I'm about to go into depression, I was sorta rejected.

theghost · 09-22-2005, 06:23 PM

I've been talking to this girl for just about 2 month, and we connected she looked interested in me. She somewhat flirted a bit, I couldn't really tell. We would talk, it was great. Then one day, I think she found out something about me, it really isn't nothing bad or embarrasing, that would make her reject me, but still possible. I can't tell you guys the thing she found out, but believe me it's not anything bad, but could lead to her not liking me. To make it clear it's like you found out about me that I worked at a crappy job, or that I have some loser friends. Of course that's not true, those were just examples of the level the thing she found out about.
Anyways, I saw her at her at the lunch tables, and she was talking to this guy. Now, I never seen this guy before in my entire life, and I've been talking to her and everything, and I think she would of mensioned something about this guy. To get to the point, I don't feel threaten by this guy, in looks. But I have to let you guys know that I'm bad at talking to girls, and I stuter a bit when I'm talking to her. Overall she seemed pretty interested in me. Well...after a while I found her in the hall way, and the guy wasn't with her anymore, but I'm pretty sure she must of had meet him in one of her classes. Ok, the thing is that when she was at the table with the guy, I said something like hi or something, and she completely acted like we never talked. Ok, back to where I saw her in the hall way, I talked to her and she did it again, she acted like she was uninterested. But later, we sorta got into talking again, and I walked her to her classroom, and then I figure we had some time free, and she said she was hungry, so I said lets get something to eat, and she kept on dodging my invitation. She would say, that her mom cooked something for her and that she wanted to eat at home, and then she said any other time we could eat. So I asked for her number, and she said she had a boyfriend. This is the same girl that wanted me to get a cell phone, I don't know why, but she just did, she wanted me to get a cell phone, I guess so we can talk some more, but this was like a week before she was acting diffrently. So now she won't even give me her number, and the first thing she said was that she had a bf. But I knew she didn't because she never mensioned him and she took a few seconds to come up with his name, and then she said hes not from around here, he lives somewhere else.

I like this girl for about 6 months, then I got the guts to talked to her and we talked great and all. All of the sudden she stoped...like she wouldn't say hi when she saw me, and she saw me a few times too.

What I'm looking for is, what should I do, should I just move on?
that's what most people in here would say.
Should I talk to her and not give up on her?
She basicaly rejected me in other words. But before she like me. I don't know what went wrong. Like I said before....We had a great conversation, and then boom, like she never talked to me. This is the girl that I really like, I think I fell in love with her at first sight. I thought that she could really be the one, and I I felt like she felt the same about me.

What should I do. I'm trying to control myself mentaly, but I think about this during class and it's not good, I'ts hard to stay focus in school. When she first started doing this I flet my heart beating fast, and I felt lightheaded. I'm trying not to go into depression, I want to cry, but I can't. I don't want to see a doctor nor do I want to start taking any pills, I feel like I can control it. But I need help to control it, I don't want to go into depression, what should I do.

rionmccloud · 09-22-2005, 06:31 PM

Move on. All you really can do. There are other girls out there. One of them's bound to dig ya, man.

heloladies21 · 09-22-2005, 06:35 PM

Talk to lots of other girls. It will help you feel better.

theghost · 09-22-2005, 06:47 PM

I can't, I'm not attracted to them, It's like she has all my attention. I can try.

Any advice on talking to her? I mean, she will still talk to me, she will probably act like nothing happend. I really do like her, she gets along with some of my family members, like she knows some of it, and we have a lot in common. It's really hard to find someone like that. I really want to try to get her back. I'm like 80% sure she lied about her bf.

heloladies21 · 09-22-2005, 07:04 PM

If she's willing to lie to you about having a bf, then she's not interested. It might have nothing to do with you, she's probably making a big mistake by not giving you a chance, but it's her decision to make.

She doesn't want you. Let her go. There's better out there for you anyways.

Beec · 09-22-2005, 07:06 PM

You spent two months talking to a woman before busting a move? Yikes. Not many better ways than that to neuter yourself in her mind.

Right now, don't talk to her about this at all. Back off and give her some room.

theghost · 09-22-2005, 07:19 PM

Like beec's idea. I'll give her some room, but we see each other when we go to class. Her class is right next to mine, I guess I can go extra early to avoid her.

So what should I do after I give her some room?

I'm willing to talk to her and make a good conversation, like with confidence.

theghost · 09-22-2005, 07:20 PM

Just note that's is going to be really hard to avoid her, and I don't just want to ignore her.

Beec · 09-22-2005, 07:39 PM

Well, you would need to begin by being very aloof, not seeking her attention, making her seek out yours, etc. And acting like you really do not want anything from her. And, I would begin to look at her, not comment but look at her, with lust in your eyes, like she is a piece of meat. Don't treat or think of her as one, but look at her with lust.

steelwool · 09-25-2005, 11:41 AM

Seriously, you need to forget about having anything romantic with her. A girl that likes you will NOT play like she doesn't know you(especially if you're the one she's saying this to). She really won't tell you she has a boyfriend either. You WILL find someone better than her. So what you have things in common. She disrespected you by acting like that. Why would you want to be with someone who disrespects you? You will come off as a weak fool if you continue to persue after that(in her eyes). I wouldn't avoid her, but don't be all over her. If you see her in the halls, be like "what's up" and keep it moving. Be cool/non-chalant about it. Don't go looking for her. If she wants to talk you could do that, but DO NOT get trapped in her web. after she sees that you're not after her anymore, she'll test you by flirting. Don't fall for it. Also don't lie about anything like you have a girl to her. That comes off as looking like she hurt you which is something you DON'T want. Go out of your immediate hanging area and find other girls to talk to. I bet you'll find some cuties that make her and her stank behavior pale in comparison. Just keep your cool when talking to girls. You never want to come off looking nervous and certainly not desperate. Desperation is a MAJOR turn-off for women. You need any more help let me know.

09-22-2005, 06:23 PM	#1
theghost Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: TX Age: 23 Posts: 374	I'm about to go into depression, I was sorta rejected. I've been talking to this girl for just about 2 month, and we connected she looked interested in me. She somewhat flirted a bit, I couldn't really tell. We would talk, it was great. Then one day, I think she found out something about me, it really isn't nothing bad or embarrasing, that would make her reject me, but still possible. I can't tell you guys the thing she found out, but believe me it's not anything bad, but could lead to her not liking me. To make it clear it's like you found out about me that I worked at a crappy job, or that I have some loser friends. Of course that's not true, those were just examples of the level the thing she found out about. Anyways, I saw her at her at the lunch tables, and she was talking to this guy. Now, I never seen this guy before in my entire life, and I've been talking to her and everything, and I think she would of mensioned something about this guy. To get to the point, I don't feel threaten by this guy, in looks. But I have to let you guys know that I'm bad at talking to girls, and I stuter a bit when I'm talking to her. Overall she seemed pretty interested in me. Well...after a while I found her in the hall way, and the guy wasn't with her anymore, but I'm pretty sure she must of had meet him in one of her classes. Ok, the thing is that when she was at the table with the guy, I said something like hi or something, and she completely acted like we never talked. Ok, back to where I saw her in the hall way, I talked to her and she did it again, she acted like she was uninterested. But later, we sorta got into talking again, and I walked her to her classroom, and then I figure we had some time free, and she said she was hungry, so I said lets get something to eat, and she kept on dodging my invitation. She would say, that her mom cooked something for her and that she wanted to eat at home, and then she said any other time we could eat. So I asked for her number, and she said she had a boyfriend. This is the same girl that wanted me to get a cell phone, I don't know why, but she just did, she wanted me to get a cell phone, I guess so we can talk some more, but this was like a week before she was acting diffrently. So now she won't even give me her number, and the first thing she said was that she had a bf. But I knew she didn't because she never mensioned him and she took a few seconds to come up with his name, and then she said hes not from around here, he lives somewhere else. I like this girl for about 6 months, then I got the guts to talked to her and we talked great and all. All of the sudden she stoped...like she wouldn't say hi when she saw me, and she saw me a few times too. What I'm looking for is, what should I do, should I just move on? that's what most people in here would say. Should I talk to her and not give up on her? She basicaly rejected me in other words. But before she like me. I don't know what went wrong. Like I said before....We had a great conversation, and then boom, like she never talked to me. This is the girl that I really like, I think I fell in love with her at first sight. I thought that she could really be the one, and I I felt like she felt the same about me. What should I do. I'm trying to control myself mentaly, but I think about this during class and it's not good, I'ts hard to stay focus in school. When she first started doing this I flet my heart beating fast, and I felt lightheaded. I'm trying not to go into depression, I want to cry, but I can't. I don't want to see a doctor nor do I want to start taking any pills, I feel like I can control it. But I need help to control it, I don't want to go into depression, what should I do.

09-22-2005, 06:31 PM	#2
rionmccloud Offline Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Louisville, KY Age: 29 Posts: 564	Move on. All you really can do. There are other girls out there. One of them's bound to dig ya, man. __________________ "The pain passes, but the beauty remains." Pierre Auguste Renoir

09-25-2005, 11:41 AM	#10
steelwool Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: En Da Woods Posts: 136	Seriously, you need to forget about having anything romantic with her. A girl that likes you will NOT play like she doesn't know you(especially if you're the one she's saying this to). She really won't tell you she has a boyfriend either. You WILL find someone better than her. So what you have things in common. She disrespected you by acting like that. Why would you want to be with someone who disrespects you? You will come off as a weak fool if you continue to persue after that(in her eyes). I wouldn't avoid her, but don't be all over her. If you see her in the halls, be like "what's up" and keep it moving. Be cool/non-chalant about it. Don't go looking for her. If she wants to talk you could do that, but DO NOT get trapped in her web. after she sees that you're not after her anymore, she'll test you by flirting. Don't fall for it. Also don't lie about anything like you have a girl to her. That comes off as looking like she hurt you which is something you DON'T want. Go out of your immediate hanging area and find other girls to talk to. I bet you'll find some cuties that make her and her stank behavior pale in comparison. Just keep your cool when talking to girls. You never want to come off looking nervous and certainly not desperate. Desperation is a MAJOR turn-off for women. You need any more help let me know. __________________ A female would NEVER have to worry about me cheating on her. I'm extremely picky and whoever I'm with is someone I REALLY like. Besides, cheating is NASTY.

09-22-2005, 06:35 PM	#3
heloladies21 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 3,898	Talk to lots of other girls. It will help you feel better.

09-22-2005, 06:47 PM	#4
theghost Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: TX Age: 23 Posts: 374	I can't, I'm not attracted to them, It's like she has all my attention. I can try. Any advice on talking to her? I mean, she will still talk to me, she will probably act like nothing happend. I really do like her, she gets along with some of my family members, like she knows some of it, and we have a lot in common. It's really hard to find someone like that. I really want to try to get her back. I'm like 80% sure she lied about her bf.

09-22-2005, 07:04 PM	#5
heloladies21 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 3,898	If she's willing to lie to you about having a bf, then she's not interested. It might have nothing to do with you, she's probably making a big mistake by not giving you a chance, but it's her decision to make. She doesn't want you. Let her go. There's better out there for you anyways.

09-22-2005, 07:06 PM	#6
Beec Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: New York Posts: 7,556	You spent two months talking to a woman before busting a move? Yikes. Not many better ways than that to neuter yourself in her mind. Right now, don't talk to her about this at all. Back off and give her some room.

09-22-2005, 07:19 PM	#7
theghost Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: TX Age: 23 Posts: 374	Like beec's idea. I'll give her some room, but we see each other when we go to class. Her class is right next to mine, I guess I can go extra early to avoid her. So what should I do after I give her some room? I'm willing to talk to her and make a good conversation, like with confidence.

09-22-2005, 07:20 PM	#8
theghost Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: TX Age: 23 Posts: 374	Just note that's is going to be really hard to avoid her, and I don't just want to ignore her.

09-22-2005, 07:39 PM	#9
Beec Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: New York Posts: 7,556	Well, you would need to begin by being very aloof, not seeking her attention, making her seek out yours, etc. And acting like you really do not want anything from her. And, I would begin to look at her, not comment but look at her, with lust in your eyes, like she is a piece of meat. Don't treat or think of her as one, but look at her with lust.