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    Thank you all there

    well, thank you Grymoire, Poupee and all there, I guess we should not take it that way towards religion that is another story however, myself i dont support some ideas as poupee said Child birth Control or Masturbution bla bla bla... caz wat i am concerned ( and i hav practically experienced it) that when we strictly prohibited from some thing which i thing we may or may not have creates some kinda emotional feeling ( i would say problems) that we cannot overcome later in life..

    Welll Grymoire, as in my case iam sure i have not exceeded more than 3 times a week but i remember while in my teens that ocasionally i was doing it twice a day and perhaps some times continuing for almost 3 or 4 days.. but now not that much but wat really bothers me is that negative belief that was given me in my very childhood about Masturbution... but thanks to u guys as I think iam not the bad guy (caz there were times when i was doing it and thinking that i must be the worst and stupid person in the world doing this nasty act, but still couldnt control it).

    thanks for the ideas, more ideas are welcome if u guess i need some and please also advice if u think these sprays or other medication avialable is healthy to use.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Poupee
    My bf went to a Catholic school where everyone told him that masturbating was bad.Which is completely untrue cause masturbating is normal and even healthy
    i go to an all guy catholic school right now and we talk about masturbating freely, always joking about it because everyone knows that everyone else does it. i started when i was 13 and have been going hard ever since. depending on what mood im in it takes me between 2 and 5 minutes but thats just because i get bored if i go to long. sex hasnt been a problem and the times i do ejaculate to fast i just wait ahile and play round till im good to go again.

    Why are you guys debating about religion? Masturbation is natural and i havnt heard many catholics saying its bad and its a sin...because it isnt. they dont like birth control becuase it interfers with the creation of life...i no B.S but ah well, they can believe what they want. if you dont like it choose another religion. start up a new heavens gate and castrate yourself!

    btw if im at home alone then i can go as many times as i want until it starts to get a little sore. average is 2-4 times a day.
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    no id say masterbation is good for a sexual relationship or even before one, it can help u last longer allso i found it help my women orgasm easyier after she started doing it.

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    Umm... back to the problem of masturbation (this isn't the best place to debate religion)

    I don't think that it's possible to cause any physical harm simply by masturbating, and I doubt that it has anything to do with your premature ejaculation. I do, however, think that your upbringing may have something to do with it. Perhaps when you used to masturbate, you would rush or worry about getting caught by your parents or other people who disapproved of masturbation. This could translate to sex; perhaps at the back of your mind you are associating intercourse with masturbation, and experiencing some anxiety about getting "caught", or being frowned upon. If that is the case, then the best way to fix matters is to focus on the fact that there's nothing wrong with sex, and that it's highly unlikely that your mother will walk into the bedroom while you're with your girlfriend (unless you're living in her house and she happens to be home, lol). Another thing to try is concentrating on turning your girlfriend on and extending foreplay for her so that she'll be quicker to orgasm, without getting too turned on yourself. Perhaps you can spend most of the time touching or going down on her with minimal reciprocation, and only penetrate her when she's about to come. That way, she won't really care if you don't last long because she'll be ready to orgasm pretty quick, and you won't be as ready to orgasm so it'll take you more than the 4-5 ins and outs you mentioned. Good luck!

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    Great Idea

    Hi Aksinia!!!

    thank you for the great idea, Yeah you are right, I fully agree that at least 75% caz of the problem is associated with the way I was treating myself and the negative thoughts and beleifs that were fed in mind about the masturbution.... but the problem is despite my full knowledge that Masturbution wont harm me, my mind still gives me some signals that i might be a failure in my sexlife and that there are people who perform more well then me.... any how i wonder if any excersie or might be my diet that can help me,, wat do u say.

    For the idea, Last night I was with her and first I started with only some hot talks and then slowly slowly started the foreplay....and at the end I was fingering her (her reaction was gr8 like probably she was having good pleasure of it) but she is not very open in it and didn giv me any feedback that if she liked it or not or if she was going to orgasm etc then after 10 mins play and fingering her I started with the real intercourse..hmm it was gr8 this time though.... but one thing she kinda hold my penis in her hands (she holds somearea just around the head somewhere) that i cannot hold myself and if she continue like this I would ejaculate, is this normal?
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    wow

    this thread really got off topic. i forgot what the initial question was!!! lol
    i think that everyone is entitled to their own opioion regarding masturbation and religion. there's nothignt o prove here because we all have our own views and beliefs. there's no sense in trying to prove the other person wrong
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    yes hmmm back to masterbation.....
    Life's a ! get over it! but dont do anything stupid

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    People, the topic is about issues with masturbation. Although it relates to a religious background, let's keep the discussion on-topic please!


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    So I was masturbating last night, and I thought to myself, "Will each stroke send me closer to Hell? Will I not be allowed through the Pearly Gates simply because I tickle my Furry Monster 3-4 times a week?" I bet I can fit the number of people on Earth who don't masturbate on the palm of my hand and still have enough palm room to get me some satisfying solo action.

    I like to masturbate. No, I love to masturbate. It's a five fingered, sometimes ten fingered velvet clothed substitute for my lack of female companionship. And you know what, I doubt I'll go to Hell for it. Funny thing is, if someone were to tell me that I will go to Hell if I ever masturbate again, then I'll simply pack something warm before I meet my demise. Heck, I may even whack off on my way down to Hell.

    It's not like you're committing murder, unless you're packing a creamy bullet. If you truly feel guilty about it, then don't do it. You're wasting your time. But I say whack away. What have you got to lose besides a few ounces of fluid?

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    so a final word on masterbation guys? how does all that...stuff....relate to masterbation and is it ok?
    Life's a ! get over it! but dont do anything stupid

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