I had best friend for 11 years from age 11 to about 23, we talked almost everyday on the phone and were always close. She was the only person I confided in and helped me with all my lifes problems. Losing her as a friend has made life harder for me because I dont have anyone else like that.
As soon as she started going out with her now husband we drifted apart because she became distant towards me. I also had a boyfriend who she was very jealous of.
My father died and she didnt attend the funeral, his death was very sudden. Some best friend.Then I made plans with her after not seeing her for like a year and she brought her boyfriend along and started insulting me in front of him, bringing up things i confided in her not to tell anyone.
I never really got an apology and i didnt trust her anymore. She also visited her parents every weekend around the corner from me and never called me once to get together, So we didn't talk for a long time and she invites me to her wedding. She left a message at my mothers house saying she lost my home number. I thought it was rude since I gave it to her many times. I didnt get back to her then all of a sudden she leaves a message saying "oh i found your number"
She called me like constantly trying to get me. I almost didnt go and she wanted me to be a birdesmaid but by the time i got back to her it was too late and I was glad.
I did go out of guilt and she kept telling me im her best friend at the wedding and hugging me in front of her brothers friends who she was buddy buddy with when she stopped hanging out with me, i thought it was very phoney. I couldnt wait to leave. It seemed like she was trying to get them jealous.
She called my Mothers house to say it was nice seeing me after the wedding. She said she didnt call my house because she said she lost my phone number again. When she wanted to invite me to her wedding she called me so many times at my #, also she could have checked her cell phone records to get it. I think its rude. I did send her a card to just say hi after the wedding.
I was really put off by it, I didnt get back to her till recently and the wedding was a year ago and now I'm not getting a reply at all.
So do I assume shes cutting me off and just used me for her wedding?
Am I being rude for not calling her for so long, I think she should be happy that I even contacted her.