i lost ny brother.. havent seen him for 7 yrs.

aelynn'ryelis of greensky · 02-03-2005, 08:56 PM

ok i wasnt to sure about where to put this so i out it here.

ok i'm going to get straight to the point here. the last time i ever saw my older brothe was when i was 8 and it was at my sisters wedding.well i'm 15 now and i havent seen him for 7 years. i tried to get my sister and dad to find him for me but my sister is just about as influenced about finding him as a bug would be at trying to find a spider. and i think my dad really doesnt care.i miss him a lot and i miss have a brother around so if anyone has a website i can go to to find him of anything that can put me on the right track to finding him i would be very greatful for it. and please dont just read this and say its no big deal because it is to me and i would really really love to hear from him again. thanx for your help

DN · 02-03-2005, 08:58 PM

I don't think anybody would say it's no big deal because it obviously is to you.

Try googling his name and see what comes up.

**melrich** · 02-03-2005, 09:39 PM

Yeah I would have thought it was a huge deal....losing your brother. Tell us a bit more about how he goty "lost"? Did he run away? Does he want to be found?

If he kept his name I would not have thought it would be to hard to find him, does he have a common name? (don't post it here). You could try googling him as DN suggests although the vast majority of people don't come up when you google their name.

What about speaking to his old friends or acquaintances, surely he must have kept in touch with someone. Play detective and call around the people he knew. It may be a start.

If he doesn't want to be found I think it will be hard to track him down.

aelynn'ryelis of greensky · 02-03-2005, 09:42 PM

well i dont know anyone he would have cept in touch with. he didnt run away like that it was at my sisters wedding and he got sick i guess and him and some of his friends left to go home. huh to think he didnt even say goodbye.

**melrich** · 02-03-2005, 09:45 PM

That sounds very strange! He got sick at your sis's wedding, decided to go home and was never seen again? How old was he then? Were the police contacted?

What about the friends who went home with him from the wedding, have you ever been able to speak to them?

aelynn'ryelis of greensky · 02-03-2005, 09:49 PM

he was 20 something then and no the police werent contacted noone really seemed to care much if they saw him again or not. he got really really drunk i guess so he went back to my sisters house and then went home from there and no i didnt even know who his friends were.

DN · 02-03-2005, 09:54 PM

I imagine there was a family fight to cause all this to happen. If you were only 8 at the time you may not have been told the whole story so proceed with caution, he could be bad news; drugs, alcohol, crime etc. It is equally possible none of that applies but just be careful.

You could try saying to your sister and/or father (separately) that you want to find him but promise not to involve them if they don't want to know him.

Good luck.

**melrich** · 02-03-2005, 09:55 PM

Ok. So it is likely he just took off somewhere himself. Left his past behind. I guess you have to assume he has kept the same name unless you know that he was hiding from the law or something.

Did he leave any personal stuff behind that may give you clues?

I am not in the US so i do not know the names of the missing persons agencies there but perhaps you could find such a place and post his name as missing and see what comes of that?

Maybe sit down with your Dad and explain how important it is to you that you find him and get him to help you. What about your mum? Is she around to be able to ask?

aelynn'ryelis of greensky · 02-03-2005, 10:00 PM

my mom isnt his mom i guess i shoulda told you all that before but i have told my dad and i onistly dont think there was a family fight plus my dad was in jail when my sis got maried. any ways i have told my dad to get a hold og my bros mom or any other family he knows but he doesnt seem to anctious about it.

DN · 02-03-2005, 10:07 PM

do you know where your brother's Mom is - maybe she knows and will help

02-03-2005, 08:56 PM	#1
aelynn'ryelis of greensky Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: california Age: 20 Posts: 46	i lost ny brother.. havent seen him for 7 yrs. ok i wasnt to sure about where to put this so i out it here. ok i'm going to get straight to the point here. the last time i ever saw my older brothe was when i was 8 and it was at my sisters wedding.well i'm 15 now and i havent seen him for 7 years. i tried to get my sister and dad to find him for me but my sister is just about as influenced about finding him as a bug would be at trying to find a spider. and i think my dad really doesnt care.i miss him a lot and i miss have a brother around so if anyone has a website i can go to to find him of anything that can put me on the right track to finding him i would be very greatful for it. and please dont just read this and say its no big deal because it is to me and i would really really love to hear from him again. thanx for your help

02-03-2005, 08:58 PM	#2
DN Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,439	I don't think anybody would say it's no big deal because it obviously is to you. Try googling his name and see what comes up. __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

02-03-2005, 09:54 PM	#7
DN Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,439	I imagine there was a family fight to cause all this to happen. If you were only 8 at the time you may not have been told the whole story so proceed with caution, he could be bad news; drugs, alcohol, crime etc. It is equally possible none of that applies but just be careful. You could try saying to your sister and/or father (separately) that you want to find him but promise not to involve them if they don't want to know him. Good luck. __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

02-03-2005, 10:07 PM	#10
DN Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,439	do you know where your brother's Mom is - maybe she knows and will help __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

02-03-2005, 09:39 PM	#3
melrich Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Gender: Male Posts: 8,498	Yeah I would have thought it was a huge deal....losing your brother. Tell us a bit more about how he goty "lost"? Did he run away? Does he want to be found? If he kept his name I would not have thought it would be to hard to find him, does he have a common name? (don't post it here). You could try googling him as DN suggests although the vast majority of people don't come up when you google their name. What about speaking to his old friends or acquaintances, surely he must have kept in touch with someone. Play detective and call around the people he knew. It may be a start. If he doesn't want to be found I think it will be hard to track him down.

02-03-2005, 09:42 PM	#4
aelynn'ryelis of greensky Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: california Age: 20 Posts: 46	well i dont know anyone he would have cept in touch with. he didnt run away like that it was at my sisters wedding and he got sick i guess and him and some of his friends left to go home. huh to think he didnt even say goodbye.

02-03-2005, 09:45 PM	#5
melrich Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Gender: Male Posts: 8,498	That sounds very strange! He got sick at your sis's wedding, decided to go home and was never seen again? How old was he then? Were the police contacted? What about the friends who went home with him from the wedding, have you ever been able to speak to them?

02-03-2005, 09:49 PM	#6
aelynn'ryelis of greensky Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: california Age: 20 Posts: 46	he was 20 something then and no the police werent contacted noone really seemed to care much if they saw him again or not. he got really really drunk i guess so he went back to my sisters house and then went home from there and no i didnt even know who his friends were.

02-03-2005, 09:55 PM	#8
melrich Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Gender: Male Posts: 8,498	Ok. So it is likely he just took off somewhere himself. Left his past behind. I guess you have to assume he has kept the same name unless you know that he was hiding from the law or something. Did he leave any personal stuff behind that may give you clues? I am not in the US so i do not know the names of the missing persons agencies there but perhaps you could find such a place and post his name as missing and see what comes of that? Maybe sit down with your Dad and explain how important it is to you that you find him and get him to help you. What about your mum? Is she around to be able to ask?

02-03-2005, 10:00 PM	#9
aelynn'ryelis of greensky Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: california Age: 20 Posts: 46	my mom isnt his mom i guess i shoulda told you all that before but i have told my dad and i onistly dont think there was a family fight plus my dad was in jail when my sis got maried. any ways i have told my dad to get a hold og my bros mom or any other family he knows but he doesnt seem to anctious about it.