Problem with alcohol

Briella · 12-02-2005, 10:29 PM

Heya guys,
I was just wondering if i have a problem with drinking. My boyfriend says i can't control how much i drink and i drink too much. When i go out at night which is about 3 times a week i usually get pretty drunk but that's just cause i can't talk to people like i can when i'm drunk. When i'm sober i have a bad time and just don't talk to people. I also find it hard to know when i'm too drunk. I just keep drinking until i'm drunk and someone...usually my boyfriend...takes me home.
I'm 19 and enjoy drinking but am i doing myself damage?? I think my boyfriend is getting sick of it too.
I get angry at myself in the morning after but have fun at the time.

**annie24** · 12-02-2005, 10:42 PM

It sounds like your drinking may be a problem. One of the first "symptoms" is when the people around you tell you that you have a problem. The classic question are the CAGE questions. For men, 2 or more yes answers mean that they are at risk of alcohol abuse. For women, just 1 or more:

C - Do you CRAVE alcohol?
A - Do you get angry when people ask you about your drinking?
G - Do you feel guilty about your drinking?
E - Do you need an "eyeopener" in the morning?

I think you should try talking to a school counselor and see what kinds of suggestions they have.

Good luck and take care

PM me if you'd ever like to talk.

dirtbubble · 12-03-2005, 12:42 AM

Sounds like a problem to me. It's interfering in your relationship, that's definitely a sign of more trouble to come. Regretting what you did last night on a regular basis is a problem.

More importantly, you don't feel good without it. Expect that sensation to amplify. Also, you don't know when you're drunk. It's not commonly acknowledged, but people who get sick quickly (lightweights) are less apt to develop a serious drinking problem.

You are young and you have ability to question yourself, and that's really good. Keep questioning yourself. Seek help.

**BellaDonna** · 12-03-2005, 09:07 AM

You're definitely abusing alcohol, and using it for the wrong reasons.

If you don't feel good about it, and your boyfriend has pointed it out to you as a problem, those are 2 very strong signs that it is not just casual/normal social drinking.

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I think you should try talking to a school counselor and see what kinds of suggestions they have.

I agree with annie24. Do something about it now, so this won't get any worse. You were smart enough to take the first step and realize that there is a problem, the next step is to take effective action to solve it.

BellaDonna

Bethany · 12-03-2005, 01:51 PM

If you drink until someone has to take you home, it's a problem. You should never be so drunk that you can't make it home alone.

Also, try going out and NOT drinking even if you think you will have a cr*p time and if you can't, then its a problem... sometimes its just the early evening nerves and that fact your not chatty enough that makes you drink too much too soon and maybe you will realize that you can talk and have fun without alcohol. If you can;t then it's a problem

Space yourself, 1 drink an hour for example, thats still a pretty good night out and you will stay in control and you will then know you haven't made a fool of yourself, of your friends, and of your BF.

ShySoul · 12-04-2005, 10:08 PM

You are using alcohol to mask insecurites and difficulties speaking out in public. You are doing this multiple times a week. You admittedly get drunk until you have to be taken home. And you say you are angry with yourself after you do it.

You do have a problem. But you recognize it, you recognize why you are doing it, and part of you seems like you want to stop. This is a good sign. I urge you to speak with your boyfriend, he seems like a caring person who wants to help and do what is best for you. Find some help to address this issue now. Nip it in the bud early, before it gets even worse in the future.

12-02-2005, 10:29 PM	#1
Briella Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 76	Problem with alcohol Heya guys, I was just wondering if i have a problem with drinking. My boyfriend says i can't control how much i drink and i drink too much. When i go out at night which is about 3 times a week i usually get pretty drunk but that's just cause i can't talk to people like i can when i'm drunk. When i'm sober i have a bad time and just don't talk to people. I also find it hard to know when i'm too drunk. I just keep drinking until i'm drunk and someone...usually my boyfriend...takes me home. I'm 19 and enjoy drinking but am i doing myself damage?? I think my boyfriend is getting sick of it too. I get angry at myself in the morning after but have fun at the time.

12-04-2005, 10:08 PM	#6
ShySoul Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Where love guides our hearts and actions Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 6,135	You are using alcohol to mask insecurites and difficulties speaking out in public. You are doing this multiple times a week. You admittedly get drunk until you have to be taken home. And you say you are angry with yourself after you do it. You do have a problem. But you recognize it, you recognize why you are doing it, and part of you seems like you want to stop. This is a good sign. I urge you to speak with your boyfriend, he seems like a caring person who wants to help and do what is best for you. Find some help to address this issue now. Nip it in the bud early, before it gets even worse in the future. __________________ The ShySoul has recently been on a mission to share a banner of love, respect, compassion, honesty, and selfish giving with one another. If you believe in these things as well, please make them a part of your everyday lives. Quality is what counts in the end. The soul never dies. We all have a strength within us that no force can deny. Speak up for what is right and never let anyone silence you. Feel free to introduce yourself. http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=134460

12-02-2005, 10:42 PM	#2
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,827	It sounds like your drinking may be a problem. One of the first "symptoms" is when the people around you tell you that you have a problem. The classic question are the CAGE questions. For men, 2 or more yes answers mean that they are at risk of alcohol abuse. For women, just 1 or more: C - Do you CRAVE alcohol? A - Do you get angry when people ask you about your drinking? G - Do you feel guilty about your drinking? E - Do you need an "eyeopener" in the morning? I think you should try talking to a school counselor and see what kinds of suggestions they have. Good luck and take care PM me if you'd ever like to talk.

12-03-2005, 12:42 AM	#3
dirtbubble Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Gender: None Specified Posts: 76	Sounds like a problem to me. It's interfering in your relationship, that's definitely a sign of more trouble to come. Regretting what you did last night on a regular basis is a problem. More importantly, you don't feel good without it. Expect that sensation to amplify. Also, you don't know when you're drunk. It's not commonly acknowledged, but people who get sick quickly (lightweights) are less apt to develop a serious drinking problem. You are young and you have ability to question yourself, and that's really good. Keep questioning yourself. Seek help.

12-03-2005, 01:51 PM	#5
Bethany Offline Gold Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Gender: Female Posts: 2,030	If you drink until someone has to take you home, it's a problem. You should never be so drunk that you can't make it home alone. Also, try going out and NOT drinking even if you think you will have a cr*p time and if you can't, then its a problem... sometimes its just the early evening nerves and that fact your not chatty enough that makes you drink too much too soon and maybe you will realize that you can talk and have fun without alcohol. If you can;t then it's a problem Space yourself, 1 drink an hour for example, thats still a pretty good night out and you will stay in control and you will then know you haven't made a fool of yourself, of your friends, and of your BF.