Confuddling Beauty...

Runesoul · 08-13-2005, 01:03 AM

I've noticed that sometimes when I looked at a previous gf, she looked absolutely gorgeous and such. But then other times, perhaps just a few minutes later, I'd look back at her and see unpleasant features instead.
Anyone else ever experienced this? I don't mean to be shallow, but it's rather disconcerting when you begin to question what you saw as attractive physically in the first place.

Runesoul

pizzachick13 · 08-13-2005, 01:38 AM

I know exactly what you mean

... I don't know what it is, or what causes it, but you're right. It happened with my ex girlfriend.

It can be disconcerting, but then again it can also be eye opening. For me, when it happened, I then started looking at her supposed "bad" features but then realised that I liked her just as much as I had before. Her looks didn't matter.

But now I have the most gorgeous woman in the entire universe with me... well, in my opinion she is, she may not be to others, but then again I think I'm blinded by love... which is just farm bunnies!!

Anyways, I don't think it's anything to worry about. If it was then a lot of people would be single. :P

Sappho...

darkblue · 08-13-2005, 08:37 AM

As long as you're not 'shallow' enough to judge them on these 'unpleasant features'.

When you find the right person, you will love everything about them. There will be no 'unpleasant features' to pick out.

OceanEyes · 08-13-2005, 01:08 PM

This is something I totally understand and think it's quite natural (has been for me anyhow).

The moment that a person you're dating becomes 'ugly' to you in one way or another, you know it's time to hit the road.

Every guy I've dated has (obviously) had a couple of flaws, but in the beginning I found them "cute". For example, my last boyfriend developed a bit of a beer gut while I was dating him. At first I thought it was really cute and I didn't care at all. By the end it literally repulsed me. It's a natural way of your body telling you that you're no longer attracted to a person, and that's neither shallow or cruel unless you say it out loud.

Aueft · 08-13-2005, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by OceanEyes

This is something I totally understand and think it's quite natural (has been for me anyhow).

The moment that a person you're dating becomes 'ugly' to you in one way or another, you know it's time to hit the road.

Every guy I've dated has (obviously) had a couple of flaws, but in the beginning I found them "cute". For example, my last boyfriend developed a bit of a beer gut while I was dating him. At first I thought it was really cute and I didn't care at all. By the end it literally repulsed me. It's a natural way of your body telling you that you're no longer attracted to a person, and that's neither shallow or cruel unless you say it out loud.

Yes, yes. So true. I dated a girl once for about 4 monthes. By the end I couldn't stand to even look at her, then again, she also had pissed me off considerably, but she also didn't look attractive anymore. I ended it -that day-

08-13-2005, 01:03 AM	#1
Runesoul Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Age: 21 Posts: 34	Confuddling Beauty... I've noticed that sometimes when I looked at a previous gf, she looked absolutely gorgeous and such. But then other times, perhaps just a few minutes later, I'd look back at her and see unpleasant features instead. Anyone else ever experienced this? I don't mean to be shallow, but it's rather disconcerting when you begin to question what you saw as attractive physically in the first place. Runesoul

08-13-2005, 01:38 AM	#2
pizzachick13 Offline Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 396	I know exactly what you mean ... I don't know what it is, or what causes it, but you're right. It happened with my ex girlfriend. It can be disconcerting, but then again it can also be eye opening. For me, when it happened, I then started looking at her supposed "bad" features but then realised that I liked her just as much as I had before. Her looks didn't matter. But now I have the most gorgeous woman in the entire universe with me... well, in my opinion she is, she may not be to others, but then again I think I'm blinded by love... which is just farm bunnies!! Anyways, I don't think it's anything to worry about. If it was then a lot of people would be single. :P Sappho... __________________ I'm insane... but it's ok cos it's all in my head :)

08-13-2005, 08:37 AM	#3
darkblue Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Glasgow, Scotland. Gender: Male Posts: 5,085	As long as you're not 'shallow' enough to judge them on these 'unpleasant features'. When you find the right person, you will love everything about them. There will be no 'unpleasant features' to pick out. __________________ _________________ Aut vincere aut mori. "Whoever loves; becomes humble. Those who love have, so to speak, pawned a part of their narcissism." - Sigmund Freud Man is nothing else but that which he makes of himself. That is the first principle of existentialism - J.P. Sartre

08-13-2005, 01:08 PM	#4
OceanEyes Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 1,883	This is something I totally understand and think it's quite natural (has been for me anyhow). The moment that a person you're dating becomes 'ugly' to you in one way or another, you know it's time to hit the road. Every guy I've dated has (obviously) had a couple of flaws, but in the beginning I found them "cute". For example, my last boyfriend developed a bit of a beer gut while I was dating him. At first I thought it was really cute and I didn't care at all. By the end it literally repulsed me. It's a natural way of your body telling you that you're no longer attracted to a person, and that's neither shallow or cruel unless you say it out loud. __________________ There is no map to human behaviour. - Bjork