What do you do when you know there's something still there?

HolliwoodChic · 11-06-2009, 05:40 PM

What do you do when you know there's something still there?
Um, recently my boyfriend & I of 5 months have broken up. I absolutely love him .. always will, regardless. I broke up with him due to the way I was treating him when I knew he deserved better. I asked him to give me some time to get myself together so I could be the best girlfriend for him. Unfortunately, I pushed him away even more when we broke up because we were still talking. He had a best friend that came along and I didn't trust her. I acted extremely jealous.

We officially broke up on Tuesday night.

Now, he had sex with his best friend yesterday. It broke my heart, I told him it did. But I told him I couldn't change the past and I have to try and get over him. And he constantly asks me "why weren't you like this when we were together?" -- [I acted consistently immature throughout the ending of the relationship because I always thought he would be here.]

Now he tells me every day he loves me, I'll always be his princess, and nothing will ever change. But it kills me when he tells me this because we're not together. I hate talking to him, yet I love it. I just want him back and I don't know how to get him back because it was initially it was my choice to break up . . .

What do I do ?

Mr Taylor · 11-06-2009, 05:52 PM

if hes telling you that he loves you and your his princess
i think if you just ask him weather or not you want to get back togeather he will most porbably say yes.
from what im reading anyway ;]

DadaJones · 11-06-2009, 05:52 PM

You've got to find a stable rythym to the relationship or all this internal drama gets exhausting...you might have to make him trust you in small steps.

jellybaby41 · 11-06-2009, 07:14 PM

If you understand where you went wrong and you think you can learn from your mistakes ... then tell him as such and tell him you want him back.

glegend · 11-06-2009, 08:00 PM

You try to drown out the feeling and the pain to be able to move on if thats what you want to do. But don't tell yourself that you don't care when you really do.

Scorchio2211 · 11-08-2009, 03:56 PM

Initiate no contact. He'll miss you. At the moment, you're letting him have his cake and eat it.

11-06-2009, 05:40 PM	#1
HolliwoodChic Offline Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1	What do you do when you know there's something still there? What do you do when you know there's something still there? Um, recently my boyfriend & I of 5 months have broken up. I absolutely love him .. always will, regardless. I broke up with him due to the way I was treating him when I knew he deserved better. I asked him to give me some time to get myself together so I could be the best girlfriend for him. Unfortunately, I pushed him away even more when we broke up because we were still talking. He had a best friend that came along and I didn't trust her. I acted extremely jealous. We officially broke up on Tuesday night. Now, he had sex with his best friend yesterday. It broke my heart, I told him it did. But I told him I couldn't change the past and I have to try and get over him. And he constantly asks me "why weren't you like this when we were together?" -- [I acted consistently immature throughout the ending of the relationship because I always thought he would be here.] Now he tells me every day he loves me, I'll always be his princess, and nothing will ever change. But it kills me when he tells me this because we're not together. I hate talking to him, yet I love it. I just want him back and I don't know how to get him back because it was initially it was my choice to break up . . . What do I do ?

11-06-2009, 08:00 PM	#5
glegend Offline Gold Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 2,429	You try to drown out the feeling and the pain to be able to move on if thats what you want to do. But don't tell yourself that you don't care when you really do. __________________ The car doesn't make the driver, the driver makes the car It's not the ride, it's the rider.

11-06-2009, 05:52 PM	#2
Mr Taylor Online Bronze Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Hertfordshire,England Gender: Male Posts: 121	if hes telling you that he loves you and your his princess i think if you just ask him weather or not you want to get back togeather he will most porbably say yes. from what im reading anyway ;]

11-06-2009, 05:52 PM	#3
DadaJones Offline Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: nyc Gender: Male Posts: 340	You've got to find a stable rythym to the relationship or all this internal drama gets exhausting...you might have to make him trust you in small steps.

11-06-2009, 07:14 PM	#4
jellybaby41 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 41 Posts: 812	If you understand where you went wrong and you think you can learn from your mistakes ... then tell him as such and tell him you want him back.

11-08-2009, 03:56 PM	#6
Scorchio2211 Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 11	Initiate no contact. He'll miss you. At the moment, you're letting him have his cake and eat it.