	hon, aren't you a bit young to be thinking about having kids? then again, it's alright with you because BOTH of you guys messed up and now there's consequences behind that. taking the baby to the doctor when he/she gets sick; getting your boyfriend (or whoever) to get a job so he can support the baby, etc. i mean, you can't support a baby WITHOUT a job. everyone knows that. you just gotta remember the mistakes you guys made will/can come back to haunt you. taking care of a baby ISN'T easy. you have to take it everywhere you go. i mean EVERYWHERE. i've been around kids and babies all my entire life, and people still to this day try to rely on me to try to take care of their child/children. i mean, it's great to have kids, but you hon has to deal with tons of responsibilities for your actions. you have more responsibilites than the man you slept with. just be careful, and if i were you, i'd go back to school, have your boyfriend or whoever get a job so that he can support you and the baby, and/or have a family member or friend or other person you can trust watch your child while you get a job, (if you don't have one) then pay the person for watching your child. good luck and be careful next time. __________________ If you'd like to talk about anything, i'll listen. If you'd like, you can chat with me also by going to the following link: http://myspace.com/miss_mia_girl2002. If you're interested, I'd like you to add me on your list. Thanks! If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, then it's yours. If it doesn't, then it never was. -1love2k5

12-23-2005, 04:58 PM	#2
the yang to the worlds yin Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 722	how old are you?

12-23-2005, 05:04 PM	#5
sweeter Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 11	What is the whole story of why you are so happy to be pregnant?

12-23-2005, 05:05 PM	#6
the yang to the worlds yin Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 722	being happy about a baby is one thing, but being able to take care of and be responsible about one is another. perhaps this girl has yet to differentiate

12-23-2005, 05:30 PM	#7
Young1 Offline Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Posts: 31	The reason why im so happy is that before I knew i was pregnant i was told I would not be able to have a baby by a doctor. I was crushed ... I knew i wanted a baby just not now and with my bestfriend, my boyfriend, Justin. since i knew i couldnt have a baby I decided to have sex. After the third time i found out I was pregnant. I was so excited to tell Justin and my friend that had known I could not have a baby. When i called some of my friends they acted hateful and didnt approve of it so hoping to excite one person I called Justin. When I called his cellphone a girl answered... It was his ex. and I knew then that he would not care but I told him anyway. He said he would help in anyway but didnt want me as a girlfriend anymore. Then I told my mom and she was dissappointed in me but said she would help in anyway. She then told her friends that told their friends and so on and so forth. Whispers were going around and then I was the school ****. (Like noone in high school has ever gotten pregnant.) I dropped out in Early October to start home schooling by my Aunt. People asked me why i was so happy and I should be ashamed and have an abortion or give her up for adoption. The preacher in front of the whole church asked for everyone give me a silent prayer.(I wonder what for..UMM...Let me guess...) I'm just now having doubts about keeping my baby or putting her up for adoption but, why ask a question you already know the answer to. But anyway im sorry for it being so long. But this is my story.

12-23-2005, 06:35 PM	#8
the yang to the worlds yin Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 722	honey, this isn't a blessing. it's great you can have children. but now is not the time nor age too