Back together, problem?

atmosphere88 · 11-08-2009, 07:51 AM

Hey..me and my ex just got back together after having been in a LDR (we seen each other roughly 1-2 times a week at the most), living about 130 miles from one another...We txt, call every day...

She broke up with me in February, kept contactin me afterwards, then i came back from a summer away overseas and she came up and poured her heart out, wanting to get back together...So we're back together, 3 weeks now...

Anyway, she came up the first week, i went down to hers the next, and then i went down there twice again...When we parted last week i was leaving it to her to suggest when we meet again, but she never did, and still hasnt mentioned meeting up! When asking me to get back together she said she wants it so bad, missed me so much, needs me...will try harder to make it work, but it seems to me that making a plan to see me and giving me a set date would be nice you know...

I dont know whether or not she is waiting for me to say something about it, but i think it should be her, since ive been there 3 times compared to her one visit...We're talking normally on the phone, facebook and texting, but im finding myself pissed off at her and being a bit short with her as this goes on...

Any advice on what i should do? Should i cease to contact her and let her contact me, let her know that way that im not particularly happy?

Thanks everyone

D!!

NANA11 · 11-08-2009, 08:01 AM

Maybe its all a bit much to take in, you have seen her three times in the past three weeks! Just continue to be there for her as a friend and just talk to her normally without getting upset this early on because what good will that do? I am sure she will arrange another time to see you she is the one that wanted you back in the first place, dont give her reason to question her decision.

Crazyaboutdogs · 11-08-2009, 08:44 AM

I would give it this week and see if she says anything about getting together. If not, then call her up and invite her over to your place the following weekend. Then guage her reaction. If she readily agrees then when she comes to see you casually mention that you would like it if she took some initiative and suggested getting together. If she makes excuses as to why she can't come to see you that weekend then be courteous, tell her that when she wants to get together, to give you a call. Don't spend a long time talking to her..just back away and collect your thoughts. Then don't initiate any more calls, let her come to you. Is this the kind of behaviour she exhibited the first time around in the relationship?

atmosphere88 · 11-08-2009, 08:54 AM

thanks crazyaboutdogs!!Great name by the way!!!...in the first relationship it happened to be me making alotta the effort, partly because my college hours were far less than hers and i had a car so it was easier, but this time round its about equal college wise and she has access to a car while i dont, plus ive broken my arm and its hard to get around you know...

Yesterday on the phone she said "is everything ok?", because i said while we were texting "can i call u later or something"...partly because i was a bitt annoyed she hadnt mentioned meeting up but also because i feel that constant texting/facebook chat can take away from a more personal call...

I'll wait and see if she mentions meeting up, and when shes up il mention it to her that it kinda bothered me how long she left it to letting me know...after all shes the one who came back to me and wanted to give it another chance

11-08-2009, 07:51 AM	#1
atmosphere88 Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 46	Back together, problem? Hey..me and my ex just got back together after having been in a LDR (we seen each other roughly 1-2 times a week at the most), living about 130 miles from one another...We txt, call every day... She broke up with me in February, kept contactin me afterwards, then i came back from a summer away overseas and she came up and poured her heart out, wanting to get back together...So we're back together, 3 weeks now... Anyway, she came up the first week, i went down to hers the next, and then i went down there twice again...When we parted last week i was leaving it to her to suggest when we meet again, but she never did, and still hasnt mentioned meeting up! When asking me to get back together she said she wants it so bad, missed me so much, needs me...will try harder to make it work, but it seems to me that making a plan to see me and giving me a set date would be nice you know... I dont know whether or not she is waiting for me to say something about it, but i think it should be her, since ive been there 3 times compared to her one visit...We're talking normally on the phone, facebook and texting, but im finding myself pissed off at her and being a bit short with her as this goes on... Any advice on what i should do? Should i cease to contact her and let her contact me, let her know that way that im not particularly happy? Thanks everyone D!!

11-08-2009, 08:01 AM	#2
NANA11 Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 4	Maybe its all a bit much to take in, you have seen her three times in the past three weeks! Just continue to be there for her as a friend and just talk to her normally without getting upset this early on because what good will that do? I am sure she will arrange another time to see you she is the one that wanted you back in the first place, dont give her reason to question her decision.

11-08-2009, 08:44 AM	#3
Crazyaboutdogs Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 15,631	I would give it this week and see if she says anything about getting together. If not, then call her up and invite her over to your place the following weekend. Then guage her reaction. If she readily agrees then when she comes to see you casually mention that you would like it if she took some initiative and suggested getting together. If she makes excuses as to why she can't come to see you that weekend then be courteous, tell her that when she wants to get together, to give you a call. Don't spend a long time talking to her..just back away and collect your thoughts. Then don't initiate any more calls, let her come to you. Is this the kind of behaviour she exhibited the first time around in the relationship?

11-08-2009, 08:54 AM	#4
atmosphere88 Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 46	thanks crazyaboutdogs!!Great name by the way!!!...in the first relationship it happened to be me making alotta the effort, partly because my college hours were far less than hers and i had a car so it was easier, but this time round its about equal college wise and she has access to a car while i dont, plus ive broken my arm and its hard to get around you know... Yesterday on the phone she said "is everything ok?", because i said while we were texting "can i call u later or something"...partly because i was a bitt annoyed she hadnt mentioned meeting up but also because i feel that constant texting/facebook chat can take away from a more personal call... I'll wait and see if she mentions meeting up, and when shes up il mention it to her that it kinda bothered me how long she left it to letting me know...after all shes the one who came back to me and wanted to give it another chance