so darn tired to failing

Mjane · 04-07-2005, 08:51 PM

I just need to vent. I have just given up on a guy that I thought was super promising. But after two months of barely hearing and seeing him. I reached out for the last time this week and he has yet to respond.
I am so tired of failing at love. I'm not even that picky. You just gotta be male, smart, funny and caring.
Is that too much to ask?
I am just so frustrated and sad and fed up!!!
Why does it never seem to work for me?
Maybe I should stop picking smart guys, although I thrive on mental challenge. What's the key? I've read tons of books about what to do, but nothing seems to work for me.
I'm just so down. I don't know what to do anymore.

Emotional · 04-07-2005, 08:56 PM

It may not take over night to get over this foolish foolish Loser escuse for a man. Maybe this guy was just not right for u, dont worry there will be plenty more where that came from.

I hate when relationships don't work out, myself. Hun I feel for u, but you can't keep stressing over it. Is there anything you like to do that can maybe keep your mind of him. Someone who can really help u through this. Like a family member, bestfriend?

Anything thing to keep ur mind of of him. Do u like exersizing? maybe you can go to the gym and release ur stress in a positive way. Exersizing may not be your thing. Maybe it's joining some kind of organization club. Like being a Big Sister!...I wish you good luck hun.

I feel ur frustration. God has a special someone for u. Don't lose hope.

apollocreed71 · 04-07-2005, 09:12 PM

From my experience, I always seem to meet women who have guy problems. It is usually the type of guy they choose, believe me the handsome smart guy that all the women are attracted to are the worst. Why should they give up the multitudes for one woman. Its just a man thing. Go for someone who is interested in you, look on the inside and not so much the outside on intelligence.
Good luck. you can always pm me.

Mjane · 04-07-2005, 09:12 PM

Thanks for your support.
I've been feeling like this for a while, probably because this relationship was going nowhere. But I also haven't been too successful replacing this guy.

Mjane · 04-07-2005, 09:18 PM

Hey Apollo,
I don't go for looks. I am always going for what's on the inside. But these guys.... I don't know what the deal is. Are the smart guys so emotionally stunted they don't know how to have a relationship?
Is it my age group? Are all men in their 30s totally messed up?
Dumb guys bore me. I don't go for players. I go for guys who can hold a conversation.
Although, I do have to be attracted to the guy.

gogol · 04-07-2005, 09:19 PM

were you two seeing one another online?

Emotional · 04-07-2005, 09:19 PM

you feel like you have to have another guy in a snap of your fingers. I understand, but maybe focusing more on what you need and less on what you want. You need self confidence and some happiness shine in on your life. Maybe it's not your time to have a boyfriend. They always seem to bring you up and then just right back down. To tell u the truth. Im sick of men as well.

You mention you want a new one, but is that really what you need? that special someone will come when you are ready. Right now a little self work may do you tons of good.

good luck sweets.

Pm me anytime

**Hope75** · 04-07-2005, 09:21 PM

Hi MJane,

It always seems to be the way doesn't it? I seem to have bad luck when it comes to guys too. My cat has been the most loyal guy in my life for the last 10 years LOL!!

Try not to lose heart, you know if you kiss enough frogs you will someday find your prince.

Have you considered online dating websites? They create a much larger dating pool and allow you to get to know a little about a guy before you have to meet him.

I've done it, and met my bf there (we've had our share of problems and he isn't perfect, but a good guy none the less) and I saw alot of seemingly decent guys on there looking for dates.

It's 2005, it's not so taboo anymore.

Just a thought!

Mjane · 04-07-2005, 09:21 PM

gogo,
we had dates face to face.

Mjane · 04-07-2005, 09:25 PM

Hope,
I've done tons of online dating. Actually met P from an online web site.
If i'm attracting or attracted to the wrong guys... the only thing they have in common is I really do go for smarts, professionalism, education. Maybe I need to date a factory worker. Actually this factory worker did ask me out, but I was convinced he was gay so I never contacted him. I figure he just wanted a cover because he was from an Italian family.

04-07-2005, 08:51 PM	#1
Mjane Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Ontario Age: 40 Posts: 157	so darn tired to failing I just need to vent. I have just given up on a guy that I thought was super promising. But after two months of barely hearing and seeing him. I reached out for the last time this week and he has yet to respond. I am so tired of failing at love. I'm not even that picky. You just gotta be male, smart, funny and caring. Is that too much to ask? I am just so frustrated and sad and fed up!!! Why does it never seem to work for me? Maybe I should stop picking smart guys, although I thrive on mental challenge. What's the key? I've read tons of books about what to do, but nothing seems to work for me. I'm just so down. I don't know what to do anymore.

04-07-2005, 08:56 PM	#2
Emotional Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Age: 21 Posts: 743	hey hun It may not take over night to get over this foolish foolish Loser escuse for a man. Maybe this guy was just not right for u, dont worry there will be plenty more where that came from. I hate when relationships don't work out, myself. Hun I feel for u, but you can't keep stressing over it. Is there anything you like to do that can maybe keep your mind of him. Someone who can really help u through this. Like a family member, bestfriend? Anything thing to keep ur mind of of him. Do u like exersizing? maybe you can go to the gym and release ur stress in a positive way. Exersizing may not be your thing. Maybe it's joining some kind of organization club. Like being a Big Sister!...I wish you good luck hun. I feel ur frustration. God has a special someone for u. Don't lose hope.

04-07-2005, 09:12 PM	#3
apollocreed71 Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: the abyss Posts: 148	Maybe it is th wrong type of guy From my experience, I always seem to meet women who have guy problems. It is usually the type of guy they choose, believe me the handsome smart guy that all the women are attracted to are the worst. Why should they give up the multitudes for one woman. Its just a man thing. Go for someone who is interested in you, look on the inside and not so much the outside on intelligence. Good luck. you can always pm me.

04-07-2005, 09:21 PM	#8
Hope75 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: kitteh ville Gender: Female Age: 33 Posts: 12,503	Hi MJane, It always seems to be the way doesn't it? I seem to have bad luck when it comes to guys too. My cat has been the most loyal guy in my life for the last 10 years LOL!! Try not to lose heart, you know if you kiss enough frogs you will someday find your prince. Have you considered online dating websites? They create a much larger dating pool and allow you to get to know a little about a guy before you have to meet him. I've done it, and met my bf there (we've had our share of problems and he isn't perfect, but a good guy none the less) and I saw alot of seemingly decent guys on there looking for dates. It's 2005, it's not so taboo anymore. Just a thought! __________________ Muffin cats need love too. Please refer to the forum rules before posting: http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php Mama to a beautiful baby girl born 6-25-09. :)

04-07-2005, 09:18 PM	#5
Mjane Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Ontario Age: 40 Posts: 157	Hey Apollo, I don't go for looks. I am always going for what's on the inside. But these guys.... I don't know what the deal is. Are the smart guys so emotionally stunted they don't know how to have a relationship? Is it my age group? Are all men in their 30s totally messed up? Dumb guys bore me. I don't go for players. I go for guys who can hold a conversation. Although, I do have to be attracted to the guy.

04-07-2005, 09:19 PM	#6
gogol Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Age: 22 Posts: 85	were you two seeing one another online?

04-07-2005, 09:25 PM	#10
Mjane Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Ontario Age: 40 Posts: 157	Hope, I've done tons of online dating. Actually met P from an online web site. If i'm attracting or attracted to the wrong guys... the only thing they have in common is I really do go for smarts, professionalism, education. Maybe I need to date a factory worker. Actually this factory worker did ask me out, but I was convinced he was gay so I never contacted him. I figure he just wanted a cover because he was from an Italian family.