starnge. I'm feeling fat

xXillusion · 01-22-2005, 07:54 PM

What's my problem? I'm 5.74; 137 lbs, and I've been this way for 2 years. I know I have a perfect body, but recently I've started seeing myself as fat person even though I weigh the same 137 lbs. I can't understand why this is happening. I'm not a silly amateur girl, I'm going to be 18 next saturday! The only time I though I was fat was at 14, when I was 145 lbs.. I guess it was abit of baby fat... I just lost it all without an effort.

any ideas?

69_king · 01-22-2005, 08:17 PM

could you somehow post a picture or something so that we can all tell you that you are not fat?!

Your body does tend to feel fatter or, more precisely, flabbier as you age but at 17 you should probably not be experiencing this too much yet.

DN · 01-22-2005, 08:27 PM

be very careful - the feelings you describe are the first symptoms of anorexia.

Anorexics literally see themselves as fat when they are anything but - I have seen a girl who was almost skeletal but when she looked in the mirror she saw a fat person. She would not be convinced that she was not fat. It was one of the saddest and most pathetic sights I have ever seen and she eventually died of starvation.

If you continue to see yourself this way, I cannot urge you strongly enough to get help. Very few anorexics have ever got better without professional help, so please do youself (and us) a favour and get help.

Good luck

From_Now_On · 01-22-2005, 08:31 PM

Hey there,
I don't exactly know what to say...but I thought it might help you to know you are not alone? I have been having the same issue lately. I am also somwhere inbetween 5 ft 7 and 5 ft 8. I weigh somewhere inbetween 130 and 140. I've always been considered 'skinny' and I too am also not one of those girls who is constantly silly over these kinds of things. But lately...I have been having the feeling that I am fat. I don't make a big scene out of it...but it really gets at me and I don't know exactly why. Actually, just last night I was with my boyfriend and he kept wrapping his arms around me and saying: "I can touch my elbows behind your back, you are so tiny". I know that should kind of be a compliment I think...and I know I have trouble accepting compliments anyway...but...I almost found myself more self-conscious about this observation of his than happy about it. And earlier that night he had been letting me lean against him and had his arms over my stomach and I felt a little akward because I didn't want him to feel how "fat" I was. Maybe it's just the media...maybe it's because we are just starting to develop actual 'bodies'. (I also am 17). Maybe it has to do with things people might have said just to be mean? I know my step mom tried to make me feel like I was fat (she's a big lady and she often tries to belittle me in any way she can...and I know that's all it is...but it still gets to me I guess?). I think it's all just a normal part of growing up and growing into your body. If we try not to focus on it too much...I think it will eventually pass.

Best of luck to you, hope i was some help...

Strictly4MyGrind · 01-22-2005, 08:32 PM

DN is absolutly right you have the symptons of anorexia so get some help now.....

DN · 01-22-2005, 08:46 PM

From_Now_On: the same post I wrote before applies to you.

If you know you are not fat but some part of your brain says you are then something is not making sense in your head.

It's as if you see something that is not there, an illusion. You know that it is not real but you still see it. And other people are confirming that what you see is an illusion. That means there is something going on inside that you need to get sorted out.

Think of it in the same way as if something was not right with your body. You would go see a doctor, right? This is the same - go see a mind doctor and get yourself put right.

xXillusion · 01-22-2005, 08:54 PM

nah, I'm not stupid enough to stop eating. I mean I will try to eat less fatty and sweet food (like junk food, snacks, pies) but I'm in love with other foods! There are so many great foods and not eating them means not living.

anyways.. I want to start running once it gets warmer, a promise I made last year. On the first day of my "plan" a siketa (how do u spell them? I rofgot, lol) fell on my back and I was so grossed out that I run straight to shower and stayed there for like an hour. I tried to stay indoors until they died.
Well this year I have nothing to be afraid of. Maybe I feel fat because it's winter and bodies are supposed to get fat by winter, right?

sorry I don't have a recent picture that'll show how fat I am or not. The main problem is my stomach - which has very little fat and never sticks out. I just struggle with constipation so constantly eating fiber blows my stomach. I know it's not fat but I see "big" in the mirror and I don't like that.

Another problem - my legs. They're not fat, but not skinny either. For my body type I think I'm supposed to have legs like that. You know. They're not dead straight where they start.. There is like a little curve..

blah I hope I made sence

DN · 01-22-2005, 09:05 PM

I think it's 'cicada'

xXillusion · 01-22-2005, 09:06 PM

yeah that... aren't they gross? yuck

DN · 01-22-2005, 09:07 PM

especially when they are fat!!!

But I bet you are not - and curves on a girl are great and supposed to be there.

01-22-2005, 07:54 PM	#1
xXillusion Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Age: 22 Posts: 47	starnge. I'm feeling fat What's my problem? I'm 5.74; 137 lbs, and I've been this way for 2 years. I know I have a perfect body, but recently I've started seeing myself as fat person even though I weigh the same 137 lbs. I can't understand why this is happening. I'm not a silly amateur girl, I'm going to be 18 next saturday! The only time I though I was fat was at 14, when I was 145 lbs.. I guess it was abit of baby fat... I just lost it all without an effort. any ideas?

01-22-2005, 08:27 PM	#3
DN Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,439	be very careful - the feelings you describe are the first symptoms of anorexia. Anorexics literally see themselves as fat when they are anything but - I have seen a girl who was almost skeletal but when she looked in the mirror she saw a fat person. She would not be convinced that she was not fat. It was one of the saddest and most pathetic sights I have ever seen and she eventually died of starvation. If you continue to see yourself this way, I cannot urge you strongly enough to get help. Very few anorexics have ever got better without professional help, so please do youself (and us) a favour and get help. Good luck __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

01-22-2005, 08:31 PM	#4
From_Now_On Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Michigan Posts: 369	Re: starnge. I'm feeling fat Hey there, I don't exactly know what to say...but I thought it might help you to know you are not alone? I have been having the same issue lately. I am also somwhere inbetween 5 ft 7 and 5 ft 8. I weigh somewhere inbetween 130 and 140. I've always been considered 'skinny' and I too am also not one of those girls who is constantly silly over these kinds of things. But lately...I have been having the feeling that I am fat. I don't make a big scene out of it...but it really gets at me and I don't know exactly why. Actually, just last night I was with my boyfriend and he kept wrapping his arms around me and saying: "I can touch my elbows behind your back, you are so tiny". I know that should kind of be a compliment I think...and I know I have trouble accepting compliments anyway...but...I almost found myself more self-conscious about this observation of his than happy about it. And earlier that night he had been letting me lean against him and had his arms over my stomach and I felt a little akward because I didn't want him to feel how "fat" I was. Maybe it's just the media...maybe it's because we are just starting to develop actual 'bodies'. (I also am 17). Maybe it has to do with things people might have said just to be mean? I know my step mom tried to make me feel like I was fat (she's a big lady and she often tries to belittle me in any way she can...and I know that's all it is...but it still gets to me I guess?). I think it's all just a normal part of growing up and growing into your body. If we try not to focus on it too much...I think it will eventually pass. Best of luck to you, hope i was some help...

01-22-2005, 08:46 PM	#6
DN Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,439	From_Now_On: the same post I wrote before applies to you. If you know you are not fat but some part of your brain says you are then something is not making sense in your head. It's as if you see something that is not there, an illusion. You know that it is not real but you still see it. And other people are confirming that what you see is an illusion. That means there is something going on inside that you need to get sorted out. Think of it in the same way as if something was not right with your body. You would go see a doctor, right? This is the same - go see a mind doctor and get yourself put right. __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

01-22-2005, 09:05 PM	#8
DN Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,439	I think it's 'cicada' __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

01-22-2005, 08:17 PM	#2
69_king Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Age: 30 Posts: 222	could you somehow post a picture or something so that we can all tell you that you are not fat?! Your body does tend to feel fatter or, more precisely, flabbier as you age but at 17 you should probably not be experiencing this too much yet.

01-22-2005, 08:32 PM	#5
Strictly4MyGrind Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: A Ghetto In The U.K Posts: 360	DN is absolutly right you have the symptons of anorexia so get some help now.....

01-22-2005, 08:54 PM	#7
xXillusion Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Age: 22 Posts: 47	nah, I'm not stupid enough to stop eating. I mean I will try to eat less fatty and sweet food (like junk food, snacks, pies) but I'm in love with other foods! There are so many great foods and not eating them means not living. anyways.. I want to start running once it gets warmer, a promise I made last year. On the first day of my "plan" a siketa (how do u spell them? I rofgot, lol) fell on my back and I was so grossed out that I run straight to shower and stayed there for like an hour. I tried to stay indoors until they died. Well this year I have nothing to be afraid of. Maybe I feel fat because it's winter and bodies are supposed to get fat by winter, right? sorry I don't have a recent picture that'll show how fat I am or not. The main problem is my stomach - which has very little fat and never sticks out. I just struggle with constipation so constantly eating fiber blows my stomach. I know it's not fat but I see "big" in the mirror and I don't like that. Another problem - my legs. They're not fat, but not skinny either. For my body type I think I'm supposed to have legs like that. You know. They're not dead straight where they start.. There is like a little curve.. blah I hope I made sence

01-22-2005, 09:06 PM	#9
xXillusion Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Age: 22 Posts: 47	yeah that... aren't they gross? yuck

01-22-2005, 09:07 PM	#10
DN Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,439	especially when they are fat!!! But I bet you are not - and curves on a girl are great and supposed to be there. __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".