Not Quiet Sure What to Do!!!!

NANA11 · 11-08-2009, 07:17 AM

It was about a month ago now when my 22 girlfriend of 2.5 years told me that she need time for herself and wanted to go on a break!(i am 23) At first i was devastated, we spoke once that week on the phone and sent a few text messages back and forth (me being the one initiating the contact). I asked to meet her as she is currently in London and i am in Manchester; it was the weirdest encounter as my girlfriend just seemed to have change and there was emptiness between us. She seemed fine we went for dinner and talked but not about the relationship.

It was after when i was dropping her home that i got a bit emotional and so did she but she said its something she has to do for her and ended up staying the whole night in the car and talking. Nothing had been resolved but even more so my ex seemed to be concreted on her decision. I left to go back up to Manchester and text her that evening saying i understand where your coming from and i just wanna thank you for 2 glorious years we spent together. She sent me a text back saying i will ring you tomorrow.

She rang me and i basically told her that i was going out and to speak to me during the week. I got a text from her on the Tuesday saying i tried to ring you today but you phone was going to answerphone. to which i didn't reply until Thursday and just said i have been busy with work and i hope your ok.

The next time i contacted for was the Monday and we had a normal conversation and asked if she wanted to spend the day together on the Saturday to which she replyed yes. We didnt have any contact until the Friday and once again we had a normal conversation and i ended by saying have a nice weekend and speak to next week, to which she replyed its too much!!! I didn't quite understand what she meant and i asked her why is it too much and she answered because it just is, at which point i ended the conversation.

She then rang me on the Friday night, i was at a house party and straight away started interrogating me where am i, who am i with she then went on to say, do i want to carry on the conversation we were having earlier on today to which i replyed no, she then tells me she never meant to hurt me and i just said i dont see the point in you calling me if your dont wanna talk about how we can sort things out and move forward she said ok and thats the last i have heard from her for 8 days.

Where my worry lies is if she doesnt get in contact with me and by me not being there for her will she find it easier to move on.
I do love her and out realtionship has had its ups and downs but i think that is to be exected from a long distance relationship. I do not see how these problems have arisen last summer (not the one just gone) i went to America for 3 months where she was more than keen to stay together. I just wasnt ready for this at all, the bad thing is i am moving to London this week for good but every time i go down there i hate it because i am not with her.

Any advice would be great so far NC has been 8 days
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11-08-2009, 07:17 AM	#1
NANA11 Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 4	Not Quiet Sure What to Do!!!! It was about a month ago now when my 22 girlfriend of 2.5 years told me that she need time for herself and wanted to go on a break!(i am 23) At first i was devastated, we spoke once that week on the phone and sent a few text messages back and forth (me being the one initiating the contact). I asked to meet her as she is currently in London and i am in Manchester; it was the weirdest encounter as my girlfriend just seemed to have change and there was emptiness between us. She seemed fine we went for dinner and talked but not about the relationship. It was after when i was dropping her home that i got a bit emotional and so did she but she said its something she has to do for her and ended up staying the whole night in the car and talking. Nothing had been resolved but even more so my ex seemed to be concreted on her decision. I left to go back up to Manchester and text her that evening saying i understand where your coming from and i just wanna thank you for 2 glorious years we spent together. She sent me a text back saying i will ring you tomorrow. She rang me and i basically told her that i was going out and to speak to me during the week. I got a text from her on the Tuesday saying i tried to ring you today but you phone was going to answerphone. to which i didn't reply until Thursday and just said i have been busy with work and i hope your ok. The next time i contacted for was the Monday and we had a normal conversation and asked if she wanted to spend the day together on the Saturday to which she replyed yes. We didnt have any contact until the Friday and once again we had a normal conversation and i ended by saying have a nice weekend and speak to next week, to which she replyed its too much!!! I didn't quite understand what she meant and i asked her why is it too much and she answered because it just is, at which point i ended the conversation. She then rang me on the Friday night, i was at a house party and straight away started interrogating me where am i, who am i with she then went on to say, do i want to carry on the conversation we were having earlier on today to which i replyed no, she then tells me she never meant to hurt me and i just said i dont see the point in you calling me if your dont wanna talk about how we can sort things out and move forward she said ok and thats the last i have heard from her for 8 days. Where my worry lies is if she doesnt get in contact with me and by me not being there for her will she find it easier to move on. I do love her and out realtionship has had its ups and downs but i think that is to be exected from a long distance relationship. I do not see how these problems have arisen last summer (not the one just gone) i went to America for 3 months where she was more than keen to stay together. I just wasnt ready for this at all, the bad thing is i am moving to London this week for good but every time i go down there i hate it because i am not with her. Any advice would be great so far NC has been 8 days Edit/Delete Message