beauty

candigurl55 · 10-19-2005, 05:54 PM

My boyfriend of a year has only told me i was beautiful 3 times. i know its not a big deal but it makes me feel good when he does. I would just like to hear it more often. How do i let him know how i feel without coming out and just telling him?

jna35 · 10-19-2005, 06:03 PM

You really do need to just tell him it makes you feel special when he says that.

suprema99 · 10-19-2005, 06:34 PM

Don't tell him anything, you might mess up his head. 3 times is plenty, how many times do you need to hear it? Wouldn't you like for it to be spontanious? Trust me This kind of petty stuff, can have enough power to break up relationships.

Kurodashi · 10-19-2005, 07:16 PM

You should let him know how happy it makes you feel when he compliments you (not justsaying youre beautiful)
Don't ask him or hint to him calling you beautiful more. You want it to be honest and spontanious as suprema99 said. Thats what makes it so flattering.
If you ask him, then everytime he says it, you might just think hes saying it to make you happy.
Be gratefull he's said it at all, and try not to focus on how *little* he said, but that he said it at all.
Trust me, there are guys out there that will either not compliment you at all, or will falsly compliment you too much.
Try not to think about it to much, and when it does happen, enjoy it and show him how happy it makes you.

darkblue · 10-19-2005, 07:30 PM

Asking for compliments?

Wouldn't you rather the three real ones?

randy · 10-19-2005, 07:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by candigurl55

I would just like to hear it more often.

YOUR BEAUTIFUL ! ! !

Next time he says it simply say " you know that realllly makes me feel special " Then give him a little kiss . Leave it at that . . .

Like others have said . Don't worry about it . It won't make you feel as good as it does if he said it every day now would it ?

suprema99 · 10-19-2005, 07:45 PM

Lol

**annie24** · 10-19-2005, 07:47 PM

It reminds me of the old story of a married couple. The wife complained, "My husband of 50 years has only told me he loved me once, and that was on our wedding day." The husband countered with, "I never told you again, because I never changed my mind about loving you."

I think you're boyfriend may just think it's obvious that he finds you attractive, seeing as how he's still with you. I like what the others said, just tell him it really makes you feel good when he gives you compliments. I know how you feel - I am like that too.

Good luck!

suprema99 · 10-19-2005, 07:56 PM

I agree with annie and the others, keep it real and enjoy when you get a real compliment, it's better to get a real compliment obviously than something fake.

Beec · 10-19-2005, 08:20 PM

I would use a carrot and stick approach, and I would approach the topic rather indirectly. In other words, I would not tell him you want him to call you beautiful.

What he is not doing does not surprise me. When I was in college, a litle older than him and you, I dated a beautiful woman, in my opinion, who I was in love with. A guy at that age is not so secure that he can say those thigns all the time. We say it once a year and think that is enough. Now, I get a woman on the phone and say "Hey Gorgeous" and it comes out of me easily, but I am a lot more confident now. I can be sappy now without feeling whimpy. He's not yet at that point, so don't expect big changes.

But to get him to do it. I would first of all, see him one day and be in a great mood. And all way up and when he asks why tell him it was because someone told you you were hot, gorgeous or something like it.
Then you shouldl be rather aloof to him, happy about the comment, aloof from him. And he will tell you soemthing good. In the next days, grab him at soem time, grab him and kiss him like you want to suck his lungs out, and do it when he does not expect. Then tell him that you did it because he told you that. If that does not work, I'll try to think of soemthing else.

10-19-2005, 05:54 PM	#1
candigurl55 Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: north carolina Age: 20 Posts: 49	beauty My boyfriend of a year has only told me i was beautiful 3 times. i know its not a big deal but it makes me feel good when he does. I would just like to hear it more often. How do i let him know how i feel without coming out and just telling him? __________________ dont look back in anger.....i heard you say

10-19-2005, 07:16 PM	#4
Kurodashi Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Kushiro, Japan Age: 25 Posts: 81	You should let him know how happy it makes you feel when he compliments you (not justsaying youre beautiful) Don't ask him or hint to him calling you beautiful more. You want it to be honest and spontanious as suprema99 said. Thats what makes it so flattering. If you ask him, then everytime he says it, you might just think hes saying it to make you happy. Be gratefull he's said it at all, and try not to focus on how little he said, but that he said it at all. Trust me, there are guys out there that will either not compliment you at all, or will falsly compliment you too much. Try not to think about it to much, and when it does happen, enjoy it and show him how happy it makes you. __________________ http://i23.photobucket.com/albums/b400/Kurodashi/rikkusmall.jpg points Its an enter key! Lets all use it! ^_^ Please use paragraphs!!!!!!! goes cross-eyed

10-19-2005, 07:30 PM	#5
darkblue Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Glasgow, Scotland. Gender: Male Posts: 5,085	Asking for compliments? Wouldn't you rather the three real ones? __________________ _________________ Aut vincere aut mori. "Whoever loves; becomes humble. Those who love have, so to speak, pawned a part of their narcissism." - Sigmund Freud Man is nothing else but that which he makes of himself. That is the first principle of existentialism - J.P. Sartre

10-19-2005, 06:03 PM	#2
jna35 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: California Age: 40 Posts: 468	You really do need to just tell him it makes you feel special when he says that.

10-19-2005, 06:34 PM	#3
suprema99 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Il Age: 34 Posts: 306	Don't tell him anything, you might mess up his head. 3 times is plenty, how many times do you need to hear it? Wouldn't you like for it to be spontanious? Trust me This kind of petty stuff, can have enough power to break up relationships.

10-19-2005, 07:45 PM	#7
suprema99 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Il Age: 34 Posts: 306	Lol

10-19-2005, 07:47 PM	#8
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,814	It reminds me of the old story of a married couple. The wife complained, "My husband of 50 years has only told me he loved me once, and that was on our wedding day." The husband countered with, "I never told you again, because I never changed my mind about loving you." I think you're boyfriend may just think it's obvious that he finds you attractive, seeing as how he's still with you. I like what the others said, just tell him it really makes you feel good when he gives you compliments. I know how you feel - I am like that too. Good luck!

10-19-2005, 07:56 PM	#9
suprema99 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Il Age: 34 Posts: 306	I agree with annie and the others, keep it real and enjoy when you get a real compliment, it's better to get a real compliment obviously than something fake.

10-19-2005, 08:20 PM	#10
Beec Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: New York Posts: 7,556	I would use a carrot and stick approach, and I would approach the topic rather indirectly. In other words, I would not tell him you want him to call you beautiful. What he is not doing does not surprise me. When I was in college, a litle older than him and you, I dated a beautiful woman, in my opinion, who I was in love with. A guy at that age is not so secure that he can say those thigns all the time. We say it once a year and think that is enough. Now, I get a woman on the phone and say "Hey Gorgeous" and it comes out of me easily, but I am a lot more confident now. I can be sappy now without feeling whimpy. He's not yet at that point, so don't expect big changes. But to get him to do it. I would first of all, see him one day and be in a great mood. And all way up and when he asks why tell him it was because someone told you you were hot, gorgeous or something like it. Then you shouldl be rather aloof to him, happy about the comment, aloof from him. And he will tell you soemthing good. In the next days, grab him at soem time, grab him and kiss him like you want to suck his lungs out, and do it when he does not expect. Then tell him that you did it because he told you that. If that does not work, I'll try to think of soemthing else.