really struggling to understand

madiva1 · 07-30-2005, 07:00 PM

I've been dating this guy for about 6months... we started off really fast..2months into it we were living together and I was taking care of his child. ( I still have my own house)I really love him and I know he loves me... recently we travelled to San Diego and had a wonderful romantic trip. He has meantioned to me several times about us seperating several nights of the week. It never happend until we had a huge arguement about it. He said he didn't understand why I didn't offer him time alone with his kids. The past 6 months have been all about me and now he wants to control the relationship. He said he was having an over load of me. And that I never gave him time to miss me... Well now... I am barely ever over there... He tells me that he loves me and that we are going to work through this...

I am afraid he is not going to miss me. As it is now I do not call him he calls me... He's very swet and I can tell he loves me but...I'm really struggling... Is this normal??? Is there any hope or this relationship??

swift44 · 07-30-2005, 10:43 PM

Its ok , i can understand why you feel he may not miss you, thats a normal , paranormal fear when you care about someone, im sure he will miss you trust me, from how much it seems ou love him, he'll miss that, we all need to be loved and you gave him that im sure he'll miss you, just be patient and i wish ou the best

madiva1 · 08-09-2005, 05:32 PM

Ugh... sometimes it seems better some times it seems worse... WE had a huge fight last night where he told me he is sick of being in a relationship and having to answer to somebody...

He confuses me... SO then I ask him do you want to break up he says no we are just going to slow things down... And then informs me the next day that we are o.k. and that everything is going to be fine.and that I am just too emotional. I just don't get it... I am at the point where I just don't want to do anything with him... I know I love him... but If I say anythign or do anything... it's a big explosion...

07-30-2005, 07:00 PM	#1
madiva1 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 2	really struggling to understand I've been dating this guy for about 6months... we started off really fast..2months into it we were living together and I was taking care of his child. ( I still have my own house)I really love him and I know he loves me... recently we travelled to San Diego and had a wonderful romantic trip. He has meantioned to me several times about us seperating several nights of the week. It never happend until we had a huge arguement about it. He said he didn't understand why I didn't offer him time alone with his kids. The past 6 months have been all about me and now he wants to control the relationship. He said he was having an over load of me. And that I never gave him time to miss me... Well now... I am barely ever over there... He tells me that he loves me and that we are going to work through this... I am afraid he is not going to miss me. As it is now I do not call him he calls me... He's very swet and I can tell he loves me but...I'm really struggling... Is this normal??? Is there any hope or this relationship??

07-30-2005, 10:43 PM	#2
swift44 Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Philly Age: 21 Posts: 377	Its ok , i can understand why you feel he may not miss you, thats a normal , paranormal fear when you care about someone, im sure he will miss you trust me, from how much it seems ou love him, he'll miss that, we all need to be loved and you gave him that im sure he'll miss you, just be patient and i wish ou the best __________________ -----To live is to suffer... but to survive well thats to find the meaning in the suffering-----

08-09-2005, 05:32 PM	#3
madiva1 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 2	Ugh... sometimes it seems better some times it seems worse... WE had a huge fight last night where he told me he is sick of being in a relationship and having to answer to somebody... He confuses me... SO then I ask him do you want to break up he says no we are just going to slow things down... And then informs me the next day that we are o.k. and that everything is going to be fine.and that I am just too emotional. I just don't get it... I am at the point where I just don't want to do anything with him... I know I love him... but If I say anythign or do anything... it's a big explosion...