Caught girl sleeping w/ ex

rickcarlisle · 04-21-2005, 01:28 AM

What can I say? I seem to pick the really good ones. This girl and I were dating for about a month. I know enough about relationships to not date someone who is not over their ex. She told me everything about him... the fact that he just got out of jail, how he pushed her all the time, and how he cheated on her. SHe swore up and down she was over him. I was confident she was over him. We spent almost every day together and she would call me five times a day. She told me how she would give up everything except her child for me. Things were going great, not just on a sexual level. But then I noticed her ex's name on her outgoing call list. I asked her about it and she swore it was nothing. I told her we should not see eachother until she was over her ex. But she cried (tears and all) and said she really was over him, and that she was scared of losing me. Well... a week later I had a gut feeling something was going on. So one afternoon I decided to stop by her place. After knocking for a minute or two, her ex-boyfriend answers the door (as he's zipping up his pants). She was busted. Apparently, she told him I was some gay guy to just study with. He never knew I was in the picture, and vice versa. He was calm about it though. We both left her apartment, but then he wanted my phone number to hang out with me! LOL! I gave him my number in case he needed to talk, and to make sure there were no hard feelings. She text me later saying "Im sorry but I love him and will always love him. I'll never get over him and never will." Can you believe that? Just thought I'd share this with you all, maybe some of you can relate. What was she thinking? Well, she is only 20 yrs old. Some girls can be vicious liars.

wlfpack81 · 04-21-2005, 01:31 AM

Women..blah lol

Sorry brob

ForAnother · 04-21-2005, 01:32 AM

Oh man, I hear ya about the lying. I loved a girl for 10 months and she lied to me the last 4 ofem... kinda sucked, but toughened me up. I am now with a girl that is ultra clingy (which I like) yet she is so honest sometimes that it kills me. Sometimes there are extremes... but I'd rather stay with my current for the truth than be backstabbed and hurt by a liar.

You can never really assume someone is over their ex... it never really happens in my opinion. *shrug* best you can do is roll the dice and see what kinda roll you get.

ForAnother

rickcarlisle · 04-21-2005, 01:37 AM

Yea, I definitely would rather be on the extreme you're on. At least you know your time won't be wasted. It just sucks that she was so heartless in the end. How can someone fake feelings like that? Sometimes I think some people enjoy lying.

ForAnother · 04-21-2005, 01:41 AM

Sometimes you THINK??? people who lie typically find some satisfaction. Its like when your talking about someone and they are right there in front of them, you entice them till they finally ask you what your saying and then keeping it from them is half the fun.

Liars never break lieing if they pass through into their 20's in my opinion... people either learn it early or learn it MUCH later, and slower.

I learned to stop lieing... I still lie, but to no extreme that it used to be.

i hate liars.

ForAnother

c00kie · 04-21-2005, 02:18 AM

everyone lies though. its when people lie about stuff that could hurt you that really pisses me off. i caught my ex a year ago and if i wasnt in public i swear i wouldve got violent...but lucky i didnt. i just got her back when she broke up wit him...wantd to get bak together.i said yes, got in her pants and let her catch me with someone else....mean i know but GOD it felt so good...but i dont think anyone else should do it. abit to mean

Belinda · 04-21-2005, 04:59 AM

MY GOD! WHat an absolute nut-case. I assure you not all women are like that.
Man.... Ive been in a similar boat myself, pain goes right through you. Especially when you never guessed before...
I hope your next partner will be LEAPS and BOUNDS better than this one (wouldnt be hard

)

RayKay · 04-21-2005, 10:04 AM

I would say not only is she not over her "ex" (obviously) but she has some serious emotional issues that you do not want to get involved with anyway.

Better you found out now then later, and I am positive you can only do much much better after this! Most women are NOT like this, so the odds are on your side. I think you know this when you said "some girls are vicious liars" so I hope you avoid the "some" in the future and find one of the great, honest ones

rickcarlisle · 04-21-2005, 01:10 PM

Damn... I hope I don't end up dating another girl like this one. You're right. She must have some real emotional issues. I really hope she eventually breaks out of this. She does have a 14 month old baby after all.

Iceman26 · 04-21-2005, 01:33 PM

I would advise you to try for someone without any baggage next time. You are too young to be dating a girl with a kid.

Sorry that happened man, that sucks and I feel for you. At least you found out about this early on in the relationship.

04-21-2005, 01:28 AM	#1
rickcarlisle Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Age: 28 Posts: 16	Caught girl sleeping w/ ex What can I say? I seem to pick the really good ones. This girl and I were dating for about a month. I know enough about relationships to not date someone who is not over their ex. She told me everything about him... the fact that he just got out of jail, how he pushed her all the time, and how he cheated on her. SHe swore up and down she was over him. I was confident she was over him. We spent almost every day together and she would call me five times a day. She told me how she would give up everything except her child for me. Things were going great, not just on a sexual level. But then I noticed her ex's name on her outgoing call list. I asked her about it and she swore it was nothing. I told her we should not see eachother until she was over her ex. But she cried (tears and all) and said she really was over him, and that she was scared of losing me. Well... a week later I had a gut feeling something was going on. So one afternoon I decided to stop by her place. After knocking for a minute or two, her ex-boyfriend answers the door (as he's zipping up his pants). She was busted. Apparently, she told him I was some gay guy to just study with. He never knew I was in the picture, and vice versa. He was calm about it though. We both left her apartment, but then he wanted my phone number to hang out with me! LOL! I gave him my number in case he needed to talk, and to make sure there were no hard feelings. She text me later saying "Im sorry but I love him and will always love him. I'll never get over him and never will." Can you believe that? Just thought I'd share this with you all, maybe some of you can relate. What was she thinking? Well, she is only 20 yrs old. Some girls can be vicious liars.

04-21-2005, 01:32 AM	#3
ForAnother Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 987	Oh man, I hear ya about the lying. I loved a girl for 10 months and she lied to me the last 4 ofem... kinda sucked, but toughened me up. I am now with a girl that is ultra clingy (which I like) yet she is so honest sometimes that it kills me. Sometimes there are extremes... but I'd rather stay with my current for the truth than be backstabbed and hurt by a liar. You can never really assume someone is over their ex... it never really happens in my opinion. shrug best you can do is roll the dice and see what kinda roll you get. ForAnother __________________ ........................ I will ...oooO.............. be ...(....).....Oooo... too ....\...(......(....).... lost ......._)......)../..... to be ...............(_/....... the ... ......... ........... same

04-21-2005, 01:41 AM	#5
ForAnother Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 987	Sometimes you THINK??? people who lie typically find some satisfaction. Its like when your talking about someone and they are right there in front of them, you entice them till they finally ask you what your saying and then keeping it from them is half the fun. Liars never break lieing if they pass through into their 20's in my opinion... people either learn it early or learn it MUCH later, and slower. I learned to stop lieing... I still lie, but to no extreme that it used to be. i hate liars. ForAnother __________________ ........................ I will ...oooO.............. be ...(....).....Oooo... too ....\...(......(....).... lost ......._)......)../..... to be ...............(_/....... the ... ......... ........... same

04-21-2005, 02:18 AM	#6
c00kie Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Wellington, New Zealand Age: 22 Posts: 68	everyone lies though. its when people lie about stuff that could hurt you that really pisses me off. i caught my ex a year ago and if i wasnt in public i swear i wouldve got violent...but lucky i didnt. i just got her back when she broke up wit him...wantd to get bak together.i said yes, got in her pants and let her catch me with someone else....mean i know but GOD it felt so good...but i dont think anyone else should do it. abit to mean __________________ Life's a [color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color]! get over it! but dont do anything stupid

04-21-2005, 04:59 AM	#7
Belinda Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Geelong Australia Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 162	MY GOD! WHat an absolute nut-case. I assure you not all women are like that. Man.... Ive been in a similar boat myself, pain goes right through you. Especially when you never guessed before... I hope your next partner will be LEAPS and BOUNDS better than this one (wouldnt be hard ) __________________ To forgive is not to forget. The merit lies in loving despite knowing that the person we must love, is not a friend.

04-21-2005, 01:31 AM	#2
wlfpack81 Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Washington, DC Metro Area Gender: Male Posts: 733	Women..blah lol Sorry brob

04-21-2005, 01:37 AM	#4
rickcarlisle Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Age: 28 Posts: 16	Yea, I definitely would rather be on the extreme you're on. At least you know your time won't be wasted. It just sucks that she was so heartless in the end. How can someone fake feelings like that? Sometimes I think some people enjoy lying.

04-21-2005, 10:04 AM	#8
RayKay Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Middle of Canada Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 13,270	I would say not only is she not over her "ex" (obviously) but she has some serious emotional issues that you do not want to get involved with anyway. Better you found out now then later, and I am positive you can only do much much better after this! Most women are NOT like this, so the odds are on your side. I think you know this when you said "some girls are vicious liars" so I hope you avoid the "some" in the future and find one of the great, honest ones __________________ [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]<--- [COLOR=sienna]Carbun the Super-Bunny[/COLOR][/B][/COLOR][/FONT] [B][FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=#556b2f][/COLOR][/FONT][/B] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]At the end of the day, how you imprinted on someones life and heart is the only true mark any of us leave on this earth and is what we are most proud of... [/B][/COLOR][/FONT][I][SIZE=1]- My Biggest Hero and Mentor: My Mum.[/SIZE][/I] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=orange][B]Il faut d'abord durer [/B][/COLOR][/FONT][I][SIZE=1]- Ernest Hemingway[/SIZE][/I]

04-21-2005, 01:10 PM	#9
rickcarlisle Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Age: 28 Posts: 16	Damn... I hope I don't end up dating another girl like this one. You're right. She must have some real emotional issues. I really hope she eventually breaks out of this. She does have a 14 month old baby after all.

04-21-2005, 01:33 PM	#10
Iceman26 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Houston Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 2,904	I would advise you to try for someone without any baggage next time. You are too young to be dating a girl with a kid. Sorry that happened man, that sucks and I feel for you. At least you found out about this early on in the relationship.