Friend getting involved in drugs

Aueft · 08-12-2005, 02:42 PM

Hello. First I'd like to say that I like eNotAlone and I think it's a great place. Expect to see me around more often

Now, to the advice request. A friend of mine that I've known for about 3 years is going down what I'd consider a pretty dark and dangerous path. He's a -very- intellegent guy, and at one time in my life was my best friend. This past year he's gotten involved with the wrong crowd, and began to do drugs. At the beginning he drug me into this as well, but I was wise enough to get out of that situation unlike him, sadly. It saddens me to see his life down down the drain. His mom really cares for him, but it's obvious that she has no control over him whatsoever. His grades have gone down, and he's began to, generally, make unwise decisions that seem to get worse over time. We used to talk about meaningful things, but every time I call him now, which is very, very unfrequent, all he does is talk about drugs and parties and drinking. Ussually I am not sure what to say, so I kind of laugh it off with him and come up with a lame excuse to decline any invitation.
This is going too far now. He's messing his life up, and I -really- care about his well being. Hell, I'd say that I love the guy (No, I am not homosxual). I feel that I need to call him up and tell him to get back on track! He still has time to improve and do something with his life before it's too late! What should I say to him? I'm very confused and overwhelmed, I don't know how to tell him that he needs to stop his self-destructive behaivor without being totally shunned by him

KMSHoney2005 · 08-12-2005, 04:54 PM

unfortunately, there really is not much you can do.

you should talk to him though. state your opinion w/o being too condescending. and let him know your concern.

as casually and gently as you can, ask him why he does it?? what's so great about it?? and why is it necessary?? maybe that will lead off.

hopefully, he will give some thought to it. maybe even stop. but don't be surprised if he doesn't.

note: make sure you do this when he is sober. otherwise, your result will be much worse (of course).

everyone's going through this inevitable state. it's how you deal w/ it that will teach you to learn that you cannot control everything, and you may not be able to do anything about everything.

i wish the best of luck to you and your friend. i know you're going though.

08-12-2005, 02:42 PM	#1
Aueft Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Davis, California Posts: 268	Friend getting involved in drugs Hello. First I'd like to say that I like eNotAlone and I think it's a great place. Expect to see me around more often Now, to the advice request. A friend of mine that I've known for about 3 years is going down what I'd consider a pretty dark and dangerous path. He's a -very- intellegent guy, and at one time in my life was my best friend. This past year he's gotten involved with the wrong crowd, and began to do drugs. At the beginning he drug me into this as well, but I was wise enough to get out of that situation unlike him, sadly. It saddens me to see his life down down the drain. His mom really cares for him, but it's obvious that she has no control over him whatsoever. His grades have gone down, and he's began to, generally, make unwise decisions that seem to get worse over time. We used to talk about meaningful things, but every time I call him now, which is very, very unfrequent, all he does is talk about drugs and parties and drinking. Ussually I am not sure what to say, so I kind of laugh it off with him and come up with a lame excuse to decline any invitation. This is going too far now. He's messing his life up, and I -really- care about his well being. Hell, I'd say that I love the guy (No, I am not homosxual). I feel that I need to call him up and tell him to get back on track! He still has time to improve and do something with his life before it's too late! What should I say to him? I'm very confused and overwhelmed, I don't know how to tell him that he needs to stop his self-destructive behaivor without being totally shunned by him

08-12-2005, 04:54 PM	#2
KMSHoney2005 Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: California Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 18	they're wasting what they've succeeded unfortunately, there really is not much you can do. you should talk to him though. state your opinion w/o being too condescending. and let him know your concern. as casually and gently as you can, ask him why he does it?? what's so great about it?? and why is it necessary?? maybe that will lead off. hopefully, he will give some thought to it. maybe even stop. but don't be surprised if he doesn't. note: make sure you do this when he is sober. otherwise, your result will be much worse (of course). everyone's going through this inevitable state. it's how you deal w/ it that will teach you to learn that you cannot control everything, and you may not be able to do anything about everything. i wish the best of luck to you and your friend. i know you're going though. __________________ XXXmy only solace is that one day, judgment will come for the wicked, then we will see who burnsXXX ~Peanut muah xoxo