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hay Guys, I start Masturbuting wen I was just 14, and the times I was doing it very secretly and avoiding not to let anyone know, (it is worth mentioning that I was told by my parents and schoolmates that Masturbution is very bad habit and is very harmful for a person's sexual life) which really had an effect on me. with my too much efforts I couldnt stop this and consequently I was thinking and assuring myself that as I am masturbuting so I will never have a pleasuring and satisfying sex life....Uhuh... but now when it comes to real intercourse I feel like I am expereincing pre-ejaculation, however, I am able to have my penis inside my gf 4-5 times before the ejaculation occurs... wat do u thing Guys if this is Pre-ejaculation or if it is just my sub-consciouse mind telling me that I hav mad myself like this because of starting masturbution too early... hav any of u guys experienced this.....

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If you do it to yourself too much, it can get in the way of your sex life. There are plenty of women not getting any because their men wank to porn. If you want to know if it is getting in you way, stop doing it. Then you'll find out.

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Masturbation seems to have nothing to do with your problem, physically.

 

As a matter of fact, frequent masturbation can have quite the opposite effect on one's sexual experience: it makes your penis "callous" and used to "rough" handling (sorry about the semi-serious terminology, I am female) and thereforeeee you might need to have much longer intercourse with a woman in order to experience an orgasm.

 

For the record: women usually like this.

 

Your case seems to be the consequence of a different problem, perhaps anxiety?

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My bf went to a Catholic school where everyone told him that masturbating was bad.Which is completely untrue cause masturbating is normal and even healthy.However,if you masturbate all the time it could become a problem.I dont really know much about it but my bf told me this: the trick is when you masturbate try to last as much as you can,do not masturbate and come in 2 minutes cause that can lead to premature ejaculation and then when you have sex with someone you'll come too fast.Maybe that's your problem?

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When you are having sex, and you are starting to come, can't you stop and do some other sexual activities before you start to have sex again. Can't you come fast, then have sex again in a little while?

 

Masturbation can come before the sex, so that you are more relaxed when you are starting to enjoy yourself again.

 

 

Self talk: what are you telling yourself when you are masturbating or orgasming? Are you saying like--I am bad, I am evil, I don't deserve this? That is guilt. Try and not hurry to sex so much, that way you can enjoy the company.

 

Is the girl kind of controlling?

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Hi Ursomeone,

 

Okay, there is a good answer that I can give you on this subject. How do I know that it is a good answer? Because, I myself experienced these things and am currently undergoing the effects and trying to fix my body. I am 29 years old.

 

Now, for the answer, here it is: Masturbation per se will NOT harm your body. It's a normal biological process where you expel semen which then gets replenished by the body. In my view 'normal' would be masturbating 3 or 4 times a week. If you stick to this routine everything will be fine. Even if you get to the point of masturbating once every single day your body can still handle it! But the optimal frequency would be 3 times max.

 

Okay, now to the bad part. I had previously mentioned about what I see as 'normal'. But some times people exceed this limit and masturbate 2 or 3 times in a single day. Now, your body can handle even this situation when you are ejaculating multiple times provided this is not happening on a regular basis. But in the case of a person that wanks more than once a day and sticks to this routine the body in time will struggle to replenish the resources that go away with masturbating. And I must emphasize the fact that the negative effects will not be visible immediately! It will take months and months before you can even see or feel any changes. This is what is called as over-masturbating ie., ejaculating more than once a day and keeping this routine for a very long period of time. I can guarantee that over-masturbation is very harmful. Now you may wonder why would some guy masturbate more than once a day and keep doing it many times a week? Take a good guess... People addicted to pornography is the answer! Why? because is essentially a facilitator for masturbation. When you see porn and wank its a more powerful experience than normal masturbation. Since that pleasure is compelling in nature you would want to see more and more stuff and keep wanking to it. Thats when you cross the normal limits of ejaculating more than once a day! Trust me, porn addicition is exactly similar to drug addiction and is very hard to break. Even before you realise, you would be addicted to the "watching porn and masturbating" combination. Things pretty much spiral down from this point and you would begin to see the after-effects of masturbating way too much. And those effects are -> weak erection, no more spontaneous erection, leg pain, hair loss, back ache, and getting a worn out appearance. Never ever see porn !!!!!! or do anything that will make you masturbate too often. I have suffered and seen it all. The world wouldn't believe if anybody said masturbating is harmful because nobody tells 'why exactly' is masturbating evil. I again want to reiterate the fact that masturbating in itself is not harmful as far as it is within reasonable limits. In the present world what we see are extremes, modern science says masturbate all you want, nothing will harm you and religion says don't masturbate at all. Both are wrong!! Masturbate, but make sure its within limits (3 or 4 times a week and not fueled by drug or pornography).

 

I hope this helps.

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I'm a Catholic too,but there are some things I dont agree on.Like the mastubation thing,you have to agree with me that's nonsense there's nothing wrong with masturbation.They also say women shouldnt take birth control pills,I too think that's not right,I mean,whats wrong with that? women have the right to choose what from of birth control they wanna use.

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well, thank you Grymoire, Poupee and all there, I guess we should not take it that way towards religion that is another story however, myself i dont support some ideas as poupee said Child birth Control or Masturbution bla bla bla... caz wat i am concerned ( and i hav practically experienced it) that when we strictly prohibited from some thing which i thing we may or may not have creates some kinda emotional feeling ( i would say problems) that we cannot overcome later in life..

 

Welll Grymoire, as in my case iam sure i have not exceeded more than 3 times a week but i remember while in my teens that ocasionally i was doing it twice a day and perhaps some times continuing for almost 3 or 4 days.. but now not that much but wat really bothers me is that negative belief that was given me in my very childhood about Masturbution... but thanks to u guys as I think iam not the bad guy (caz there were times when i was doing it and thinking that i must be the worst and stupid person in the world doing this nasty act, but still couldnt control it).

 

thanks for the ideas, more ideas are welcome if u guess i need some and please also advice if u think these sprays or other medication avialable is healthy to use.

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My bf went to a Catholic school where everyone told him that masturbating was bad.Which is completely untrue cause masturbating is normal and even healthy

 

i go to an all guy catholic school right now and we talk about masturbating freely, always joking about it because everyone knows that everyone else does it. i started when i was 13 and have been going hard ever since. depending on what mood im in it takes me between 2 and 5 minutes but thats just because i get bored if i go to long. sex hasnt been a problem and the times i do ejaculate to fast i just wait ahile and play round till im good to go again.

 

Why are you guys debating about religion? Masturbation is natural and i havnt heard many catholics saying its bad and its a sin...because it isnt. they dont like birth control becuase it interfers with the creation of life...i no B.S but ah well, they can believe what they want. if you dont like it choose another religion. start up a new heavens gate and castrate yourself!

 

btw if im at home alone then i can go as many times as i want until it starts to get a little sore. average is 2-4 times a day.

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Umm... back to the problem of masturbation (this isn't the best place to debate religion)

 

I don't think that it's possible to cause any physical harm simply by masturbating, and I doubt that it has anything to do with your premature ejaculation. I do, however, think that your upbringing may have something to do with it. Perhaps when you used to masturbate, you would rush or worry about getting caught by your parents or other people who disapproved of masturbation. This could translate to sex; perhaps at the back of your mind you are associating intercourse with masturbation, and experiencing some anxiety about getting "caught", or being frowned upon. If that is the case, then the best way to fix matters is to focus on the fact that there's nothing wrong with sex, and that it's highly unlikely that your mother will walk into the bedroom while you're with your girlfriend (unless you're living in her house and she happens to be home, lol). Another thing to try is concentrating on turning your girlfriend on and extending foreplay for her so that she'll be quicker to orgasm, without getting too turned on yourself. Perhaps you can spend most of the time touching or going down on her with minimal reciprocation, and only penetrate her when she's about to come. That way, she won't really care if you don't last long because she'll be ready to orgasm pretty quick, and you won't be as ready to orgasm so it'll take you more than the 4-5 ins and outs you mentioned. Good luck!

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Hi Aksinia!!!

 

thank you for the great idea, Yeah you are right, I fully agree that at least 75% caz of the problem is associated with the way I was treating myself and the negative thoughts and beleifs that were fed in mind about the masturbution.... but the problem is despite my full knowledge that Masturbution wont harm me, my mind still gives me some signals that i might be a failure in my sexlife and that there are people who perform more well then me.... any how i wonder if any excersie or might be my diet that can help me,, wat do u say.

 

For the idea, Last night I was with her and first I started with only some hot talks and then slowly slowly started the foreplay....and at the end I was fingering her (her reaction was gr8 like probably she was having good pleasure of it) but she is not very open in it and didn giv me any feedback that if she liked it or not or if she was going to orgasm etc then after 10 mins play and fingering her I started with the real intercourse..hmm it was gr8 this time though.... but one thing she kinda hold my penis in her hands (she holds somearea just around the head somewhere) that i cannot hold myself and if she continue like this I would ejaculate, is this normal?

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wow

 

this thread really got off topic. i forgot what the initial question was!!! lol

i think that everyone is entitled to their own opioion regarding masturbation and religion. there's nothignt o prove here because we all have our own views and beliefs. there's no sense in trying to prove the other person wrong

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So I was masturbating last night, and I thought to myself, "Will each stroke send me closer to Hell? Will I not be allowed through the Pearly Gates simply because I tickle my Furry Monster 3-4 times a week?" I bet I can fit the number of people on Earth who don't masturbate on the palm of my hand and still have enough palm room to get me some satisfying solo action.

 

I like to masturbate. No, I love to masturbate. It's a five fingered, sometimes ten fingered velvet clothed substitute for my lack of female companionship. And you know what, I doubt I'll go to Hell for it. Funny thing is, if someone were to tell me that I will go to Hell if I ever masturbate again, then I'll simply pack something warm before I meet my demise. Heck, I may even whack off on my way down to Hell.

 

It's not like you're committing murder, unless you're packing a creamy bullet. If you truly feel guilty about it, then don't do it. You're wasting your time. But I say whack away. What have you got to lose besides a few ounces of fluid?

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Ms Moderator, can I just reply to Beec one more time? I mean, it doesn't do any harm and I'm sure whoever posted about masturbation got plenty of satisfaction from the multiple replies to his attention. So should It be a problem if we keep on going for a little while. As you've noticed, some people have taken interest and are learning from this conversation, so why not continue it if brings something to members. Sure it's a little off topic, but it's not like the issue wasn't adressed to in the first place, isn't?

 

Omegaman, my name is Ilse and not 'Ms Moderator'. I asked to stay on topic, which you refuse to do. Any further discussions from catholicism to communism on this thread will be removed.

 

I think you know exactly what I mean by staying on topic, as you admit also your last reply was off topic.

 

I haven't seen the original poster responding to your debates, and others have asked several times to stay on topic.

 

Ilse.

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I've cleaned up this post to keep it on topic. Please note - this is the Orgasm section. While you all have some interesting ideas on religion, it is better to publish your ideas as a master's thesis instead of on some guy's thread concerning mastrubation. Hijacking other people's threads is not cool. The original poster posed a question, so it is not respectful to overtake his thread to turn it into your essays on religion.

 

Now - back to mastrubation.

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I recommend you go check through the archives of link removed and look for some of the articles to "Savage Love." It is a sex advice column by Dan Savage. He's answered many questions from young men like yourself who have had issues with mastrubation and premature ejaculation.

 

Also, you may consider link removed. Unlike Dan, (who is a really funny, sharp, crude writer), dr. drew is a real doctor, so he have more balanced advice to offer.

 

good luck!

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