mmf Threesome

thinksalot · 10-14-2005, 05:16 AM

I ran a search on "threesome" in this forum and read as many posts as I could. I'm aware that most people are advising that a serious relationship not attempt a threesome because it may lead to the end of the relationship and/or hurt feelings.

The thing is, the very thought of another guy (who is likeable and trustworthy) having sex with my girlfriend or fondling her and eventually going into a threesome with me included turns me on. I also know that she has an interest in mmf threesome as well because we've discussed it together. I think we have a strong and healthy relationship, we get along very well and love sharing our bodies with each other.

I'm fully aware that sexual fantasy and reality are two completely different things. Neither of us have ever experienced a threesome before. I'm just very turned on when I know my girlfriend is feeling and getting lots of pleasure, whether it be from me or a sex toy, and now I'm thinking even as far as a threesome. It turns me on (in my head).

My question is: With everything I've just stated here, is the idea of a threesome (for both the girlfriend and I) still sound like nothing more than a dirty thought (sexual fantasy), or has anyone been in a similar position as I am now who can tell me that yes they've been in a serious longterm relationship and have tried a threesome and has definitely enjoyed (or unenjoyed) it.

I just want to know if we both should keep the thought of a threesome as just our sexual fantasy instead of exploring it in real life.

Blackmsmithdave · 10-14-2005, 05:31 AM

personaly i would keep it as just a fantasy, but then again i am a very jealouse lover, i would cut anouther mans hands off for touching the women i love. But im a little wierd but from a purely sexual perspective i have been offered a threesome twice and have considerewd it and been quite up to it, but i was the additional male and they were the couple. it might improve your sexual relationship, but it might sink it. Also you have to really trust this guy. Would it be a bugger if your lady went off with him having found something better.

Sorry im a little shallow so talk to a few other people before making up your mind.

Good luck and keep us posted

loot · 10-14-2005, 05:35 AM

well, this is exactly how my mind is trailing right now.......and my boyfriends. except we want a ffm thresome. im not bisexual but i know pleasuring another woman and her returning that favour would turn him on, i just have doubts about whether id mind her havin sex with him. im a very insecure person and so al i can worry about is wether hed prefer her and go off with her. so..................in the end we kept the fantasy in our heads, i would mind the me and girl bit but not the him nd girl bit, but thats not really a threesome is it, lol. if i were u , if ur not sure , just keep it in ur head. both of us were turned on by it and curious but at the end of the day neither of us were sure if wed be hurt or regret it after. just think, picture ur girl with another man, how do u feel about watching that? have u discussed a ffm thresome? i know thatt means shed get more hurt by that than u, but maybe she wouldnt mind u with another girl. but my final word is if ur not certain and have doubts which i gather u are because u wouldnt be askin 4 advice, then just dont do it.

boredSlim · 10-14-2005, 05:36 AM

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i would mind the me and girl bit but not the him nd girl bit, but thats not really a threesome is it, lol.

Actually, yes, that is a threesome, you can set rules of who can touch who and who can do what with who. So yes, you can try that.

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picture ur girl with another man, how do u feel about watching that?

I picture her with another man when I masturbate. I'm just really turned on when she is being sexually pleased.

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have u discussed a ffm thresome?

She doesn't like the idea of me inside another girl even though both of us mind about the idea of another guy inside her.

boredSlim · 10-14-2005, 05:42 AM

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it might improve your sexual relationship, but it might sink it.

That's what I'm curious about. The chances of it sinking.

Vert · 10-14-2005, 08:35 AM

So she doesn't like the fact that you would be inside another girl, but she doesn't mind the fact of another guy pumping her? Hmmm a bit on the unfair side, unless you're into seeing another man's junk in your bed. Personally, I'd never participate in a 3-some at any time much less a MMF. I think I'd need to be at least bi-sexual and so would he in order to do that because you have to be ready to see it, probably touch it, and definitely be near it.

Day_Walker · 10-14-2005, 09:55 AM

I think that its possible a relationship will not turn nasty after a threesome, IF the relationship is strong and both people are mature enough to handle the situation. Now saying that I dont believe that most relationship could survive a threesome so I think its a judgement call about your particular relationship.

boredSlim · 10-14-2005, 10:25 AM

You guys brought up some good points here that I haven't thought about before.

Day Walker said "if both people are mature enough" and I thought we were, but seeing as how Vert brought up that she would mind if I was inside another girl but wouldn't mind another guy being in her while I don't mind either way maybe is a good indicator that we shouldn't attempt this, at least, not right now.

I think my decision for now is leaning towards leaving it as a shared sexual fantasy.

Vert · 10-14-2005, 12:57 PM

Probably a wise choice, my friend. If she is showing "jealous" statements of not wanting you to be with other women but wants to be with other men at the same time... well, that's a red flag to stop right there with the 3-some talk. Until she's ready to be all's fair and equal, then don't.

Blackmsmithdave · 10-14-2005, 04:08 PM

glad i we could help, i dont want to hear that she has bullied you into it and then gone off with this other guy. I will be very upset, its nothing to do with me but i get pasionate about infedility. pasionate in the i hate them kind of way.

Good luck and i hope things between you and your lady go well.

10-14-2005, 05:16 AM	#1
thinksalot Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Age: 26 Posts: 8	mmf Threesome I ran a search on "threesome" in this forum and read as many posts as I could. I'm aware that most people are advising that a serious relationship not attempt a threesome because it may lead to the end of the relationship and/or hurt feelings. The thing is, the very thought of another guy (who is likeable and trustworthy) having sex with my girlfriend or fondling her and eventually going into a threesome with me included turns me on. I also know that she has an interest in mmf threesome as well because we've discussed it together. I think we have a strong and healthy relationship, we get along very well and love sharing our bodies with each other. I'm fully aware that sexual fantasy and reality are two completely different things. Neither of us have ever experienced a threesome before. I'm just very turned on when I know my girlfriend is feeling and getting lots of pleasure, whether it be from me or a sex toy, and now I'm thinking even as far as a threesome. It turns me on (in my head). My question is: With everything I've just stated here, is the idea of a threesome (for both the girlfriend and I) still sound like nothing more than a dirty thought (sexual fantasy), or has anyone been in a similar position as I am now who can tell me that yes they've been in a serious longterm relationship and have tried a threesome and has definitely enjoyed (or unenjoyed) it. I just want to know if we both should keep the thought of a threesome as just our sexual fantasy instead of exploring it in real life.

10-14-2005, 05:31 AM	#2
Blackmsmithdave Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: England South of London Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 185	personaly i would keep it as just a fantasy, but then again i am a very jealouse lover, i would cut anouther mans hands off for touching the women i love. But im a little wierd but from a purely sexual perspective i have been offered a threesome twice and have considerewd it and been quite up to it, but i was the additional male and they were the couple. it might improve your sexual relationship, but it might sink it. Also you have to really trust this guy. Would it be a bugger if your lady went off with him having found something better. Sorry im a little shallow so talk to a few other people before making up your mind. Good luck and keep us posted __________________ Its not enough to Succeed others must Fail

10-14-2005, 08:35 AM	#6
Vert Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: dirty souf Gender: Male Age: 32 Posts: 716	So she doesn't like the fact that you would be inside another girl, but she doesn't mind the fact of another guy pumping her? Hmmm a bit on the unfair side, unless you're into seeing another man's junk in your bed. Personally, I'd never participate in a 3-some at any time much less a MMF. I think I'd need to be at least bi-sexual and so would he in order to do that because you have to be ready to see it, probably touch it, and definitely be near it. __________________ "What man is a man who does not make the world better?" -- Kingdom of Heaven

10-14-2005, 09:55 AM	#7
Day_Walker Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 5,721	I think that its possible a relationship will not turn nasty after a threesome, IF the relationship is strong and both people are mature enough to handle the situation. Now saying that I dont believe that most relationship could survive a threesome so I think its a judgement call about your particular relationship. __________________ "A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong gives it the superficial appearance of being right, and raises at first a formidable outcry in defense of custom. But the tumult soon subsides. Time makes more converts than reason." Thomas Paine "The wise man questions others wisdom because he questions his own, the foolish man because it is different from his own." Leo Stein

10-14-2005, 12:57 PM	#9
Vert Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: dirty souf Gender: Male Age: 32 Posts: 716	Probably a wise choice, my friend. If she is showing "jealous" statements of not wanting you to be with other women but wants to be with other men at the same time... well, that's a red flag to stop right there with the 3-some talk. Until she's ready to be all's fair and equal, then don't. __________________ "What man is a man who does not make the world better?" -- Kingdom of Heaven

10-14-2005, 05:35 AM	#3
loot Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 4	well, this is exactly how my mind is trailing right now.......and my boyfriends. except we want a ffm thresome. im not bisexual but i know pleasuring another woman and her returning that favour would turn him on, i just have doubts about whether id mind her havin sex with him. im a very insecure person and so al i can worry about is wether hed prefer her and go off with her. so..................in the end we kept the fantasy in our heads, i would mind the me and girl bit but not the him nd girl bit, but thats not really a threesome is it, lol. if i were u , if ur not sure , just keep it in ur head. both of us were turned on by it and curious but at the end of the day neither of us were sure if wed be hurt or regret it after. just think, picture ur girl with another man, how do u feel about watching that? have u discussed a ffm thresome? i know thatt means shed get more hurt by that than u, but maybe she wouldnt mind u with another girl. but my final word is if ur not certain and have doubts which i gather u are because u wouldnt be askin 4 advice, then just dont do it.

10-14-2005, 10:25 AM	#8
boredSlim Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 5	You guys brought up some good points here that I haven't thought about before. Day Walker said "if both people are mature enough" and I thought we were, but seeing as how Vert brought up that she would mind if I was inside another girl but wouldn't mind another guy being in her while I don't mind either way maybe is a good indicator that we shouldn't attempt this, at least, not right now. I think my decision for now is leaning towards leaving it as a shared sexual fantasy.

10-14-2005, 04:08 PM	#10
Blackmsmithdave Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: England South of London Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 185	glad i we could help, i dont want to hear that she has bullied you into it and then gone off with this other guy. I will be very upset, its nothing to do with me but i get pasionate about infedility. pasionate in the i hate them kind of way. Good luck and i hope things between you and your lady go well. __________________ Its not enough to Succeed others must Fail