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11-06-2009, 04:52 PM
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My Dating nightmare: one man's inner conflict
I have had a lot of relationships, many long term and many more short term.
All of them failed. Women have always found me attractive. I have always found them attractive. They tell me I am good looking, smart, funny, etc. I meet them easily, I ask them about their personality and their likes. They open up to me and I can literally, see the endorphines being released. Next thing I know, I am chemically transformed into nothing less than an animal, with only one thought on my mind. After I have satisfied my need to procreate, my personality changes. I am no longer a gentleman, nor do I care about her feelings or needs. Feel free to comment. But I had to post this because sometimes it helps to write things out and vent a little. Last edited by ruserious247; 11-06-2009 at 06:21 PM. Reason: profanity |
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11-06-2009, 05:02 PM
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To me this is easy. Choose to make a diferent choice rather than becoming an animal and acting like a jerk. Lose the "it's out of my control it's all chemicals" attitude. You're a person and therefore even if you have a chemical reaction inside you can choose how to react to those chemicals (if that is indeed what is happening).
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11-06-2009, 05:35 PM
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I think that obviously something provoked this post and while I do not know what the provocation actually was I am hesitant to agree that youre actions are as severe as you make them seem.
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11-06-2009, 05:43 PM
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omg, you're our greatest fear... I don't know what to say, It's so alien to me. I also don't know if you're asking for advice, if you want to change this pattern..
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11-06-2009, 05:48 PM
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I mean, you don't have to choose to be a d-bag, right? What are you seeking in a relationship?
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11-06-2009, 06:23 PM
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To be honest I have always been intimidated by women. I can converse and talk all day but when it comes to opening up and letting them get to know me I am quite scared.
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11-06-2009, 06:28 PM
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I think you just answered your own question. So work on your fears then. Like we all need to do.
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11-06-2009, 06:28 PM
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That makes no sense - intimidated by an entire gender? Maybe look at the types of women you pursue - maybe those personality types don't suit you. And, take baby steps in opening up. What exactly do you mean by opening up?
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11-06-2009, 06:31 PM
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11-06-2009, 06:32 PM
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