Why don't i have a girlfriend?

herro · 11-08-2009, 06:29 AM

I'm a 16 year old guy, i have red hair and i'm probly a medium to skinny build.
i'd say im not the very attractive but im definatley not ugly. i have made out at a few parties but still in year 11 i have never had a girlfriend. All my friends have had girlfriends and i get along well with almost all the girls at my school.
Is there something i'm doing wrong?

Bartok · 11-08-2009, 06:45 AM

My first guess would be that you don't ask them out.

freedom_writer · 11-08-2009, 07:00 AM

i wouldn't worry abut i just yet, your only 16.

but have you asked any girls out? have you liked a girl? If you like a girl, do somethign sweet for her...

AnotherBrokenDoll · 11-08-2009, 07:01 AM

Hmm. See what worries me about posts like this is that you're not saying your interested in someone and want that specific person to be your girlfriend, you just want a girlfriend in general.

Maybe just wait until you find a girl you're interested in. If you are interested in someone, have you told them? Girls are often shy and can be just waiting for the guy to make the first move. If you get along with most of the girls at your school i'm sure a few have had feelings for you and you haven't even noticed.

But really, please don't just go out with someone for the sake of having a girlfriend. Make sure your attracted to them and are actually interested in them too =)

offplanet · 11-08-2009, 09:34 AM

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Originally Posted by AnotherBrokenDoll

Hmm. See what worries me about posts like this is that you're not saying your interested in someone and want that specific person to be your girlfriend, you just want a girlfriend in general.

Maybe just wait until you find a girl you're interested in. If you are interested in someone, have you told them? Girls are often shy and can be just waiting for the guy to make the first move. If you get along with most of the girls at your school i'm sure a few have had feelings for you and you haven't even noticed.

But really, please don't just go out with someone for the sake of having a girlfriend. Make sure your attracted to them and are actually interested in them too =)

Good advice, Brokendoll!

Anyway · 11-08-2009, 10:32 AM

In my experience the best advice I can give is: stop wanting a girlfriend then you'll get one.

papaya · 11-08-2009, 02:17 PM

Dating when you're 16, for the majority of the time, won't turn out into anything in the future. Just keep getting to know more girls as people and stop thinking about dating. Eventuallly it will happen naturally and you'll find someone that likes you for you.

LightbulbSun · 11-08-2009, 03:42 PM

My guess is because you're 16. Wait a few years, and then start dating.

11-08-2009, 06:29 AM	#1
herro Offline Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1	Why don't i have a girlfriend? I'm a 16 year old guy, i have red hair and i'm probly a medium to skinny build. i'd say im not the very attractive but im definatley not ugly. i have made out at a few parties but still in year 11 i have never had a girlfriend. All my friends have had girlfriends and i get along well with almost all the girls at my school. Is there something i'm doing wrong?

11-08-2009, 06:45 AM	#2
Bartok Offline Silver Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 407	My first guess would be that you don't ask them out. __________________ "Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy." - Dale Carnegie

11-08-2009, 07:01 AM	#4
AnotherBrokenDoll Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: In a world you will never know of. Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 1,735	Hmm. See what worries me about posts like this is that you're not saying your interested in someone and want that specific person to be your girlfriend, you just want a girlfriend in general. Maybe just wait until you find a girl you're interested in. If you are interested in someone, have you told them? Girls are often shy and can be just waiting for the guy to make the first move. If you get along with most of the girls at your school i'm sure a few have had feelings for you and you haven't even noticed. But really, please don't just go out with someone for the sake of having a girlfriend. Make sure your attracted to them and are actually interested in them too =) __________________ There are days when i'm ok, And for a moment, For a moment I find hope. But there are days when i'm not ok, And i need your help, So i'm letting go. You should know, You're not on your own, These secrets are walls that keep us alone, I don't know when but i know now, Together we'll make it through somehow, Together we'll make it through somehow.

11-08-2009, 10:32 AM	#6
Anyway Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 276	In my experience the best advice I can give is: stop wanting a girlfriend then you'll get one. __________________ "We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand" -Randy Pausch "Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans." -John Lennon Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. - Albert Einstein

11-08-2009, 03:42 PM	#8
LightbulbSun Offline Gold Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: USA Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 1,053	My guess is because you're 16. Wait a few years, and then start dating. __________________ "Reality is the mirror of your thoughts. Choose well what you put in front of the mirror." - Unknown "It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live." - Albus Dumbledore

11-08-2009, 07:00 AM	#3
freedom_writer Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 53	i wouldn't worry abut i just yet, your only 16. but have you asked any girls out? have you liked a girl? If you like a girl, do somethign sweet for her...

11-08-2009, 02:17 PM	#7
papaya Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 56	Dating when you're 16, for the majority of the time, won't turn out into anything in the future. Just keep getting to know more girls as people and stop thinking about dating. Eventuallly it will happen naturally and you'll find someone that likes you for you.