I want to go with my friends but...

Dreng3333 · 11-10-2005, 04:44 PM

Well here's the deal. I'm getting to the age where all of my friends are getting drivers licenses. Almost all of the people that I hang out with are older and they can drive. i love going driving with them, it's sooo fun. It's great to have that freedom to do what we want.

But there is a problem. My mom. She doesnt want me to drive with any of my friends until they have had their licenses for 6-12 months. this makes me very angry because I have gone with them a few times and e have the time of our lives. They are all very responsible and I know that none of them would drive under the influence or do anything to put anyone in the car in danger. I never feel scared in the car with any of them.

What do you guys think? I mean, maybe you think my mom is right, but does anyone have any advice on how I could talk her into letting me go with them?

Nkaleidoscopic · 11-10-2005, 06:43 PM

Your mom is probably right .. 6-12 months is good. You never know how someone will drive under stress if it's their first week. And of course you feel safe -- you're with your friends.

I say listen to your mom. Waiting 6 months cant possibly hurt that much. Don't you have friends that have driven already over 6-12 months?

suprema99 · 11-10-2005, 07:38 PM

well, 6-12 months is a long time and kinda over protective in my opinion. But she's probably thinking 4 teens in a car, are more innocent when they leave the driveway and are more careless by themselves. Talking on the cell phones, turning up the radio and not paying attention, plus inexperienced, which is the major reason here she's seems to be thinking, can be a recipe for disaster. She won't believe anything you tell her about your friends driving. So I would say make a suggestion not everyday you'll go out driving with them, maybe 1-2 times a week for starters, and if anything goes wrong. tell her, you have every right to remove all my driving privelages with my friends. If your that sure nothing will happen, and you'll be safe, than you should have no problem putting any demands on yourself. goodluck

**annie24** · 11-10-2005, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Dreng3333

Well here's the deal. I'm getting to the age where all of my friends are getting drivers licenses. Almost all of the people that I hang out with are older and they can drive. i love going driving with them, it's sooo fun. It's great to have that freedom to do what we want.

But there is a problem. My mom. She doesnt want me to drive with any of my friends until they have had their licenses for 6-12 months. this makes me very angry because I have gone with them a few times and e have the time of our lives. They are all very responsible and I know that none of them would drive under the influence or do anything to put anyone in the car in danger. I never feel scared in the car with any of them.

What do you guys think? I mean, maybe you think my mom is right, but does anyone have any advice on how I could talk her into letting me go with them?

I think your mom is right. I remember in high school (and college!) what bad drivers some of my friends were. Talking on the phone, stereo blasting, not watching when changing lanes.... It's probably safest if they get some more driving experience first before you start driving with them.

I have a friend that was riding in a car in high school as a passenger. The driver and a guy were flirting, she lost control of the car, and the car rolled over in a ditch. My friend had to have many many plastic surgeries to repair the damage to her body and she is still self-concious of it. The driver never apoligized to my friend either.

The 6 months will fly by

Take care

bemyself · 11-11-2005, 12:20 AM

Hello,

Listen to your mother. Wait those 6-12 months. Remember safety should always be followed in a moving vehicle. When your young friends gain more driving experience, I believe that your mother will be more assured of your safety riding in a vehicle with them.

AllieCatOf2 · 11-14-2005, 01:42 PM

Its not some much about being responsible, its their driving EXPERIENCE she is worried about. alot can happen real fast on the road, and those who have been driving longer do better at handling different things.
Listen to mom, it will be well worth the wait!!!

11-10-2005, 04:44 PM	#1
Dreng3333 Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Hawaii Age: 19 Posts: 204	I want to go with my friends but... Well here's the deal. I'm getting to the age where all of my friends are getting drivers licenses. Almost all of the people that I hang out with are older and they can drive. i love going driving with them, it's sooo fun. It's great to have that freedom to do what we want. But there is a problem. My mom. She doesnt want me to drive with any of my friends until they have had their licenses for 6-12 months. this makes me very angry because I have gone with them a few times and e have the time of our lives. They are all very responsible and I know that none of them would drive under the influence or do anything to put anyone in the car in danger. I never feel scared in the car with any of them. What do you guys think? I mean, maybe you think my mom is right, but does anyone have any advice on how I could talk her into letting me go with them? __________________ To the world you may be just one person, but to one person, you may mean the world. veni, vidi, vici. I came, I saw, I conquered.

11-10-2005, 06:43 PM	#2
Nkaleidoscopic Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: US Posts: 413	Your mom is probably right .. 6-12 months is good. You never know how someone will drive under stress if it's their first week. And of course you feel safe -- you're with your friends. I say listen to your mom. Waiting 6 months cant possibly hurt that much. Don't you have friends that have driven already over 6-12 months? __________________ eNA is my personal therapist.

11-14-2005, 01:42 PM	#6
AllieCatOf2 Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Florida: Hurricane hot-spot Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 10	Its not some much about being responsible, its their driving EXPERIENCE she is worried about. alot can happen real fast on the road, and those who have been driving longer do better at handling different things. Listen to mom, it will be well worth the wait!!! __________________ The meaning of life is looking into your child's eyes and seeing your own soul.....

11-10-2005, 07:38 PM	#3
suprema99 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Il Age: 34 Posts: 306	well, 6-12 months is a long time and kinda over protective in my opinion. But she's probably thinking 4 teens in a car, are more innocent when they leave the driveway and are more careless by themselves. Talking on the cell phones, turning up the radio and not paying attention, plus inexperienced, which is the major reason here she's seems to be thinking, can be a recipe for disaster. She won't believe anything you tell her about your friends driving. So I would say make a suggestion not everyday you'll go out driving with them, maybe 1-2 times a week for starters, and if anything goes wrong. tell her, you have every right to remove all my driving privelages with my friends. If your that sure nothing will happen, and you'll be safe, than you should have no problem putting any demands on yourself. goodluck

11-11-2005, 12:20 AM	#5
bemyself Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Gender: Female Posts: 27	Hello, Listen to your mother. Wait those 6-12 months. Remember safety should always be followed in a moving vehicle. When your young friends gain more driving experience, I believe that your mother will be more assured of your safety riding in a vehicle with them.