is she interested in me or not really?

ninjakid944 · 03-31-2005, 11:34 AM

just curious as to what y'all (especially the girls) think about this. there's this really cute girl that lives down the hall from me in the dorms. i've never really talked to her, but i saw comin in the opposite direction in the hallway today. as i got close to her, i said "excuse me. i know we don't know each other, but do u wanna maybe get together sometime?" she said "umm. well, me and my friends are goin to the bar tonight if u wanna come." i said "oh, that's cool. yea, i always see u around and i been meanin to ask u for a while." then she said "my name's melissa." then i told her mine, then asked if i could give her a call. she said that there's somethin wrong with her phone and she's gonna get a new number in a week or so if i wanna ask then. i said "oh ok. what room u live in." she said "yea, i live down the hall." i thought to myself, "huh? i asked what room. down the hall doesn't help." so i took that as a sign and said "ok, cool. i'll be in touch." she said "ok", i said "take care", then that was it. damn, i wish i could just ask her to hook up cause she might be thinkin i wanna go out with her and be her boyfriend when actually, i don't see her as a girlfriend, i just think she's hot as hell. but askin her to hook up out of the blue like that might offend her, no matter how nice u try and ask. what do y'all think about this girl and whether or not she's interested? thanks a lot. i appreciate it.

SouthernSon · 03-31-2005, 11:58 AM

A couple things here....

First, I don't think she's interested.

Second, it sounds like you came on too strong. I mean, you come straight out of the blue and just ask her out. She doesn't know you from Adam. You need to start in with small talk.

For example, you see her coming down the hall and instead of straight up asking her out, start by saying "Hi, you know I see you around here a lot and I just figured you live in the dorm...I've been meaning to introduce myself." (Yes, you already know she lives there, that isn't the point...the point is to make small talk) Then say "I'm ninjakid944"...then she'll reply "Hi I'm Melissa". Then follow-up with something else...I mean heck you're in college, you have PLENTY of things to chat about to make small talk, like what she's majoring in, how does she like her profs...tell her about a prof of yours you hate or can't stand or is terribly hard...warn her never to get in that prof's class...have a laugh over it or something. Near the END of the convo, then ask her something along the lines of "Would you mind at all if maybe I called you up some time...or well, I guess since you live in the dorm so close maybe meet up at snack machine to chat a bit?" Think of something witty because it sounds like you can do that easily.

Good luck.

tiger_lilies · 03-31-2005, 12:08 PM

Nicely put Southernson!

Day_Walker · 03-31-2005, 12:13 PM

I believe that your approach had a low likelyhood of success. It would have been better if you started out simplier, perhaps a joke/sarcasm as she passed by then that could lead you into introducing yourself. Since she lives in the same dorm you are gonna see her around, so there is no sense of urgency.

03-31-2005, 11:34 AM	#1
ninjakid944 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 57	is she interested in me or not really? just curious as to what y'all (especially the girls) think about this. there's this really cute girl that lives down the hall from me in the dorms. i've never really talked to her, but i saw comin in the opposite direction in the hallway today. as i got close to her, i said "excuse me. i know we don't know each other, but do u wanna maybe get together sometime?" she said "umm. well, me and my friends are goin to the bar tonight if u wanna come." i said "oh, that's cool. yea, i always see u around and i been meanin to ask u for a while." then she said "my name's melissa." then i told her mine, then asked if i could give her a call. she said that there's somethin wrong with her phone and she's gonna get a new number in a week or so if i wanna ask then. i said "oh ok. what room u live in." she said "yea, i live down the hall." i thought to myself, "huh? i asked what room. down the hall doesn't help." so i took that as a sign and said "ok, cool. i'll be in touch." she said "ok", i said "take care", then that was it. damn, i wish i could just ask her to hook up cause she might be thinkin i wanna go out with her and be her boyfriend when actually, i don't see her as a girlfriend, i just think she's hot as hell. but askin her to hook up out of the blue like that might offend her, no matter how nice u try and ask. what do y'all think about this girl and whether or not she's interested? thanks a lot. i appreciate it.

03-31-2005, 12:13 PM	#4
Day_Walker Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 4,882	I believe that your approach had a low likelyhood of success. It would have been better if you started out simplier, perhaps a joke/sarcasm as she passed by then that could lead you into introducing yourself. Since she lives in the same dorm you are gonna see her around, so there is no sense of urgency. __________________ "A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong gives it the superficial appearance of being right, and raises at first a formidable outcry in defense of custom. But the tumult soon subsides. Time makes more converts than reason." Thomas Paine "The wise man questions others wisdom because he questions his own, the foolish man because it is different from his own." Leo Stein

03-31-2005, 11:58 AM	#2
SouthernSon Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: TX Gender: Male Age: 32 Posts: 105	A couple things here.... First, I don't think she's interested. Second, it sounds like you came on too strong. I mean, you come straight out of the blue and just ask her out. She doesn't know you from Adam. You need to start in with small talk. For example, you see her coming down the hall and instead of straight up asking her out, start by saying "Hi, you know I see you around here a lot and I just figured you live in the dorm...I've been meaning to introduce myself." (Yes, you already know she lives there, that isn't the point...the point is to make small talk) Then say "I'm ninjakid944"...then she'll reply "Hi I'm Melissa". Then follow-up with something else...I mean heck you're in college, you have PLENTY of things to chat about to make small talk, like what she's majoring in, how does she like her profs...tell her about a prof of yours you hate or can't stand or is terribly hard...warn her never to get in that prof's class...have a laugh over it or something. Near the END of the convo, then ask her something along the lines of "Would you mind at all if maybe I called you up some time...or well, I guess since you live in the dorm so close maybe meet up at snack machine to chat a bit?" Think of something witty because it sounds like you can do that easily. Good luck.

03-31-2005, 12:08 PM	#3
tiger_lilies Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Vancouver, Canada Age: 33 Posts: 705	Nicely put Southernson!