Stuck in a love triangle!!!

onyx jewel · 10-14-2005, 08:38 PM

I have been seeing this man that I met a few weeks ago and since then we have been intimate on a regular basis. I think we have done everything possible that nasty person can do. He has a thing for anal sex and since I have giving him a taste of things, he willnot leave me alone. He calls me on a regular basis and pretends that he is outside my house to hear my response. I think that is to assure that I don't have another man in my house.

To get to the point I found out that he is married with a 8 year old son. Now I have a problem, because I don't need any drama but he is so sexy and the sex is unbelievable. I mean the man has me talkin in tongues Damn! I know it is wrong and I feel that I have been betrayed by him and I am betraying the wife. I don't know what to do now, becasue there are feelings and emotions involved. I told him that I wanted to break it off and he declined saying that it was too late. He said that the P---Y is too good and he refuses to let me go. Help!

smallworld · 10-14-2005, 08:48 PM

Hey Onyx, it's simple really. What's more important to you? The sex or your conscience? Make a choice and you'll know what to do.

PS. He can say anything he wants, but it doesn't make it so.

darkblue · 10-14-2005, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by smallworld

Hey Onyx, it's simple really. What's more important to you? The sex or your conscience? Make a choice and you'll know what to do.

Precisely.
Can you live with having great sex, from a husband and father?

miracle29 · 10-14-2005, 08:58 PM

The P***y is so good because its forbidden. Whether it be you or someone else he'd be saying the same thing. I don't know what you really want because you are so hooked on the lustful side of this, it doesnt sound like you really want to make a change. I find the fact that he's doing Anal with you almost past disrespectful to his wife. I know this is going to be hard for you, but have a feeling it may take something very drastic for you to end this dangerous, and very horrid affair. His wife doesnt deserve this, nor does his 8yr old. So what he's sexy, and good in bed, many men are just as sexy and even better in bed, and they are single.

Some human beings are very weak, they can't control the flesh, they get caught up in the "sweetnothings" and the "lies " a man /woman tells them and they sacrifice the good in themselves to partake in a cycle that is bound to come back to haunt them.

Once you found out about this wife of his, you should have let him go..The title of your post is "Stuck in a LOVE triangle" but there is nothing about love even included. This is about SEX. How low can a person get? (He is lower than low). He doesnt love you, you are his cake, and his wife is also his cake, he has it made and the two of you are getting played.

I want you to know this is wrong, and it says clearly in the bible "let no man/woman tear a sunder" you are guilty in playing a role in destruction toa marraige and what goes around comes around. Let that marinate!

**lady00** · 10-15-2005, 01:09 AM

He says it's too late to break up and he won't let u go? Whoever said a breakup was supposed to be mutually agreed upon? If you don't want to see him anymore (he's married so this makes good sense) then don't. What he says or wants is irrelevant. Let him ruin his marriage with some other woman. You deserve better.

HajiMaji · 10-15-2005, 01:52 AM

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Originally Posted by onyx jewel

and he declined saying that it was too late. He said that the P---Y is too good and he refuses to let me go.

If I said that to my ex girlfriend she woulda gave me the most disgusted face in the world and never spoken to me again!! It wouldnt have stopped her from leaving

miracle29 · 10-16-2005, 03:15 AM

I agree HajiMaji, because all this guy is really saying is "your sex is good and so I say you stay" but as the other poster says..he doesnt make your decisions for you. If you want out (and I think you'd be better off) then please take out now...before you get in too deep.

onyx jewel · 10-16-2005, 11:11 AM

I took your advice and I agree with 110%. It was just a lust thing for me personally. I am one of those who are guilty with letting the flesh control . I would stick around just for the sex, but I made the decision to not pick up the phone or see him this past weekend and I have just been getting crazy messages from him, which I can handle myself if he stepped out of bound.

Like you said get out before it gets to deep and I just did that. Many people think that "oh she is wrong for even sleeping with a married man, yea that may be the case, but the act occured prior before I was notified, you know and I can't help it if its good and we had a sexual connect with one another.

The poster that had a right to her opinion really was feeling some type of way about this post. I wonder if it has some relevance to her personally? Thanks so much for your honesty and advice.

onyx jewel · 10-16-2005, 11:41 AM

You no what I could live with myself but I would not do it. Only because I would always be second and my philosophy is i you love me I love you back if you don't want me I don't want you either. I can't do it,becase I thought about it and he's running out the house constantly to be with me (After I found out) and there at home and she has a suspicion..

I can live with a lot of things the question is do I want to give some house wife a complex about herself, because her husband wants to fool around. I think its because mankind was not oridinally suppose to be confined to one woman. Society says that this is suppose to be this way, but whos to say it the right way. Maybe this is why we have so many cases like this even out of weddlock.....

What do you think?

miracle29 · 10-16-2005, 06:49 PM

I think you should let him go and not look for excuses as to why "humans" can't control themselves and why the all fail.

I had to say it this way because I for one, know many men who would "NEVER" cheat on their wive's/girlfriends/or fiances. I've been lucky enough to find someone who loves me and can control himself. Don't settle on this guy "half a man" (meaning he belongs to someone else so he can't give all of himself to you). Don't settle on the excuse that "all men" or "most men" will do this one day so why should I try or fight these urges?".

I understand that the sexual chemistry between you two were strong, but he is not the end all be all, there ar more men who perhaps you will meet one day, who can be just as good in bed and help you feel love , real love deeper than just sex, and would make your body levitate. I am speaking from personal experience.

Take if from a happily married woman, who also has happily married friends. Wives / and husbands (because not only men cheat) who may find others attractive but they don't use the excuse of "Oh well, we werent built to be loyal" as an excuse to conduct themselves in behaviors that may destroy or really damage their relationships.

This guy is not worth it, he is only going to put you through what you allow him to get away with.
I bet you if you let him go, and somehow could be a fly on the wall, it wouldnt be but a matter of time before he would have someone else on the side, (another victim) and he's whisper sweet nothings to her as well.

I think you're stronger than you give yourself credit for... and something in you felt bad about this and thats why you posted, so don't go back on that saying "i can live with it" because I can live with a broken leg, but that doesnt mean i want one right? So don't let him convince you that his "mere good sex" is worth you comprimising your integrity. You're better than that.

10-14-2005, 08:38 PM	#1
onyx jewel Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Age: 32 Posts: 7	Stuck in a love triangle!!! I have been seeing this man that I met a few weeks ago and since then we have been intimate on a regular basis. I think we have done everything possible that nasty person can do. He has a thing for anal sex and since I have giving him a taste of things, he willnot leave me alone. He calls me on a regular basis and pretends that he is outside my house to hear my response. I think that is to assure that I don't have another man in my house. To get to the point I found out that he is married with a 8 year old son. Now I have a problem, because I don't need any drama but he is so sexy and the sex is unbelievable. I mean the man has me talkin in tongues Damn! I know it is wrong and I feel that I have been betrayed by him and I am betraying the wife. I don't know what to do now, becasue there are feelings and emotions involved. I told him that I wanted to break it off and he declined saying that it was too late. He said that the P---Y is too good and he refuses to let me go. Help! __________________ A great philospher once said....

10-14-2005, 08:48 PM	#2
smallworld Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Orange County, CA Gender: Female Age: 39 Posts: 872	Re: Stuck in a love triangle!!! Hey Onyx, it's simple really. What's more important to you? The sex or your conscience? Make a choice and you'll know what to do. PS. He can say anything he wants, but it doesn't make it so. __________________ "Sigh... I guess you're an adult now and know what you're doing." -- Smallworld's Mom 3.05.06

10-16-2005, 11:11 AM	#8
onyx jewel Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Age: 32 Posts: 7	I took your advice and I agree with 110%. It was just a lust thing for me personally. I am one of those who are guilty with letting the flesh control . I would stick around just for the sex, but I made the decision to not pick up the phone or see him this past weekend and I have just been getting crazy messages from him, which I can handle myself if he stepped out of bound. Like you said get out before it gets to deep and I just did that. Many people think that "oh she is wrong for even sleeping with a married man, yea that may be the case, but the act occured prior before I was notified, you know and I can't help it if its good and we had a sexual connect with one another. The poster that had a right to her opinion really was feeling some type of way about this post. I wonder if it has some relevance to her personally? Thanks so much for your honesty and advice. __________________ A great philospher once said....

10-16-2005, 11:41 AM	#9
onyx jewel Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Age: 32 Posts: 7	Question You no what I could live with myself but I would not do it. Only because I would always be second and my philosophy is i you love me I love you back if you don't want me I don't want you either. I can't do it,becase I thought about it and he's running out the house constantly to be with me (After I found out) and there at home and she has a suspicion.. I can live with a lot of things the question is do I want to give some house wife a complex about herself, because her husband wants to fool around. I think its because mankind was not oridinally suppose to be confined to one woman. Society says that this is suppose to be this way, but whos to say it the right way. Maybe this is why we have so many cases like this even out of weddlock..... What do you think? __________________ A great philospher once said....

10-14-2005, 08:58 PM	#4
miracle29 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Dudes..I'm In FLA now! Yayyy Gender: Female Age: 35 Posts: 1,532	The P***y is so good because its forbidden. Whether it be you or someone else he'd be saying the same thing. I don't know what you really want because you are so hooked on the lustful side of this, it doesnt sound like you really want to make a change. I find the fact that he's doing Anal with you almost past disrespectful to his wife. I know this is going to be hard for you, but have a feeling it may take something very drastic for you to end this dangerous, and very horrid affair. His wife doesnt deserve this, nor does his 8yr old. So what he's sexy, and good in bed, many men are just as sexy and even better in bed, and they are single. Some human beings are very weak, they can't control the flesh, they get caught up in the "sweetnothings" and the "lies " a man /woman tells them and they sacrifice the good in themselves to partake in a cycle that is bound to come back to haunt them. Once you found out about this wife of his, you should have let him go..The title of your post is "Stuck in a LOVE triangle" but there is nothing about love even included. This is about SEX. How low can a person get? (He is lower than low). He doesnt love you, you are his cake, and his wife is also his cake, he has it made and the two of you are getting played. I want you to know this is wrong, and it says clearly in the bible "let no man/woman tear a sunder" you are guilty in playing a role in destruction toa marraige and what goes around comes around. Let that marinate!

10-15-2005, 01:09 AM	#5
lady00 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: May 2004 Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 7,869	He says it's too late to break up and he won't let u go? Whoever said a breakup was supposed to be mutually agreed upon? If you don't want to see him anymore (he's married so this makes good sense) then don't. What he says or wants is irrelevant. Let him ruin his marriage with some other woman. You deserve better.

10-16-2005, 03:15 AM	#7
miracle29 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Dudes..I'm In FLA now! Yayyy Gender: Female Age: 35 Posts: 1,532	I agree HajiMaji, because all this guy is really saying is "your sex is good and so I say you stay" but as the other poster says..he doesnt make your decisions for you. If you want out (and I think you'd be better off) then please take out now...before you get in too deep.

10-16-2005, 06:49 PM	#10
miracle29 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Dudes..I'm In FLA now! Yayyy Gender: Female Age: 35 Posts: 1,532	I think you should let him go and not look for excuses as to why "humans" can't control themselves and why the all fail. I had to say it this way because I for one, know many men who would "NEVER" cheat on their wive's/girlfriends/or fiances. I've been lucky enough to find someone who loves me and can control himself. Don't settle on this guy "half a man" (meaning he belongs to someone else so he can't give all of himself to you). Don't settle on the excuse that "all men" or "most men" will do this one day so why should I try or fight these urges?". I understand that the sexual chemistry between you two were strong, but he is not the end all be all, there ar more men who perhaps you will meet one day, who can be just as good in bed and help you feel love , real love deeper than just sex, and would make your body levitate. I am speaking from personal experience. Take if from a happily married woman, who also has happily married friends. Wives / and husbands (because not only men cheat) who may find others attractive but they don't use the excuse of "Oh well, we werent built to be loyal" as an excuse to conduct themselves in behaviors that may destroy or really damage their relationships. This guy is not worth it, he is only going to put you through what you allow him to get away with. I bet you if you let him go, and somehow could be a fly on the wall, it wouldnt be but a matter of time before he would have someone else on the side, (another victim) and he's whisper sweet nothings to her as well. I think you're stronger than you give yourself credit for... and something in you felt bad about this and thats why you posted, so don't go back on that saying "i can live with it" because I can live with a broken leg, but that doesnt mean i want one right? So don't let him convince you that his "mere good sex" is worth you comprimising your integrity. You're better than that.