I am on vacation and am depressed -- just needed to vent.

Jonathon · 10-13-2005, 11:22 PM

Hey all,

I'm on vacation right now and I'm depressed. I've been depressed before but right now I'm super-depressed.

I'm depressed for 2 reasons.

#1 - I feel like I'll never find any love. I'm on a cruise right now and I just had my first girlfriend. I've technically had a girlfriend before but like in 2nd grade, and all we did was dance one night and talk whenever we saw each other. I don't even remember.

I had just forgotten about a girl I liked for 5 years (I've posted about her alot on here) and she means nothing to me now. She hates me but that is a different story. I met this girl on the basketball court, and I just went up there to see if the courts were still open. We had almost the exact same personality. We were both christian, both like wrestling, both had the same turn-offs, it was great. We kissed, hugged, made out, everything, but then we broke up and decided to just be friends. We broke up because what we did was wrong because she said that if she couldn't do this in front of her parents then she shouldn't be doing it at all. Her parents don't like her doing stuff like this with people they don't know well.

I just feel like I'm never going to get another girl, and I'm such a nice guy too.

And here's reason #2, the bigger reason, if you're still reading --

#2 - I live with my parents right now. I hate them. For the past year or so we haven't been on good terms and it's gotten to the point where I can't stand them anymore, so once we get back from this vacation/cruise (Saturday), I'm gonna ask them if I can live with my grandma or somebody if I get my grades up.

My grandma lives in Chicago, which is a better place for me. I have closer friends up there, our whole family besides us lives there. I like the cold weather, being able to walk to places, it just fits me.

I'm not gonna go on to explain why I hate em but I know they'll say yes. I'm planning to move to Australia after high school and my mom once offered to take me there for boarding school now, I said no though.

The thing is, my parents are so nice. They are like rich, let me do whatever I want and all that, but I just don't want to be raised that way.

I know that if I go live with a relative in Chicago then there will be strict rules, less internet or perhaps none at all, none of these fancy vacations, I'd prefer it to be like that though.

I just wanted to vent -- reply if you want.

skyjuice · 10-13-2005, 11:37 PM

Hi

I think you are so lucky to have choice to choose to live where. To add, the financial support to go boarding school or move to Australia.

Many of us out there does not even have the chance. Some of us need to work ourselves up, buy the cheapest food in the supermarket to save up money.

I could say you are a very lucky lad. Treasure the things that you have. Do not take them for granted! If you are so free, may be you could do so charity work. It may help you boost your confidence.

habitual_loser · 10-14-2005, 03:37 AM

Life is too interesting to get caught up in your parental difficulties. My advice, since they sound like understanding folks with a good spending budget, is to enjoy life with your friends and concentrate on your studies rather than worrying about being priveledged.

You can't do anything about who your parents are, and you shouldn't let people guilt trip you about it. If you feel like contributing to the world, do so. If you don't, have fun and make sure it's with friends. There are three things you will remember distinctly when you're old and gray like me (heh.) Good meals, time spent with friends, and if you're very, very lucky, a few tender moments with someone you love.

Having parents with loose rules right now may seem like a bad deal to you - for whatever reason - but think 10 years forward looking 10 years back at the cool oportunities you have to effortlessly go see plays, concerts, eat good food, and have friends over on a Friday night to watch a dvd on your high definition TV. Hell, you could spend an entire summer reading fantasy novels or Oscar Wilde and your parents would probably be pleased. I know you're envious of other people, but until you learn to appreciate the merits of your own lifestyle, I don't advise making drastic changes to it.

As for the women: you've had a longterm crush and a spur of the moment relationship with someone interesting you met. You're 15 - that's pretty damn good for a reserved lad like yourself. It sounds trite, but you are going to do just fine at finding someone. Wrestler-girl may eventually snap out of it. 5-year crush-girl may suddenly approach you. Girl you've known for half your life but suddenly realized is really, really interesting may show up at your doorstep. You honestly don't know what the future holds, but if your past has any bearing on the future, you've got absolutely nothing to worry about.

So relax and go fill up on lobster bisque.

DarknHandsome · 10-15-2005, 01:42 AM

ive had dozens of crushes my whole life, never had a girlfriend until i was 19.. yup you heard me.. 19, finally decided i was tired of being alone and gathered up my courage and asked a girl out. We've been together almost 9 months, things have been far from perfect, but i guess what im saying is.. its never too late. You might not believe me, but what you are going through, a great many of us have gone through. Rebelling against your parents, crushes, lovesick, we've all been there. Just wait and see, things will slowly get more organized, then more confusing, then more organized, then more confusing, and you get the pattern.. finally you get old and your kids are all grown up and you got grandkids and things are finally calm, but then you get senile and it gets all confusing again, and then finally you die theres one great calming down and then theres nothing left to worry about.

Lifes a b**ch, the longer you live, the more you get used to it

10-13-2005, 11:22 PM	#1
Jonathon Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Wesley Chapel, FL Age: 19 Posts: 32	I am on vacation and am depressed -- just needed to vent. Hey all, I'm on vacation right now and I'm depressed. I've been depressed before but right now I'm super-depressed. I'm depressed for 2 reasons. #1 - I feel like I'll never find any love. I'm on a cruise right now and I just had my first girlfriend. I've technically had a girlfriend before but like in 2nd grade, and all we did was dance one night and talk whenever we saw each other. I don't even remember. I had just forgotten about a girl I liked for 5 years (I've posted about her alot on here) and she means nothing to me now. She hates me but that is a different story. I met this girl on the basketball court, and I just went up there to see if the courts were still open. We had almost the exact same personality. We were both christian, both like wrestling, both had the same turn-offs, it was great. We kissed, hugged, made out, everything, but then we broke up and decided to just be friends. We broke up because what we did was wrong because she said that if she couldn't do this in front of her parents then she shouldn't be doing it at all. Her parents don't like her doing stuff like this with people they don't know well. I just feel like I'm never going to get another girl, and I'm such a nice guy too. And here's reason #2, the bigger reason, if you're still reading -- #2 - I live with my parents right now. I hate them. For the past year or so we haven't been on good terms and it's gotten to the point where I can't stand them anymore, so once we get back from this vacation/cruise (Saturday), I'm gonna ask them if I can live with my grandma or somebody if I get my grades up. My grandma lives in Chicago, which is a better place for me. I have closer friends up there, our whole family besides us lives there. I like the cold weather, being able to walk to places, it just fits me. I'm not gonna go on to explain why I hate em but I know they'll say yes. I'm planning to move to Australia after high school and my mom once offered to take me there for boarding school now, I said no though. The thing is, my parents are so nice. They are like rich, let me do whatever I want and all that, but I just don't want to be raised that way. I know that if I go live with a relative in Chicago then there will be strict rules, less internet or perhaps none at all, none of these fancy vacations, I'd prefer it to be like that though. I just wanted to vent -- reply if you want.

10-13-2005, 11:37 PM	#2
skyjuice Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 1,168	Hi I think you are so lucky to have choice to choose to live where. To add, the financial support to go boarding school or move to Australia. Many of us out there does not even have the chance. Some of us need to work ourselves up, buy the cheapest food in the supermarket to save up money. I could say you are a very lucky lad. Treasure the things that you have. Do not take them for granted! If you are so free, may be you could do so charity work. It may help you boost your confidence.

10-14-2005, 03:37 AM	#3
habitual_loser Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: pacific coast Age: 28 Posts: 54	Life is too interesting to get caught up in your parental difficulties. My advice, since they sound like understanding folks with a good spending budget, is to enjoy life with your friends and concentrate on your studies rather than worrying about being priveledged. You can't do anything about who your parents are, and you shouldn't let people guilt trip you about it. If you feel like contributing to the world, do so. If you don't, have fun and make sure it's with friends. There are three things you will remember distinctly when you're old and gray like me (heh.) Good meals, time spent with friends, and if you're very, very lucky, a few tender moments with someone you love. Having parents with loose rules right now may seem like a bad deal to you - for whatever reason - but think 10 years forward looking 10 years back at the cool oportunities you have to effortlessly go see plays, concerts, eat good food, and have friends over on a Friday night to watch a dvd on your high definition TV. Hell, you could spend an entire summer reading fantasy novels or Oscar Wilde and your parents would probably be pleased. I know you're envious of other people, but until you learn to appreciate the merits of your own lifestyle, I don't advise making drastic changes to it. As for the women: you've had a longterm crush and a spur of the moment relationship with someone interesting you met. You're 15 - that's pretty damn good for a reserved lad like yourself. It sounds trite, but you are going to do just fine at finding someone. Wrestler-girl may eventually snap out of it. 5-year crush-girl may suddenly approach you. Girl you've known for half your life but suddenly realized is really, really interesting may show up at your doorstep. You honestly don't know what the future holds, but if your past has any bearing on the future, you've got absolutely nothing to worry about. So relax and go fill up on lobster bisque.

10-15-2005, 01:42 AM	#4
DarknHandsome Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Age: 23 Posts: 94	ive had dozens of crushes my whole life, never had a girlfriend until i was 19.. yup you heard me.. 19, finally decided i was tired of being alone and gathered up my courage and asked a girl out. We've been together almost 9 months, things have been far from perfect, but i guess what im saying is.. its never too late. You might not believe me, but what you are going through, a great many of us have gone through. Rebelling against your parents, crushes, lovesick, we've all been there. Just wait and see, things will slowly get more organized, then more confusing, then more organized, then more confusing, and you get the pattern.. finally you get old and your kids are all grown up and you got grandkids and things are finally calm, but then you get senile and it gets all confusing again, and then finally you die theres one great calming down and then theres nothing left to worry about. Lifes a b**ch, the longer you live, the more you get used to it