feel depressed but nothing to say

Finchabald · 03-15-2005, 03:20 PM

Im feeling really depressed again at the moment. I could tell one of my friends but none of them are interested. Thing is even if i did say so or i was asked im not sure what i would say. they always say that you should talk out your problems but i actually cant. anyone else been through this. what u do?

BillyJean714 · 03-15-2005, 05:04 PM

The BEST thing that you can do for yourself for now, is to rely on yourself. First, look inward. You need to find out what makes you passionate about life. What are the things that you used to do when you were younger, things that got you out of bed? Playing sports? Drawing? Music? Anything. Get in touch with that person inside. Then, talk to your friends. It's good to be autonomous sometimes! That's when you get to know who you are, and what you truly want. Hang in there k? We all have our moments of saddness. Do what makes you feel happy. Take care!

greenowl88 · 03-15-2005, 05:13 PM

I'm feeling the same way right now. I can't expalin what is really the problem, and I don't know what to do either. I feel like I need to talk to my live-in boyfriend about it, but I don't know exactly what to say is the problem. I'm having doubts about things, and I guess I am feeling under apppreciated.

I guess life just gets to us sometimes, and we just have to be thankful for what we have, and never forget that there are people that care about us.

It'll be ok.

K8tie Kool · 03-15-2005, 09:18 PM

Sometimes when you're depressed, there IS nothing to say. I remember one time in my life, I was so down in the dumps, all I wanted to do was sit outside in the sun and stare at the trees. That's all I was "up" for, and that's pretty much what I needed to do. So I did!

It's okay to check out for awhile, if you do something healthy and not dangerous. I certainly wouldn't go get drunk; that's running away, imho.

You could try some breathing exercises that calm your mind. Then maybe the words will come for what it is that's bothering you. The breathing exercises are simple. Sit in a quiet place and breath from your diaphragm (not from your chest, that's too shallow).

If you want, close your eyes. When a thought pops into your head, just observe it and let it go, like "There's a car horn outside. Hm" then let it go. Return to a focus on your breathing, in and out. The point is to sort of let your brain relax, instead of intensely trying to figure out "why" you're depressed and "What" should you do. Just relax and let it come.

Take care of yourself. I hope that helps.

MetallicAguy · 03-15-2005, 09:33 PM

Basically I turned to God, since I've seen your website, I see your agnostic. Well finch, it isn't going to help. When you see yourself on your breaking point of depression leading to suicide you would have wished you turned to God. If you believe there is no god like that dumb **** Marilyn Manson then what if you visited church. If you ever have...after you pray, you feel enlightened. If you go read a few stories from the Bible, not that piece of **** Satanic Bible, you will feel joy and happiness and peace of mind. God is someone to rely on, patience is key he can heal all problems. If he doesn't for you, obviously your doing something wrong. Go to church, I swear if you pray everyday there will be no sadness. Tell God about your problems, you will be so relieved. Anti-Depressants can't fix depression. Spiritual faith in God can though. I used to have depression, I turned to God and now I never get sad I'm an upbeat happy person. I used to be a heavy pessimist but I couldn't take it anymore because I was losing friends because they couldn't stand how negative I was. Well whatever, just try it out. Obviously from the look your parents didn't enforce ever going to church on a Sunday when you were a kid.

Finchabald · 03-16-2005, 02:50 PM

maybe forcing people to go to church is a problem. i have my own beliefs and i would never turn to your 'god'. Ive been there, then i saw the truth.

03-15-2005, 03:20 PM	#1
Finchabald Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: england Posts: 266	feel depressed but nothing to say Im feeling really depressed again at the moment. I could tell one of my friends but none of them are interested. Thing is even if i did say so or i was asked im not sure what i would say. they always say that you should talk out your problems but i actually cant. anyone else been through this. what u do? __________________ finchabald Still bleeding crimson regrets. check out my website at; www.freewebs.com/finchabald

03-15-2005, 05:13 PM	#3
greenowl88 Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: San Diego, CA Age: 29 Posts: 197	I'm feeling the same way right now. I can't expalin what is really the problem, and I don't know what to do either. I feel like I need to talk to my live-in boyfriend about it, but I don't know exactly what to say is the problem. I'm having doubts about things, and I guess I am feeling under apppreciated. I guess life just gets to us sometimes, and we just have to be thankful for what we have, and never forget that there are people that care about us. It'll be ok. __________________ The Wise Man Can Pick Up A Grain Of Sand And Envision A Whole Universe. The Stupid Man Will Just Lay Down In Some Seaweed And Roll Around Until He's Completely Draped In It. Then He'll Stand Up And Go "Hey, I'm Vine Man." -Jack Handy

03-15-2005, 09:18 PM	#4
K8tie Kool Offline Gold Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 1,551	Sometimes when you're depressed, there IS nothing to say. I remember one time in my life, I was so down in the dumps, all I wanted to do was sit outside in the sun and stare at the trees. That's all I was "up" for, and that's pretty much what I needed to do. So I did! It's okay to check out for awhile, if you do something healthy and not dangerous. I certainly wouldn't go get drunk; that's running away, imho. You could try some breathing exercises that calm your mind. Then maybe the words will come for what it is that's bothering you. The breathing exercises are simple. Sit in a quiet place and breath from your diaphragm (not from your chest, that's too shallow). If you want, close your eyes. When a thought pops into your head, just observe it and let it go, like "There's a car horn outside. Hm" then let it go. Return to a focus on your breathing, in and out. The point is to sort of let your brain relax, instead of intensely trying to figure out "why" you're depressed and "What" should you do. Just relax and let it come. Take care of yourself. I hope that helps. __________________ Believe me, you don't want to be inside my head. It's WAY too busy in there.

03-16-2005, 02:50 PM	#6
Finchabald Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: england Posts: 266	maybe forcing people to go to church is a problem. i have my own beliefs and i would never turn to your 'god'. Ive been there, then i saw the truth. __________________ finchabald Still bleeding crimson regrets. check out my website at; www.freewebs.com/finchabald

03-15-2005, 05:04 PM	#2
BillyJean714 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: SoCal Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 775	The BEST thing that you can do for yourself for now, is to rely on yourself. First, look inward. You need to find out what makes you passionate about life. What are the things that you used to do when you were younger, things that got you out of bed? Playing sports? Drawing? Music? Anything. Get in touch with that person inside. Then, talk to your friends. It's good to be autonomous sometimes! That's when you get to know who you are, and what you truly want. Hang in there k? We all have our moments of saddness. Do what makes you feel happy. Take care!

03-15-2005, 09:33 PM	#5
MetallicAguy Offline Silver Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Age: 19 Posts: 2,159	Basically I turned to God, since I've seen your website, I see your agnostic. Well finch, it isn't going to help. When you see yourself on your breaking point of depression leading to suicide you would have wished you turned to God. If you believe there is no god like that dumb ** Marilyn Manson then what if you visited church. If you ever have...after you pray, you feel enlightened. If you go read a few stories from the Bible, not that piece of ** Satanic Bible, you will feel joy and happiness and peace of mind. God is someone to rely on, patience is key he can heal all problems. If he doesn't for you, obviously your doing something wrong. Go to church, I swear if you pray everyday there will be no sadness. Tell God about your problems, you will be so relieved. Anti-Depressants can't fix depression. Spiritual faith in God can though. I used to have depression, I turned to God and now I never get sad I'm an upbeat happy person. I used to be a heavy pessimist but I couldn't take it anymore because I was losing friends because they couldn't stand how negative I was. Well whatever, just try it out. Obviously from the look your parents didn't enforce ever going to church on a Sunday when you were a kid.