Some answers please.

leah_mac · 02-20-2005, 04:03 PM

Hi, I am 15 and as all teenagers I hate where I live. I was wondering if I wanted to move out when i was 16, would my parents have to give me money every month? And I'd have to get their permission, right? Someone please write me back with these answers=)

*leah_mac*

bourne · 02-20-2005, 04:07 PM

when u are 16 you can do as you wish but i advise agaisnt it unless you have money comin in from somewhere, they dont have to give you anything. you would either have to ask them for money or get a job.

Doctor Smurf · 02-20-2005, 04:10 PM

Think you hate where you live! I live in the middle of the countryside, one bus a week DURING SCHOOL TIME and my GF lives 20 miles away so we can hardly see eachother. Nearest town = 20miles. Nearest girl = 2miles, and she older than me!
Dan

Ps. Rant over

**annie24** · 02-20-2005, 04:26 PM

oh you are funny. Why should your parents give you money so you can live on your own? You should just be grateful that you even have a house and food and parents who care about you enough to make sure that you have a place to live. I don't know what the laws are in canada, but in the US, parents are responsible for their children until they are 18. A child can fight for legal emancipation if there are extreme circumstances like abuse or neglect. Look, you'll be 18 very very soon. You'll be out on your own then and will have plenty of time to worry about how to pay your own rent and buy your own food. Teenage years suck, get over it. You'll be an adult soon enough.

Doctor Smurf · 02-20-2005, 04:34 PM

Quote:

Teenage years suck

No they dont! Theyre ****** good I think. Sure, theres problems. Im getting a moped when Im 16 (1 year tommorow

) so I can go places (SSSLLLOOOWWWLLLYYY!!!). I know my parents are OK with that.
Dan

**annie24** · 02-20-2005, 04:42 PM

he he he... you're right doctor smurf. Teen years can be great too. They're a really awkward and difficult time for a lot of people though. The key thing is that they're over very quickly. I guess this is good and bad.

leah_mac · 02-20-2005, 07:09 PM

the reason i want to move out is because there is abuse in the house.. my older sister had a place to go when she wanted to move out.. she went with my grandparents but they love below me now.. my aunt takes me in a lot.. but i dont want her to have to do that anymore.. she has her own kid and they have problems and they don't need mine.. so if i had my own place i wouldnt have to go to her place when my parents were drinking or whatever. I dont mean to be ungreatful or anything but ive had enough of my parents and have given them many chances, but my dad keeps hitting me and my mom keeps drinking.. im sorry for anyone who thought i was being selfsih er w/e i should ahve explained the situation better

*leah_mac*

**annie24** · 02-20-2005, 07:13 PM

Oh sorry. This is an entirely different situation altogether. Can you talk to a school counselor about the abuse? As you know, this is not a normal, healthy situation. Yes, you do need to get out of there. Your dad should be in jail. Can you maybe ask an aunt or uncle or cousin or grandparent if you can move in with them? Maybe they can talk to your mom about having her move out of the house, so she doesn't deal with the abuse anymore. I hope you manage to get out of there.

leah_mac · 02-20-2005, 08:57 PM

last year i went to the consuler about everyhting and child services got involed.. it was a mess and tore our family apart.. i have my own consuler now.. only because im not aloud to be in school without one.. the school thinks i inflict cutting and encourage others to do it.. which i promise i dont.. that would be a sick thing to do.. but i cut because of my home.. ive had 5 consulers now..and none of them have gotten me outta the house.. they think its just me and are putting me on anti-depressants. So this is what ive tried so far.. is there something im not doing? or am i over reacting?

*leah_mac*

I_love_rain_hugs_and_you · 02-20-2005, 09:47 PM

Life might really suck, but moving out right now would be a very bad idea. Most people who leave their parents when they are young end up having quite messed up lives. Not all, but many do. Many end up stealing, working as prostitutes, or in prison. You might not end up like that, but it is probably a bad idea still for you to move out.

Why don't you finish your education first so you can get a good job and then you will be able to move to a better area. Where ever you go, you will need to support yourself (don't depend on your parents to support you). So first stay where you are, finish school, get a job, and THEN move out.

Good luck!!!

02-20-2005, 04:03 PM	#1
leah_mac Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: canada Age: 20 Posts: 30	Some answers please. Hi, I am 15 and as all teenagers I hate where I live. I was wondering if I wanted to move out when i was 16, would my parents have to give me money every month? And I'd have to get their permission, right? Someone please write me back with these answers=) leah_mac __________________ leah mac

02-20-2005, 04:10 PM	#3
Doctor Smurf Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Wales, UK Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 209	Think you hate where you live! I live in the middle of the countryside, one bus a week DURING SCHOOL TIME and my GF lives 20 miles away so we can hardly see eachother. Nearest town = 20miles. Nearest girl = 2miles, and she older than me! Dan Ps. Rant over __________________ An eye for an eye, and soon the whole world is blind - Mahatma Gandhi

02-20-2005, 07:09 PM	#7
leah_mac Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: canada Age: 20 Posts: 30	the reason i want to move out is because there is abuse in the house.. my older sister had a place to go when she wanted to move out.. she went with my grandparents but they love below me now.. my aunt takes me in a lot.. but i dont want her to have to do that anymore.. she has her own kid and they have problems and they don't need mine.. so if i had my own place i wouldnt have to go to her place when my parents were drinking or whatever. I dont mean to be ungreatful or anything but ive had enough of my parents and have given them many chances, but my dad keeps hitting me and my mom keeps drinking.. im sorry for anyone who thought i was being selfsih er w/e i should ahve explained the situation better leah_mac __________________ leah mac

02-20-2005, 08:57 PM	#9
leah_mac Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: canada Age: 20 Posts: 30	last year i went to the consuler about everyhting and child services got involed.. it was a mess and tore our family apart.. i have my own consuler now.. only because im not aloud to be in school without one.. the school thinks i inflict cutting and encourage others to do it.. which i promise i dont.. that would be a sick thing to do.. but i cut because of my home.. ive had 5 consulers now..and none of them have gotten me outta the house.. they think its just me and are putting me on anti-depressants. So this is what ive tried so far.. is there something im not doing? or am i over reacting? leah_mac __________________ leah mac

02-20-2005, 04:07 PM	#2
bourne Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 81	when u are 16 you can do as you wish but i advise agaisnt it unless you have money comin in from somewhere, they dont have to give you anything. you would either have to ask them for money or get a job.

02-20-2005, 04:26 PM	#4
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,824	oh you are funny. Why should your parents give you money so you can live on your own? You should just be grateful that you even have a house and food and parents who care about you enough to make sure that you have a place to live. I don't know what the laws are in canada, but in the US, parents are responsible for their children until they are 18. A child can fight for legal emancipation if there are extreme circumstances like abuse or neglect. Look, you'll be 18 very very soon. You'll be out on your own then and will have plenty of time to worry about how to pay your own rent and buy your own food. Teenage years suck, get over it. You'll be an adult soon enough.

02-20-2005, 04:42 PM	#6
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,824	he he he... you're right doctor smurf. Teen years can be great too. They're a really awkward and difficult time for a lot of people though. The key thing is that they're over very quickly. I guess this is good and bad.

02-20-2005, 07:13 PM	#8
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,824	Oh sorry. This is an entirely different situation altogether. Can you talk to a school counselor about the abuse? As you know, this is not a normal, healthy situation. Yes, you do need to get out of there. Your dad should be in jail. Can you maybe ask an aunt or uncle or cousin or grandparent if you can move in with them? Maybe they can talk to your mom about having her move out of the house, so she doesn't deal with the abuse anymore. I hope you manage to get out of there.

02-20-2005, 09:47 PM	#10
I_love_rain_hugs_and_you Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Age: 26 Posts: 588	Life might really suck, but moving out right now would be a very bad idea. Most people who leave their parents when they are young end up having quite messed up lives. Not all, but many do. Many end up stealing, working as prostitutes, or in prison. You might not end up like that, but it is probably a bad idea still for you to move out. Why don't you finish your education first so you can get a good job and then you will be able to move to a better area. Where ever you go, you will need to support yourself (don't depend on your parents to support you). So first stay where you are, finish school, get a job, and THEN move out. Good luck!!!