Partner With Gambling Addiction..HELP

My husband has a gambling addiction that has caused us great financial difficulty. He keeps promising to stop, but, doesn't. He says he'll get help, but, doesn't. My family/friends don't know about it, so, I have nobody to talk to about it. I guess I'm just hoping to connect with someone I can talk with. I get really depressed and I feel like I'm going crazy at times!

Anyway, thanks for reading this at least.

Having owned harness horses and spending more time than most around racetracks, I have seen plenty of people with this issue. One of the other horse owners who employed the guy who trained my horses had this problem as well.

Like any addiction, it will continue to worsen until the addict gets help. That's a decision they have to make for themselves. You may find it helpful to see if there are meetings of this organization near you. It is a 12-step based program, and usually there is also a related support group for family members of addicts.

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Oh, by the way...you don't have to wait for him to go to meetings. You might find it helpful to talk to others dealing with the same thing. If he won't go...go without him and take care of yourself.

Did a little more digging online....here's an ogranization that would be more focused toward you:

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I feel for you...I am in the same boat. My husband of 7 years has a gambling problem. When I mean a problem, I mean a PROBLEM! Within the last 8 weeks I have discovered that he has spent more than 10,000 dollars on poker, going as far as taking money away from our 401K and from our youngest son's college fund. I feel so betrayed by him, that forgiveness is not in the cards right now. He would ask me to work more hours to "cover the bills", which I did like an idiot. I was working 80 hours a week plus taking care of our kids, one of which has moderately severe ADHD which requires alot of special help. He was dwindling down our accounts not caring about my health or our children. He promised to stop saying he realized that it got out of control, but three weeks later he is out playing poker at his friends house. His latest was just last night. When I confronted him, he said "whatever, I don't care". He refuses marriage counseling or addiction counseling. Now I am in the process of finding a lawyer to leave him. It is a sad thing that he is willing to throw away our marriage. And even if he got help, I am not sure that I could ever feel safe in this relationship again.

So, you are not alone....Take care

I can feel for you on this one. I've been married 5yrs this 22nd, and I can count on not getting anything from my husband for Mothers Day or our Anniversary again. Simply because he can't keep a job, and when he does he spends hundrends even thousands at the Casinos online. We moved back from VA home, where his mother and brother are addicted to gambling as well. We have a Casino accross the hill from us, you can see it when you look out the front door. So it's a constant reminder of his addiction. He ditches us to go like tonight he left us (me and our son). His mother and father divorced for this very reason, and she's 67yrs old and has gambled over 100's of dollars in the past year so it hasn't stopped since their divorce. And before moving back I was afraid of just this, he promised he'd do something else to keep him busy. But without a job he just sits at home and plays online. I have savings, I have bills, I have our son, I have a job and go to school full time, yet he leaves every other day to the casino for hours. And I get chastized for leaving on day to the city w/my mom for a day to myself. Now it's mothers day and he is broke so I can guarantee he will be there "trying" to win some money for me. As he always says that, I can't remember the last time he paid for something. Now I've talked and talked till I was blue in the face about marriage counseling and gambling addiction but he blows it off. So I am left to support me and my son while he is like a huge burden that eats us out of house and home. Not as bad as you, but I would defenitly leave him if it got that bad. Well it's in the works, but I have to wait for housing right now, so I am looking out for the best interest of me and my son. Because I know how un-reliable my husband is and the dreams of a future of a home and travels are something of the past.