Feel like the lowest crap on earth...

Stinkweed · 05-31-2005, 07:48 PM

I dunno what's the real reason... But the end of the year hasn't been the best time of my life... It has taken its toll. And I just keep having these flashbacks of what I've done during my whole junior year, and can't help but think that I wish I had done more things... You know, from now on, my philosophy will be "make the most out of your youth". And I hope nobody else out there is like me, cause believe it or not, you do regret it later on... It happened to me at the end of my childhood, and it's starting to happen again (you might say I'm only 17, but next year is my last year in highschool, and like I've always said: college is most likely gonna be all work and no play). Know what I mean?

Well, I do sometimes aknowledge, that from all my years in highschool, this one has been the one where I've done the most... It's been the best so far. The other 2 were pretty much hell... But that doesn't mean that I feel this was the "ideal year", know what I mean? And I wish I didn't feel this way. And I know I've posted a lot of times about this and how bad I feel, and I'm ashamed... It's just that I feel kinda depressed. You know, I no longer think that I can still improve things. I still have another shot next year... But I'm really afraid I'm gonna screw it up again... I wanna try my best, but I'm so afraid... I wanna talk to someone about this, but friend I trust the most is hard to get a hold of (almost always has the cellphone off...). And well, I just feel like crap... I wanna do something about it. Anyone can give me realistic suggestions of where to start? My goal is pretty much improving my social skills (you know, saying what I want when I want to...) and just being myself no matter what the situation is... I'm kinda not confident and I also don't like my looks (I'm overweight, but I had a weightloss plan, but seems like I won't be able to do it really well over the summer cause of the travelling and stuff...). Just plz write any suggestions you might have (where and how to meet ppl over the summer to improve my social skills, and that sorta stuff...). Best wishes.

JynX · 05-31-2005, 08:28 PM

My social skills weren't the best at one point a year or so ago. I used to be really shy and quiet. To improve social skills, my advice would be to ask your friends to introduce you to some new people and be yourself. Don't worry about what people think. Act goofy; be funny. Laughter is always a great way to relax and start talking to a new person. Take me for instance; I'm a complete klutz, so I guess that sometimes starts a few conversations with people I hardly know. From there, just find a common thing and talk about it. Before you know it, you have a conversation going. Since it's summer, you can use the time off school to practice. Go out with a friend to a public place and meet new people. I find it easier to meet someone new if I have someone I know pretty well by my side, because that way you can jsut let lose and be yourself.

Not being confident isn't a good thing, but I'm afraid, everyone is at one point or another. Just because you're overweight doesnt mean you should lose confidence. The only way you'll be happy is if you accept you for you; then everyone else will see that you're happy to be you and that'll boost your confidence up. I'd sugest maybe going out and jogging 20 mins or so a few times a week? It's healthy plus it gets you in shape. I gotta do it for Crosscountry, and I'm starting to find that running is a great stress relief. I'd try it.

Feel free to PM me if you need anything else...

JyNx

Stinkweed · 05-31-2005, 10:51 PM

Thank you very much for your advice. Please, could you give me any ideas of which places could be good to start with?

05-31-2005, 07:48 PM	#1
Stinkweed Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Some place other than where I wish I were... Gender: None Specified Age: 21 Posts: 2,667	Feel like the lowest crap on earth... I dunno what's the real reason... But the end of the year hasn't been the best time of my life... It has taken its toll. And I just keep having these flashbacks of what I've done during my whole junior year, and can't help but think that I wish I had done more things... You know, from now on, my philosophy will be "make the most out of your youth". And I hope nobody else out there is like me, cause believe it or not, you do regret it later on... It happened to me at the end of my childhood, and it's starting to happen again (you might say I'm only 17, but next year is my last year in highschool, and like I've always said: college is most likely gonna be all work and no play). Know what I mean? Well, I do sometimes aknowledge, that from all my years in highschool, this one has been the one where I've done the most... It's been the best so far. The other 2 were pretty much hell... But that doesn't mean that I feel this was the "ideal year", know what I mean? And I wish I didn't feel this way. And I know I've posted a lot of times about this and how bad I feel, and I'm ashamed... It's just that I feel kinda depressed. You know, I no longer think that I can still improve things. I still have another shot next year... But I'm really afraid I'm gonna screw it up again... I wanna try my best, but I'm so afraid... I wanna talk to someone about this, but friend I trust the most is hard to get a hold of (almost always has the cellphone off...). And well, I just feel like crap... I wanna do something about it. Anyone can give me realistic suggestions of where to start? My goal is pretty much improving my social skills (you know, saying what I want when I want to...) and just being myself no matter what the situation is... I'm kinda not confident and I also don't like my looks (I'm overweight, but I had a weightloss plan, but seems like I won't be able to do it really well over the summer cause of the travelling and stuff...). Just plz write any suggestions you might have (where and how to meet ppl over the summer to improve my social skills, and that sorta stuff...). Best wishes. __________________ "You just change for the same..." -Ian Mackaye "Punk rock saved my life" -Dennes Boon (R.I.P.) "Have you ever seen lips that sing on a face that screams?" -Jesse Michaels

05-31-2005, 08:28 PM	#2
JynX Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Florida Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 243	My social skills weren't the best at one point a year or so ago. I used to be really shy and quiet. To improve social skills, my advice would be to ask your friends to introduce you to some new people and be yourself. Don't worry about what people think. Act goofy; be funny. Laughter is always a great way to relax and start talking to a new person. Take me for instance; I'm a complete klutz, so I guess that sometimes starts a few conversations with people I hardly know. From there, just find a common thing and talk about it. Before you know it, you have a conversation going. Since it's summer, you can use the time off school to practice. Go out with a friend to a public place and meet new people. I find it easier to meet someone new if I have someone I know pretty well by my side, because that way you can jsut let lose and be yourself. Not being confident isn't a good thing, but I'm afraid, everyone is at one point or another. Just because you're overweight doesnt mean you should lose confidence. The only way you'll be happy is if you accept you for you; then everyone else will see that you're happy to be you and that'll boost your confidence up. I'd sugest maybe going out and jogging 20 mins or so a few times a week? It's healthy plus it gets you in shape. I gotta do it for Crosscountry, and I'm starting to find that running is a great stress relief. I'd try it. Feel free to PM me if you need anything else... JyNx __________________ Don't be afraid to take chances...it's better to know you have tried than to always regret doing nothing at all.

05-31-2005, 10:51 PM	#3
Stinkweed Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Some place other than where I wish I were... Gender: None Specified Age: 21 Posts: 2,667	Thank you very much for your advice. Please, could you give me any ideas of which places could be good to start with? __________________ "You just change for the same..." -Ian Mackaye "Punk rock saved my life" -Dennes Boon (R.I.P.) "Have you ever seen lips that sing on a face that screams?" -Jesse Michaels